"I'm born to socialize with guys or men."

[Naughty Fins]

Just as the title says, my gf confused the hell out of me with that line.
I need to decipher the actual meaning, because I don't wanna be with wh0res.

I did set a boundary on her just as we started. "No hanging out with other guys."
For now, she doesn't but everytime I'm with her and one of her guy friends show up it's like I don't even exist.

I'm ready to dump any time. I mean, we've only been together for 1 week :crackup:

 

[insanity is humanity]

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[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

You don't exist of one of her guys friends show up? Dude! Have some self respect for once! Just keep her as a fwb or fvckbuddy. And do what you want. Don't get jealous over her now.

 

[dasein]

1. Where did you get the idea that a woman you've been with a week is "your GF?" Please tell us you didn't agree to exclusivity after a week? Please tell us you didn't ask her to be your GF. Have you known her a long time or something and finally f-ed her?
2. The proper response was "As a genetic badass product of millions of years of evolution, I'm born to kill, rape and pillage, but I have a big brain that moderates what I was born to do. That big brain also dictates that I don't do certain things while dating someone exclusively."

OR

"Hang out with all the guys you want, in fact do whatever you like, we don't need to put labels like BF, GF or exclusive on what we are, let's just keep on having fun and enjoying each other's company. We'll just consider we are both free to do whatever we like going forward." Then shut up and wait for the deer in the headlights look to fade away and for her to say something. Sometimes they start crying or screaming at this point. Let them for awhile without saying anything, then say in a very warm way, "it's not that big a deal, we do all the same things, just not as a couple and we are both free to see and do whatever with whomever."

In any event, a woman who says things like this to you is not your GF, but a plate giving you a s-test. Women who are happily involved and infatuated never ever say things like this... at least not early on.

 

[Fugitive]

I feel its unlikely that its like you don't exist when other guys turn up, that's just you're perception because you feel threatened by another male in your territory and it scares the sh*t out of you that she isn't giving 100% attention to you.

On your original question, women tend to say "I get on better with guys" when they are insecure flirts and crave attention. Guys give them that attention so both parties are happy, the girl because she gets attention, the guy because he thinks he's in with a shot or at the very least an ego boost.

Don't just next her because some idiot on here says next at every thread. But you must consider it as if her guy friends regularly come into the picture then it's unlikely that will change overnight. You either next her and tell her honestly that you're looking for loyalty not someone with a billion guy friends or you keep her and bring your girl friends into it to balance the scales.

 

[BlueAlpha1]

This has gotta be a troll.

If not, hamster rationalization. Move along.

 

[Zion]

Whenever I see these "No hanging out with other guys" so called boundaries I puke in my mouth a little bit.

A woman, born to socialize with guys and men. Who would have thought?

Stop being an insecure little prick. Who the fvck do you think you are to dictate who she can or cannot hang out with? Not even gonna mention the 1 week part.

 

[mangotot]

She wants to fucck other guys. Insist on having girl buddies yourself to this woman.

 

[Dhoulmagus]

Whenever I see these "No hanging out with other guys" so called boundaries I puke in my mouth a little bit.

A woman, born to socialize with guys and men. Who would have thought?

Stop being an insecure little prick. Who the fvck do you think you are to dictate who she can or cannot hang out with? Not even gonna mention the 1 week part.

She should no what's respectable and not regardless of what you tell her not to do.

 

[Between_The_Lines]

Who the fvck do you think you are to dictate who she can or cannot hang out with?

It's not "dictating" if she voluntarily agrees beforehand to your personal standards as to what is considered acceptable, and what isn't. In short, she gets what she signed up for. Nothing tyrannical about that.

 

[Zion]

She should no what's respectable and not regardless of what you tell her not to do.

How is hanging out with your friends a form of disrespect?

These are not boundaries, these are the results of some major underlying insecurities.

It's not "dictating" if she voluntarily agrees beforehand to your personal standards as to what is considered acceptable, and what isn't. In short, she gets what she signed up for. Nothing tyrannical about that.

True. To some extent.
But OP's attitude will make it very difficult for him to ever date a quality woman. Plus, who says stuff like that 1 week in?

 

[MillionBillionaire]

Would she say this to Brad Pitt?

I was in the love of my life "lol" with the biggest attention ***** you could imagine.

She will flirt with other guys DIRECTLY IN FRONT OF YOU TO **** TEST YOU. All fvcking day long ... boundries or no boundries... she don't give a fvck. Respectable women don't say that kind of crap.

Fvck attention *****s... never again. Bigger red flag than a baby to me.

 

[:-)]

Would she say this to Brad Pitt?

I was in the love of my life "lol" with the biggest attention ***** you could imagine.

She will flirt with other guys DIRECTLY IN FRONT OF YOU TO **** TEST YOU. All fvcking day long ... boundries or no boundries... she don't give a fvck. Respectable women don't say that kind of crap.

Fvck attention *****s... never again. Bigger red flag than a baby to me.

At fifty years of age she probably would say this to Brad Pitt.

 

[BrainDamage92]

Shes beutifull and evil. Other females look beyond looks and dont get along with her, although she will make it seem like they are shallow hoes and she is all nice so they cant stand her.

AFKs cant look beyond looks - free attention and good attitude.

So it only natural ;]. Choose you GF wisely bro.

 

[old_skoolr]

Annoying GF: I'm born to socialize with guys or men.

Old_skoolr: Well my d.icks right here.

basically your girl wants an excuse to flirt with other guys and make you jealous then dump once shes found something better.

You should have most of the blame for dating this girl to begin with.

 

[MillionBillionaire]

At fifty years of age she probably would say this to Brad Pitt.

Don't you love women that grossly over estimate their smv? ...

This girl is nothing but a pain in the azz.. slowly acid dripping on your soul.

She wouldn't be so bad if you had zero dignity.

 

[DragonBlood]

One week gf? I probably wouldnt discuss the matter further.


What I would do however is start flirting and picking up other girls in her presence.

Yes, this is a passive aggressive solution. But it avoids a sissy boundaries argument you dont want to be having, and as well, you should already be in the habit of talking to other girls anyway until this girl starts pushing boundaries on YOU.


It is not a mans job to "trap" his women. She should instead be sucked into his world and put herself there by her own force.

 

[kevin z study]

i didnt study for another test and got an f. i have an f in every subject. because if it i cant get into harvard. harvard sucks. fuk harvard

 

[El Payaso]

One week gf? I probably wouldnt discuss the matter further.


What I would do however is start flirting and picking up other girls in her presence.

Yes, this is a passive aggressive solution. But it avoids a sissy boundaries argument you dont want to be having, and as well, you should already be in the habit of talking to other girls anyway until this girl starts pushing boundaries on YOU.


It is not a mans job to "trap" his women. She should instead be sucked into his world and put herself there by her own force.

Well said.