I'm dying on the dance floor!

[Jay26]

Hi everyone, great site!

Okay here's the deal, I suck at dancing, well not true, I dance fine but I'm not like an agressive 'go get the chick' kind of dancer.

I can't for the life of me get up the nerve to bump and grind with a chick, not unless she is like waving me in with giant glow sticks or something, and consquently I seem to lose lots of opportunies on the dance floor, cos if you don't move in, someone else does.

Like I get kinda nervous deciding whether to bump and grind with a girl. The worst thing is, they can sense it pretty quick, and then you're history. I HATE HATE HATE being one of those chumps that doesn't make the move but my feet are like frozen, to afraid I'll get closed down I guess, or I guess I just think the girl will pick up on my nervousness, and you know women, they can smell fear a mile off.

I mean I guess you have to exude confidence and move with determination but how the heck do you learn to do that? Alcohol helps a bit but not much.

Do you guys have any tips?, maybe like sites with some moves or something? I gotta fix this cos well it's costing me chicks (I'm a pretty good looking muscular guy otherwise but this is like some kind of phobia for me I think).

Arghh fark it, i just have to do it don't I and learn the hard way I guess.

 

[BruticusMaximus]

I know where you're coming from - I only got the nerve to do this after a woman did it to me.

If you're dancing face to face and the vibe is good then just close in and get your leg in between hers. If you don't want to "grind" then just spin around or something. They'll either love it and dancing 3 feet apart will be a thing of the past, or they'll walk away.

The last girl I tried it on walked away, but I don't care. I felt better about myself because I'd acted on my instincts and found out what I wanted to know. Give it a go!

 

[silverwex]

Alcohol doesnt help much...

Man i was there. Just drink enough til ya feel ya dont give a fvck! BUT DONT drink so much that you're falling all over the place like a moron!

When ya dance after drinking alcohol ya can cut back gradually til ya dont need it to dance/grind whatever!

I learned a good trick. Get a group of mates (say 5) and form a semi circle around a group of girls (4+). Then move in slowly and watch how they react... If they dont mind keep moving in. This is what i did once and then i broke from the semi circle and moved in right behind this chick and start dancing behind her real close. Guess what she did then?!! She turns around and snogs (french kisses) me!

Try it and let me know how it goes mate.

What do the rest of ya think?

 

[bman]

just dance, have fun, make eye contact, and smile and the chicks will come to you.

 

[stormwriter]

Ugh. Dancing. I hate it. The last time i went, my female friend found a chick for me to dance with. I told her upfront that i'm not a good dancer. (read: low confidence, and putting a negative disclaimer on things before they happen)
So, i go dance with her, and i'm giving her space, to be respectful. (read: being a wussy nice guy. They are at a dance club to dance with guys, you idiot!)
Then, she grabs my hand and puts it on her waist. Ok, that was a good sign. Then she kind of starting grinding into me, but i'm still in Mr. Lets-Respect-Women mode, so i avoided the grinding into her.

Long story short, we stop dancing, then i look over a few minutes later and see this short mexican guy GRINDING THE CRAP out of her. (not that there's anything with short mexican guys, but i'm a tall good looking guy, with NO GAME! haha)
He has her pressed up against a railing and was kissing her neck too, and she was smiling. They were doing it for about twenty minutes. The whole time my friends are laughing at me, saying, "isn't that the chick you didn't dirty dance with??? DUDE, IF YOU DON'T DO IT, SOME OTHER GUY WILL!!!"

So, that's my story. I still hate dancing, but its kind of a quick judge of how much confidence you have, how sexy you are, and that dumb myth that, "a guy that moves good on the dance floor is good at sex..."

 

[jwhite17]

First off, get rid of your negative thoughts of dancing. If you hate dancing, what do you think the girl would be thinking that dances with you? Dancing is meant to be fun and don't take it seriously. Also, I used to be afraid to dance with people, and the question I asked myself was, "how can I be able to dance with a girl and not feel embarassed?" I came to the realization that I was afraid to dance because I didn't know how, so I took salsa dance lessons and now I can dance with any girl without being the least bit hesistant. I would suggest you take some dance lessons(salsa, swing, cha-cha, etc), and it will help will tremendously.
Good luck
JW