And I don't know what to do and I'm goin' out of my f$&kin 'mind. GUys, I'm gonna hit the big 4-0 before the end of this year and I can't get a date for sh*t, let alone get in the pink. and I'm doin' EVERYTHING right, at least as far as I can tell according to all the DJ material available to me. I read thre DJ bible, I bought and Doc Love's system, I bought Derek Vitalio's material. I understand and comprehend fully about the inner game and the outer game. I'm new at the outer game, But I have the right attitude. I and I should be doing at least as well as if not better than the AFC's out there. I also read thorougly articles about the nature of female psychology on heretical.com and the evils of the feminist agenda on savethemales.ca . both sites I highly recommend for all DJ's. but anyway......
Since learning the DJ way I have NO PROBLEM talking to babes, really hot babes, and even hot young babes, even at my age. I can get a phone # or email no problem. hangin' out with my buddies they think I am a stud. Yet it never, ever comes to anything.
I expect that of course not every # I get is gonna become a date. but I do expect that if I have a good rap with a girl, and she shows interest, that we will get together. but those times that I do have a good rap, stupid stuff happens, from nowhere, and screws plans up.
After meeting a girl, there is a window of opportunity when she has interest. once it passes, it rarely comes back. So what happens in my case, and in every case, is that plans either fail or never get made due to stupid stuff like bad cellphone connection, or miscomunication or some other glitch, and eventually, even though she and I had originally "connected" when we met, attempts to reconnect become too tedious and I have gone from being "fun" in her subconcious mind to being tedious or difficult, even though it is of no fault of my own.
I have posted questions in the past about my problems with handling phone tag. but after today's incident (which I'm getting to,) I don't know what to make of it. this kind of bullsh*t happens to me EVERY SINGLE TIME. below is just a TYPICAL example. here goes:
I met this girl at a church function. (note: neither she nor I normally attend this church. I had bever seen her before) she's only 21, but showed a bit more interest then I would have expected. OK so far, I'll go with it. I meet other girls there too. (church functions are great place to meet babes)
Called her up about 3-4 days later, she was very happy to hear from me, was on the phone for about a minute, signal broke up before we had a chance to make plans. attempted to call back, I got voice mailed.
sent an email 3-4 days after that, to ask if I could meet her on a sunday afternoon after church. got no reply until Monday, when she apologized profuslely for not getting back to me sooner, apologized again for her bad phone connection, and asked me to call her anytime.
(OK, so she SEEMS to still have interest in me......)
called her the next day, she sounded really happy to hear from me (or so I would think) attempted to make plans for that evening, (no go - she had Youth Group, let out at 10:30 and was 1 hr drive in the opposite direction, so I said skip it) so the we were figuring maybe Sunday @ her church. but the she wanted her mother to come along (which I said would be kinda weird, I can only carry one passenger on my motorcycle) but anyway I was able to extract from here the following intel:
1) she attends church "A" from 10-11:30 and sings in the choir. Mom does NOT attend.
2) she then goes to church "B" for mass from 1 to about 2:30 to 3PM, with mom.
So anyway, conversation continues, we were just discussing Saturday as a possibility when her cellphone connection broke up again. So again, no plans were made.
btw, I made this call from a friend's office. he was present the whole time I while was taking down notes as to where I could track the girl down. I figured I'd just show up at here church "A" unannouced and surprise her.
So.....
Sunday I go to church "A", @ around 10:30. there was no choir, and no her. Pastor said they haven't had a choir since the summer.
later I go to church "B" got there around 2 PM, they DO have a choir, but mass just let out, and she was again MIA.
I KNOW I took my notes down correctly, no doubt, and had my friend there as witness. But I figger, never underestimate the insanity of the female mind. Christian or not, they are all insane. So I figgered I'd go over to church "A", maybe she told me wrong and got "A" and "B" crossed. So I did, got there @ 2:15, but mass already let out. I KNOW she said 2:30 to 3PM.
I figure she's prob'ly across the street at the diner with mom, that's where all the church-goers go after mass. but I do NOT go in, by this time I feel like a stalker and a total loser. I am walking back to my car alone looking and feeling very much out-of-place. I hope to GOD she did not look out the diner window and see me.
Now bear in mind guys, the above reported incedent is TYPICAL for me. Why would she show apparent high interest yet give me bad intel? is she really that stupid or insane? or is she really very clever, knowingly dispensing bad intel for the purpose of blowing me off? If it's not one thing it's another. Always, as with my last posts about phone tag, I end up with nothing. Am I doing something wrong?
Since learning the DJ way I have NO PROBLEM talking to babes, really hot babes, and even hot young babes, even at my age. I can get a phone # or email no problem. hangin' out with my buddies they think I am a stud. Yet it never, ever comes to anything.
I expect that of course not every # I get is gonna become a date. but I do expect that if I have a good rap with a girl, and she shows interest, that we will get together. but those times that I do have a good rap, stupid stuff happens, from nowhere, and screws plans up.
After meeting a girl, there is a window of opportunity when she has interest. once it passes, it rarely comes back. So what happens in my case, and in every case, is that plans either fail or never get made due to stupid stuff like bad cellphone connection, or miscomunication or some other glitch, and eventually, even though she and I had originally "connected" when we met, attempts to reconnect become too tedious and I have gone from being "fun" in her subconcious mind to being tedious or difficult, even though it is of no fault of my own.
I have posted questions in the past about my problems with handling phone tag. but after today's incident (which I'm getting to,) I don't know what to make of it. this kind of bullsh*t happens to me EVERY SINGLE TIME. below is just a TYPICAL example. here goes:
I met this girl at a church function. (note: neither she nor I normally attend this church. I had bever seen her before) she's only 21, but showed a bit more interest then I would have expected. OK so far, I'll go with it. I meet other girls there too. (church functions are great place to meet babes)
Called her up about 3-4 days later, she was very happy to hear from me, was on the phone for about a minute, signal broke up before we had a chance to make plans. attempted to call back, I got voice mailed.
sent an email 3-4 days after that, to ask if I could meet her on a sunday afternoon after church. got no reply until Monday, when she apologized profuslely for not getting back to me sooner, apologized again for her bad phone connection, and asked me to call her anytime.
(OK, so she SEEMS to still have interest in me......)
called her the next day, she sounded really happy to hear from me (or so I would think) attempted to make plans for that evening, (no go - she had Youth Group, let out at 10:30 and was 1 hr drive in the opposite direction, so I said skip it) so the we were figuring maybe Sunday @ her church. but the she wanted her mother to come along (which I said would be kinda weird, I can only carry one passenger on my motorcycle) but anyway I was able to extract from here the following intel:
1) she attends church "A" from 10-11:30 and sings in the choir. Mom does NOT attend.
2) she then goes to church "B" for mass from 1 to about 2:30 to 3PM, with mom.
So anyway, conversation continues, we were just discussing Saturday as a possibility when her cellphone connection broke up again. So again, no plans were made.
btw, I made this call from a friend's office. he was present the whole time I while was taking down notes as to where I could track the girl down. I figured I'd just show up at here church "A" unannouced and surprise her.
So.....
Sunday I go to church "A", @ around 10:30. there was no choir, and no her. Pastor said they haven't had a choir since the summer.
later I go to church "B" got there around 2 PM, they DO have a choir, but mass just let out, and she was again MIA.
I KNOW I took my notes down correctly, no doubt, and had my friend there as witness. But I figger, never underestimate the insanity of the female mind. Christian or not, they are all insane. So I figgered I'd go over to church "A", maybe she told me wrong and got "A" and "B" crossed. So I did, got there @ 2:15, but mass already let out. I KNOW she said 2:30 to 3PM.
I figure she's prob'ly across the street at the diner with mom, that's where all the church-goers go after mass. but I do NOT go in, by this time I feel like a stalker and a total loser. I am walking back to my car alone looking and feeling very much out-of-place. I hope to GOD she did not look out the diner window and see me.
Now bear in mind guys, the above reported incedent is TYPICAL for me. Why would she show apparent high interest yet give me bad intel? is she really that stupid or insane? or is she really very clever, knowingly dispensing bad intel for the purpose of blowing me off? If it's not one thing it's another. Always, as with my last posts about phone tag, I end up with nothing. Am I doing something wrong?
