Sedop
New Member
What's up y'all. I was being toyed with by a woman.
I didn't realize it until recently when she tried to do it again. See she came after me and for a few months it was pretty awesome--we had tons of fun going out to dinner, movies, hikes etc. The sex was first-rate. In the beginning I was on cloud nine but as time passed she started to get nutty on me. She started pushing my buttons and playing mind games. I dealt with it for a while but eventually sent her packing. Weeks later she came back mellow and apologetic. We exchanged the L-word (I felt it, sue me) and our relationship took on a more serious tone. Anyway, she started pressuring me to settle down, move in together, and when I wouldn't relent she cut me off sexually. Like a fool I put up with it. That is until she dumped me! Needless to say, my head was spinning and my feelings were hurt. My self-confidence took a serious hit. I was depressed for weeks. Slowly I started to pull out of it until she called me a few days ago in tears asking me to take her back!
I said no but all the hurt came rushing back. Hurts like hell right now, actually. I started to think that I was missing out on the "love of my life". I was thinking of calling her today and asking to try again until I found this site. After reading a few posts and part of the DJB realized that I am an AFC. I put this woman on a pedestal and it almost ruined me. I have a lot of reading to do and even more mental reprograming.
Long story short, I think this site is going to save me from more pain and frustration. Have any of you gone through something like this? I really hope I'm making the right decision.
Sepod
I didn't realize it until recently when she tried to do it again. See she came after me and for a few months it was pretty awesome--we had tons of fun going out to dinner, movies, hikes etc. The sex was first-rate. In the beginning I was on cloud nine but as time passed she started to get nutty on me. She started pushing my buttons and playing mind games. I dealt with it for a while but eventually sent her packing. Weeks later she came back mellow and apologetic. We exchanged the L-word (I felt it, sue me) and our relationship took on a more serious tone. Anyway, she started pressuring me to settle down, move in together, and when I wouldn't relent she cut me off sexually. Like a fool I put up with it. That is until she dumped me! Needless to say, my head was spinning and my feelings were hurt. My self-confidence took a serious hit. I was depressed for weeks. Slowly I started to pull out of it until she called me a few days ago in tears asking me to take her back!
I said no but all the hurt came rushing back. Hurts like hell right now, actually. I started to think that I was missing out on the "love of my life". I was thinking of calling her today and asking to try again until I found this site. After reading a few posts and part of the DJB realized that I am an AFC. I put this woman on a pedestal and it almost ruined me. I have a lot of reading to do and even more mental reprograming.
Long story short, I think this site is going to save me from more pain and frustration. Have any of you gone through something like this? I really hope I'm making the right decision.
Sepod