Im Back.. with improvements and true dedication

[Mangina]

Hi guys its Damascus im back. My story is in my signature. I had a good time cracking jokes at Cracked.com, but i had girl problems. I want my ex back. Since i was banned here, I went to Loveshack.org for help but all they did was say "poor you", and too forget about her, and received dumb advice about destiny, and fate, and how my soulmate will find me. Then i read this:

Committed Relationships,The Biggest Trap for Inexperienced AFC's by the Logical Player
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=159313

I had my brain roasted! I am an expeirenced afc and i am going thru a transformation. I have done the following:


I cancelled my three World of Warcaft accounts and said my goodbyes ( a sad sad day for me, over 9,876 hours! )

using proactiv for my acne

im doing cardio running with my personal trainer

have started changing my wardrobe from slogan tshirts to button shirts.
I am doing the laundry now instead of the maids


moved my computer from my room to the living room so i won't look at porn all the time

Stopped reading anime, and watching the new Naruto episodes

I gave my action figure collection to the salvation army


Created a savings account, and sold my hentai and retro video game magazines collection at craiglist.

I am wearing boxers now, no more anime underwear for me.


I am taking dancing lessons, salsa to be exact.

I got the courage and asked my dad if we an spend some time together and he said yes. We talked about everything over fishing and i might quit the computer store job.


I deleted my Myspace, Twitter, Facebook, and have left Digg and Propeller.


Sold all my PS2 and XBOX 360 video games to Gamestop , except for Final Fantasy 12,( my name is in the game)


Sold my Avion sword at the pawn shop. I cried but the positives outweight the negatives. I had to let go of my emotional attacment to my fantasy world. I am not a knight or whatever, and my reality has to change.


I am ready to start a new life. But where do i begin? Im like a kindergartner, what are the basic of the basic steps? I don't have any friends except for my science club partners.

Where do i start? I want to be a don juan, but i need guidance. The DJ Bible is too abstract, and im the biggest nerd in the world. They say money buys happiness, but its not true, im rich, and im miserable. my biggest issue is how to live in reality, and not in a fantasy world.

Any help is appreciated. Thank you

 

[Mangina]

ummm... how do i start?
Do i work on my inner game first, or on my outer game first?
Do you guys recommend any ebooks besides the DJ Bible?

 

[SickAgain]

In one way its good you threw out all the nerdy sh!t to "grow up" but if you truly liked that stuff I think you're trying to change what you are, rather than who you are, which isn't going to solve much. I have a lot of nerdy tendencies that do not hinder my game at all. Basically I can tell you're attempting to reinvent yourself, but all that superficial sh!t is meaningless unless you learn to appreciate who you are and your family, which is pretty a big part of who you are.

As far as inner game or outer game, I say work on both simultaneously. Inner game is going to be a lot harder to adjust based on the complexities of the human mind and soul. Outer game is pretty scientific in my book, based on proven techniques that work with chicks. Furthermore, inner game is much more important because if you don't have a sound mind and heart, you can still get all the pvssy in the world and still feel worthless. It doesn't work the other way around.

In any case, I say get out in the field and go get used to approaching girls and get rejected if necessary. You need to get used to getting rejected because its just part of the game. Once you realize that the approach didn't kill you repeat and desensitize that part of you mind that makes you feel like **** after getting rejected. It's fine to be nervous, I still get nervous around some sets too. But that rush is also what compels me to approach. The concept of an unknown outcome is very fascinating for me.

Secondly, learn to flirt and make girls laugh. In an approach you are either creepy or cool. Flirting and comedy will keep you away from the creepy side. This may take some time to master but you can practice being social and fun with anyone. If you can't socialize with a man, don't even expect a favorable result from a woman.

Good luck.

 

[Desert Fox]

Hi guys its Damascus im back. My story is in my signature. I had a good time cracking jokes at Cracked.com, but i had girl problems. I want my ex back. Since i was banned here, I went to Loveshack.org for help but all they did was say "poor you", and too forget about her, and received dumb advice about destiny, and fate, and how my soulmate will find me. Then i read this:

Committed Relationships,The Biggest Trap for Inexperienced AFC's by the Logical Player
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=159313

I had my brain roasted! I am an expeirenced afc and i am going thru a transformation. I have done the following:


I cancelled my three World of Warcaft accounts and said my goodbyes ( a sad sad day for me, over 9,876 hours! )

using proactiv for my acne

im doing cardio running with my personal trainer

have started changing my wardrobe from slogan tshirts to button shirts.
I am doing the laundry now instead of the maids


moved my computer from my room to the living room so i won't look at porn all the time

Stopped reading anime, and watching the new Naruto episodes

I gave my action figure collection to the salvation army


Created a savings account, and sold my hentai and retro video game magazines collection at craiglist.

I am wearing boxers now, no more anime underwear for me.


I am taking dancing lessons, salsa to be exact.

I got the courage and asked my dad if we an spend some time together and he said yes. We talked about everything over fishing and i might quit the computer store job.


I deleted my Myspace, Twitter, Facebook, and have left Digg and Propeller.


Sold all my PS2 and XBOX 360 video games to Gamestop , except for Final Fantasy 12,( my name is in the game)


Sold my Avion sword at the pawn shop. I cried but the positives outweight the negatives. I had to let go of my emotional attacment to my fantasy world. I am not a knight or whatever, and my reality has to change.


I am ready to start a new life. But where do i begin? Im like a kindergartner, what are the basic of the basic steps? I don't have any friends except for my science club partners.

Where do i start? I want to be a don juan, but i need guidance. The DJ Bible is too abstract, and im the biggest nerd in the world. They say money buys happiness, but its not true, im rich, and im miserable. my biggest issue is how to live in reality, and not in a fantasy world.

Any help is appreciated. Thank you

damn bro that was a drastic change, but you know what? I think that's good. Sometimes you're so deeply entrenched in your fantasy world you need to really kick yourself in the balls and drag your self out.

In a few days you will probably have the urge to get new porn, new games, new zelda swords ****s or whatever.

KICK UR SELF IN THE NUTS AGAIN!!! Do not go back man. Similar thing happened to me,it's like withdrawl syndrome for smokers...if you push past that you are FREE

I guess to start, find some goals for your life. Find 1 goal.

Split that goal up into smaller goals

like different tiers of a video game

keep splitting up the smaller goals into even smaller ones until you make goals you can start TAKING ACTION ON TODAY.

after that, all you gotta do is DO.

 

[WillPower]

using proactiv for my acne

im doing cardio running with my personal trainer

have started changing my wardrobe from slogan tshirts to button shirts.
I am doing the laundry now instead of the maids

moved my computer from my room to the living room so i won't look at porn all the time

Created a savings account, and sold my hentai and retro video game magazines collection at craiglist.

All these things are great. You're taking better care of yourself, you're pushing out porn (there are waay too many arguments against porn).

I cancelled my three World of Warcaft accounts and said my goodbyes ( a sad sad day for me, over 9,876 hours! )

Stopped reading anime, and watching the new Naruto episodes

I gave my action figure collection to the salvation army

I am wearing boxers now, no more anime underwear for me.

I am taking dancing lessons, salsa to be exact.

I got the courage and asked my dad if we an spend some time together and he said yes. We talked about everything over fishing and i might quit the computer store job.

I deleted my Myspace, Twitter, Facebook, and have left Digg and Propeller.

Sold all my PS2 and XBOX 360 video games to Gamestop , except for Final Fantasy 12,( my name is in the game)

Sold my Avion sword at the pawn shop. I cried but the positives outweight the negatives. I had to let go of my emotional attacment to my fantasy world. I am not a knight or whatever, and my reality has to change.

Every single one of these points is unnecessary. How will wearing anime underwear not get you laid? Feeling embarassed or ashamed about it will not, but embracing that part of you and feeling good about it works just as well. It's good that you want to let go of fantasy, using it as a crutch because the outside world does not offer you what you want is NOT the solution. But, DON'T force yourself to become what society wants you to become JUST so that you can get girls.

Simple trick, imagine your perfect life. Be ABSOLUTELY honest here, if WoW features in it, so be it. Now ask yourself what you need to do in order to get there. And do it. Remember, absolute honesty is the key.

That said, I used to be an unbeatable anime addict too. Then I finally started looking into self-improvement stuff and 'inner game' development so much and working so hard on myself that it just naturally went away. My primary genre in anime was romance, I loved to see couples come together simply because I couldn't actualize it myself. But after a certain point, I just stopped. And I didn't force it. I improved my inner game and my outer game changed automatically.