I'm about to snap!, please need advice!

[Demonicale]

Ok well after 3 dates with this girl she then goes quite ... tell's me she's been sacked and her mother has been diagnosed with cancer ... i txt and say i hope your ok and i'm here to help etc ...

She txt say's she has all the support she needs and wants to be alone for awhile.

The next day she's talking on facebook like nothing is wrong, even putting up tagged pics ...

I guess she's played me right?!...

Then my ex i've been friends with since we broke up 3-4 years ago has stopped talking to me for dating this girl ... does'nt even talk to me anymore .. ignored me for a month.

Guy's in your opinion do you think i should have a "don't take ****" attitude? ... as in i should cut my losses and deleat them both off my facebook, phone? ... or should i wait awhile?.

It's got to the point where i feel people are manipulating me and i'm getting to the point where i REALLY ****ing hate women and will go back to the day's when i never gave a **** and used women for sex.

I dunno, guess this is a rant, but i wanna know what you guy's do?.

 

[Radharc]

The girl you´ve been seeing, screw her, you come first, then after that you come second. If she´s disrespecting you, delete her and next her.

About your ex, it would depend on two factors, first the reason you guys fought in the first place, was it a valid reason, was one of you in the wrong and need to make amends? The second, how important is it to you her friendship and to have her in your life?

Only you can make those calls, but in situations like this you need to be rational and pragmatic. Put the storm of feelings aside and do what needs to be done. If you´re the captain of a ship (your life) crossing a storm, you need to know what to do, which masts to cut, what to throw overboard so you can emerge on the other side with the ship in one piece. This may be an overdramatic metaphor for your situation, but its just so you get the idea.

 

[Demonicale]

Yeah i get what your saying, just my gut tell's me she's taking the piss outta me (the date) to tell me she's sacked and her news about her mum ... then the next day put pics of her out the same night smiling with her mate and 2 guy's.

If i'm being honest, it's been nothing but a REAL challenge, she actually told me she did'nt wanna be with me after our first date due to her ex ... now again she's telling me she wants to be alone awhile .... GOD i can't believe i'm even questioning myself.

I'm feeling down, cause back like 5 years ago i could pull a girl every week ... now i'm just broken

 

[Korrupt]

Look, I know EXACTLY how the feel, if not worse. She pretty much told you to leave her alone, and you know begging her or blowing up her phone to try to talk or get a date when she feels this way is not the right thing to do. Delete her number, delete her texts, remove her from your Facebook friends, and talk to other girls. If she's interested in you, she'll start to miss you and contact you, but right now it sounds like she doesn't want to see you.

 

[Demonicale]

Look, I know EXACTLY how the feel, if not worse. She pretty much told you to leave her alone, and you know begging her or blowing up her phone to try to talk or get a date when she feels this way is not the right thing to do. Delete her number, delete her texts, remove her from your Facebook friends, and talk to other girls. If she's interested in you, she'll start to miss you and contact you, but right now it sounds like she doesn't want to see you.

Well i went through my facebook and phone ... deleated 3 women who have basically turned me into a complete *****!!.

You guy's think if they contact me over phone it's worth listening to them or not? ...

Or just move the hell on and don't look back?!...

These 3 women have caused me sooo many problems and have changed me bigtime ... before them i was able to enjoy life alot more.

 

[Radharc]

You did good, you sound like you need sometime away from crap like that, so you did good.

Don´t worry about them contacting you, I have a rule in those situations: if I dont want to talk to them I dont answer their calls, sometimes that changes in the future, but then that is also my choice.

The point is that you need to do whats best for YOU, in the moment, not to overthinking all the pros and cons and future consequences. As long as you feel it´s best for you to go NC you just do it.

What you should probably do is analyze what happened with these three women, why they had such a shi1tty impact on your life. Take the lessons you can from that, and go back to be someone who enjoy life like you used to.

 

[SoldMySoul]

Demonicale, sounds like this piece of work is all bent out of shape.... Yeah right! If you had been seeing this one for longer than just three dates, I would suggest that she has another fellow providing all the comfort she needs. Even still she may have another fellow anyways.

Sounds like to me she is trying to work you right on out of her life. You should let her succeed!!!

I had this woman I had a thing going for awhile and her father died.. It was true, but she did not want my comfort.... Needless to say, that let me know that I was no longer a part of her life nor did I want to be!!!

Just another cowardly way of telling you to get lost. You should erase this one from that memory of yours!!!!

 

[Demonicale]

Demonicale, sounds like this piece of work is all bent out of shape.... Yeah right! If you had been seeing this one for longer than just three dates, I would suggest that she has another fellow providing all the comfort she needs. Even still she may have another fellow anyways.

Sounds like to me she is trying to work you right on out of her life. You should let her succeed!!!

I had this woman I had a thing going for awhile and her father died.. It was true, but she did not want my comfort.... Needless to say, that let me know that I was no longer a part of her life nor did I want to be!!!

Just another cowardly way of telling you to get lost. You should erase this one from that memory of yours!!!!

The fact that after she had told me she wanted to be alone and everything, she went on facebook the next day putting pics of her smiling with her mate and 2 guys the same night.

She was even asked if everything was ok today, she replied saying everything is great and that.


I'm just sick of women being like this, to think i use to "play" women to get sex ... but i changed into the "good" guy as i felt guilty.Well i won't be anymore and sure as hell won't show any regret.

Also i think i screwed the girl i was dating as i was alittle too good to her imho.

 

[The Mad Ghost]

You never played women in order to get sex, you were under an illusion that it was WRONG, to express your desires as a man and that it is was wrong to just have causual sex with women, without any sort of commitment.

My good man, you were under an ILLUSION. I'm not sure if you've noticed already, but you never changed into the ''good guy'', what is that? You were always the good guy, you just had the veil over your eyes then.

Times have changed, women are now drunk off of their entitlement, on there own accord. I remember those days you talk of. An every week occurance of bringing girls back from the club or shopping mall, we'd all have a good time and there was no battle of the sexes for the moment. Now, the hammers swung and its every man for himself. What can you do from here?

Get as many numbers as you can and weed out all the flakes, non interested, gameplaying chicks out. Sh!t is in your eye at the moment, SHTF. Don't cry to give up and snap, cry to keep going for the win.

 

[Demonicale]

You never played women in order to get sex, you were under an illusion that it was WRONG, to express your desires as a man and that it is was wrong to just have causual sex with women, without any sort of commitment.

My good man, you were under an ILLUSION. I'm not sure if you've noticed already, but you never changed into the ''good guy'', what is that? You were always the good guy, you just had the veil over your eyes then.

Times have changed, women are now drunk off of their entitlement, on there own accord. I remember those days you talk of. An every week occurance of bringing girls back from the club or shopping mall, we'd all have a good time and there was no battle of the sexes for the moment. Now, the hammers swung and its every man for himself. What can you do from here?

Get as many numbers as you can and weed out all the flakes, non interested, gameplaying chicks out. Sh!t is in your eye at the moment, SHTF. Don't cry to give up and snap, cry to keep going for the win.

Ok, well when i say i was the "good guy" i mean as in everything i said and the way i acted, i acted in the way i though the girl liked in men.

Yeah the good old day's ... when i was like that i use to get a girl every weekend and actually got the name "giggolo" or however it's spelt lol.

I'm not sure what direction to take, but at the moment ... i don't see me going for another girl to be with ... i let my guard down and was really into this girl ... and yeah, i'll be a ***** and say it hurt.

 

[SoldMySoul]

The truth being told is that A LOT of the guys labeled dogs used to be "good guys" and it comes no surprise why they are labeled Dogs! Because it is by the women that want to control his behavior to do what they want.

Man, when you learn the hard core facts about how most of the women are YOU have no choice to change how you act/ and deal with them. If you continue thinking the good guy behavior is going to get you somewhere with them, that is pure insanity!!!

Like others said: Weed the bad ones out! Only give the ones that show high interest a second thought. I do not think that I will ever turn back in the errors of my ways. Once you learn the truth; there is no turning back my friend!