I'm a big afc beta faggot and here's why

[juicywa]

Serious case of oneitis with this girl.. never really made anything official.

Here's the story:
See here in class, I fall in love at first sight. I work my magic and talk to her immediately. Seems receptive to my advances. 2 weeks later I invite her out over the weekend but tells me she's busy, doesn't offer reschedule.. So I figure its over, she doesn't like me. Next meet, she's still friendly, and I go WTF... maybe she was genuinely busy.
We hang out a lot after school and she doesn't mind me putting my arms around her; touching her bare legs, face/hair, ass. Every text I send she replies right away (I try to limit this once every few days). She'd sit next to me in class even tho she doesnt have to. I don't go any further because she's jailbait.

Summer time, no more school, I dont get to see her.

I get withdrawals hard.

3 days of not seeing her, I text her, she replies. Woohoo!
2 days later, I send another text, no reply. I delete her number (I didnt save it anywhere so no fcking way to get this back). Bummer
5 days later, I email her, she responds. :/
5 days later, send another email, no response.
5 days later, I get text from her inviting me to an event, something she mentioned a few months back. I'm wondering if she's just being nice.
Day of event, she cancels. I kinda expected. I tell her its okay, like a beta fag.
Later that day, I send her text. No reply.

Now that was 2 days ago.. I'm fcking torn. The past few weeks has gone pretty smooth only because I been busy myself. But now I'm bored, not doing anything and thoughts of her keeps creeping in my head. Fcking with me.
A few more days and school is back. I'm gonna try NC till then. I wont try to seek her out but if I see her in school, Ill say hi.


Any comments welcome. Grill me.

 

[In2theGame]

Serious case of oneitis with this girl.. never really made anything official.

Here's the story:
See here in class, I fall in love at first sight. I work my magic and talk to her immediately. Seems receptive to my advances. 2 weeks later I invite her out over the weekend but tells me she's busy, doesn't offer reschedule.. So I figure its over, she doesn't like me. Next meet, she's still friendly, and I go WTF... maybe she was genuinely busy.
We hang out a lot after school and she doesn't mind me putting my arms around her; touching her bare legs, face/hair, ass. Every text I send she replies right away (I try to limit this once every few days). She'd sit next to me in class even tho she doesnt have to. I don't go any further because she's jailbait.

Summer time, no more school, I dont get to see her.

I get withdrawals hard.

3 days of not seeing her, I text her, she replies. Woohoo!
2 days later, I send another text, no reply. I delete her number (I didnt save it anywhere so no fcking way to get this back). Bummer
5 days later, I email her, she responds. :/
5 days later, send another email, no response.
5 days later, I get text from her inviting me to an event, something she mentioned a few months back. I'm wondering if she's just being nice.
Day of event, she cancels. I kinda expected. I tell her its okay, like a beta fag.
Later that day, I send her text. No reply.

Now that was 2 days ago.. I'm fcking torn. The past few weeks has gone pretty smooth only because I been busy myself. But now I'm bored, not doing anything and thoughts of her keeps creeping in my head. Fcking with me.
A few more days and school is back. I'm gonna try NC till then. I wont try to seek her out but if I see her in school, Ill say hi.


Any comments welcome. Grill me.

Lol, we wont grill you (atleast i wont) try not to over think it too much. If your bored, do something that gets you pumped up. Lift some weights, Let it be a motivation when sh*t like this happens to better yourself because it seems like her Interest level is wobbly, IL is not High nor is it at a low point. She was responding to your texts and emails so thats a good sign. She even invited you to an event.. although she canceled for unknown reasons, atleast she thought enough to invite you. When you see her at school... Say Hey, be loose with it meaning say in a joking and fun way "Hey, where have you been ::smile:: ...whatever she says.. then respond with something fun again and suggest to hang out. If her IL is high you feel... get flirty with her. girls like getting flirted with if shes diggin you. If shes not then a flirt means ur a douch* lol again.. keep it loose and fun and flirty.

 

[SgtSplacker]

Dude stop all the number deleting drama and counting phone calls. You time is precious and important and should not be spent micro analyzing every exchange you have with a particular girl. What you need to be concerned with is her overall attitude towards you. If you waste your time stressing every unanswered text you are not thinking of ways to enjoy your time with her. Ways of enhancing your relationship. Stop staring at your feet, look at the horizon. Because you might miss the awesome orgy under the apple tree...

Look the brain is flesh, and flesh gets better at doing the same thing over and over again in the same way. If you sit home being a huge beta homo you are only enforcing the fact that you are a huge beta homo and making yourself better at it every day. Is this what you wan't? No! So when those thoughts enter your mind stop thinking about it and eventually those thoughts will subside and make way for the man that you really are. A man that builds things with steel and brawn. A man that will have women happy to be with you. A man that is a catch. Not a huge beta homo...

 

[Eternal_water]

You said you didn't go any further because she's jailbait so why does it actually matter anyway?

Surely her only purpose to you is for boosting social proof and as a tool for improving your social circle ie. friends of friends etc.

But If she's jailbait you won't actually do anything with her

 

[Groovy]

You weren't doing too bad. U can still get her. Win or loose, it's still not decided. So don't crack under pressure yet. U have a chance! So it's ok to blow it because she doesn't like you... but blow it because of your insecurity won't be cool, that you can control! Just act like a man! You are one so you can do it.

It seems that touching her ass\legs is too much to me... just keep it normal. Little by little. Let it flow. at some point ask her out or try to isolate her! But I do agree, a little "agression" is good.

Also, try a good diet cuz that helps with depression, eat fruits and so on. Be careful about that if u wanna get over ur depression and anxiety. Vitamins and minerals would work too.

It would be cool to get her, so try to act your best self especially now, but always.

 

[juicywa]

I always get bouts of depression the following days after drinking. I attribute it to that because I had a few beers few days before. I feel a bit better now though. Also just need to pre-occupy myself. When classes start, I'll be so busy I wont have time to think about her.

 

[Bossman90]

cut your losses and move on.