Yes I do contract work. My area I specialize in is more/less freelance as I have a somewhat rare talent set. I am a carpenter, but not a ordinary handyman. I do customized work, all though contracts, some long term some short term.
about a week and a half ago I meet and start doing work for a women who is into business, but also seems to be well balanced in all areas and is intelligent and good looking.
I'm notorious for business being business and all other interactions between 2 people when work related is nothing but sales and money.
This time is different. I'm either being blinded by a form of lust, or confused because of work. Also I think she maybe having the same thoughts. Now I want to date her.
The confusion starts here. We start of as a ordinary contract/work. This quickly escalates into us talking a bit and myself being over later than normal if it was "just" work. She has a 2 year old, I am cool with. I want kids sometime hopefully in the next 1 - 5 years anyway. This is more of a get to know you thing with a kid running around. Putting any moves on her would of been inapproiate.
Next chance I had 2 days later, but was also working. We had a prolong eye contact... Opportunity to make a move and boom, damn phone!
3rd chance, she seemed to have went out of her way to cancel stuff on her schedule which would of been kinda of important to keep in order to allow me to do some needless work. Then she went off road in bad weather and never made it, running 4 hours late.
Now I just talk to her and she is coming up with more work related stuff, some of the items she wants done are fairly trivial and some is not. Even in the face of the cost most people would say no in some of the cases but she wants it done anyway. I know she is business smart from us discussing the nature of her work. She knows some of the things she has me doing may very well be a waste of cash but we do it anyway.
top of it off she made physical contact a couple of times, always appeared as it was unintentional. She has also made sure to keep her space at all other times. As in walking by me dozens of times then once in a while when it was obvious when there was a better route to get by per say.
Anyway I'm trying to read this mixed bag of tricks. I have indirectly hinted at us going out. I have no issue at being direct and say lets go get dinner. But with work being tied into the picture I'm stumbling. If I'm wrong. I loose the job. Like everyone else I need work too. She has potential to generate a lot of work, maybe a few months worth next year. I don't want to be wrong and loose the job.
I know I hit a soft spot on the kid note. Which is good. She also goes out of her way to try and show off how nice and a good person she is. I know in 2 days from now, I can get her outside and alone for about 10 minutes. This will be my last opportunity I can think of to get past the the worker/friend/business barrier and goto relationship/business model. Beyond this without any ideas I have the impression I'll have to quit working for her ask her for dinner, and possibly loose my job and not get the date. OR I continue working for her and never get the date.
Any advice anyone on this please? Does anyone understand this mixed bag of tricks?
Thanks
Kevin
about a week and a half ago I meet and start doing work for a women who is into business, but also seems to be well balanced in all areas and is intelligent and good looking.
I'm notorious for business being business and all other interactions between 2 people when work related is nothing but sales and money.
This time is different. I'm either being blinded by a form of lust, or confused because of work. Also I think she maybe having the same thoughts. Now I want to date her.
The confusion starts here. We start of as a ordinary contract/work. This quickly escalates into us talking a bit and myself being over later than normal if it was "just" work. She has a 2 year old, I am cool with. I want kids sometime hopefully in the next 1 - 5 years anyway. This is more of a get to know you thing with a kid running around. Putting any moves on her would of been inapproiate.
Next chance I had 2 days later, but was also working. We had a prolong eye contact... Opportunity to make a move and boom, damn phone!
3rd chance, she seemed to have went out of her way to cancel stuff on her schedule which would of been kinda of important to keep in order to allow me to do some needless work. Then she went off road in bad weather and never made it, running 4 hours late.
Now I just talk to her and she is coming up with more work related stuff, some of the items she wants done are fairly trivial and some is not. Even in the face of the cost most people would say no in some of the cases but she wants it done anyway. I know she is business smart from us discussing the nature of her work. She knows some of the things she has me doing may very well be a waste of cash but we do it anyway.
top of it off she made physical contact a couple of times, always appeared as it was unintentional. She has also made sure to keep her space at all other times. As in walking by me dozens of times then once in a while when it was obvious when there was a better route to get by per say.
Anyway I'm trying to read this mixed bag of tricks. I have indirectly hinted at us going out. I have no issue at being direct and say lets go get dinner. But with work being tied into the picture I'm stumbling. If I'm wrong. I loose the job. Like everyone else I need work too. She has potential to generate a lot of work, maybe a few months worth next year. I don't want to be wrong and loose the job.
I know I hit a soft spot on the kid note. Which is good. She also goes out of her way to try and show off how nice and a good person she is. I know in 2 days from now, I can get her outside and alone for about 10 minutes. This will be my last opportunity I can think of to get past the the worker/friend/business barrier and goto relationship/business model. Beyond this without any ideas I have the impression I'll have to quit working for her ask her for dinner, and possibly loose my job and not get the date. OR I continue working for her and never get the date.
Any advice anyone on this please? Does anyone understand this mixed bag of tricks?
Thanks
Kevin
