I'm 29 and just #closed a 19 year old

[Ever onward]

Last night I went to my favorite restaurant (Subway) and I saw this really cute girl who I've talked to a few times. I was really excited to get a chance to see her and flirt with her a bit and she didn't disappoint me.

Long story short, I thought to myself "the hell with it" and I asked for her number. She was really excited and enthusiastic about giving it to me. I guess that means her interest level is high. I was suspicous about her age so I asked her and she said "19".

My jaw about hit the floor!

She saw my reaction and she said "I'm guessing your a bit older than that". I told her my age and I asked her if she still wanted me to have her number. She said "sure".

I talked to her today and she seems enthusiastic about making plans with me. She has, however, mentioned the age thing a few times. She told me that she had talked with her friends about me being 10 years older and they said something to the affect of "as long as he isn't 30". She also mentioned that she thought about lying about my age to people. I told her "it's not like we're getting married or anything" to try to take the serious edge from the conversation.

Anyways, during the phone call she was really energetic. I'm a pretty laid back guy at this time in my life, can I hope to keep up with her energy level even for a little while?

Then there's the awkward possibility of being around her friends. Nothing like hanging out with a bunch of teenagers who are too young to go to bars right?

I'm confused here. This girl is really adorable and she seems to down play the age thing for the most part. I'm sure there isn't any long term potential here but is it worth investing my time for some possible short term fun?

Any thoughts appreciated.

 

[BigDawg]

Hell yeah! Live it up! Like I mentioned in another post a while back to someone in a similar situation as you, don't worry that the bag of gold bricks that just fell in your lap aren't very shiny. You can polish them yourself (euphemism intended ).

Anyway, just be cool about it. Chances are she doesn't know what she wants in life (long term, anyway), and you aren't obligated to show her the way. I think you'll figure out soon enough where this will go, and you can adjust accordingly. If she puts a lot of stock in her friends' opinions (especially about the age difference), then it could get tough.

(While I was still dating my ex-wife, we would hang out with her friends (I was 26 or 27 and she was 19), and I found them to be mostly boring. For me it wasn't a matter of keeping up, it was a matter of putting up.)

On the other hand, if she cares more about what you have to say than what her friends do, then the age difference shouldn't matter. Actually, it shouldn't matter at all, but to some people it does (as long as she's legal ). IMO, what should matter is compatible maturity levels.

If it turns into something more than you expected, bravo, and best of luck. If not, then have as much fun as you can, and chalk it up to social proof.

 

[ER!C L!VE]

My experience tells me girls that young date guys our age for a life experience. Just to see what it's like to be with an older guy. Don't meet her friends, don't go out with her anywhere...just get her to your house, pop in a movie, watch it for 15 min and lean over and start making out with her. Take her to your bed and close the deal.

Make sure you do this as quickly as possible before she changes her mind or her friends influence her decision to hang out with you!

:woo: get yo hustle on

Eric

 

[MrLuvr]

Yep.. don't look too far into the future with this one.

Just do what you need to do, closer her and move on.

Yeah, it may develop into something more. But with girls that age, they are going through so many changes in their life, it is rarely anything permanent.

Just have your fun. Don't overthink it.

 

[al77]

Originally posted by ER!C L!VE
Don't meet her friends, don't go out with her anywhere...just get her to your house, pop in a movie, watch it for 15 min and lean over and start making out with her. Take her to your bed and close the deal.
Make sure you do this as quickly as possible before she changes her mind or her friends influence her decision to hang out with you!

Ever Onward,

I guess Eric said the most useful advice here. 19y.o. are flaky as hell. They are ready to dump you with a first sign of dissaproval from her friends\mom\relatives.

Unless you are ready to follow what Eric said, I see there is no point in dating 19y.o. I personally don't find young chicks attractive and I can't follow Eric's advice. So I don't date them at all.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

She made age an issue only because you made it an issue, initially. You gave her every reason to doubt herself and over analyze it, and she did. Approval seeking is very important for girls at that age.

 

[Ever onward]

Don't meet her friends, don't go out with her anywhere...just get her to your house, pop in a movie, watch it for 15 min and lean over and start making out with her. Take her to your bed and close the deal.

Ha ha that sounds about right! I was talking to her on the phone and she was just blabbing on like a teeny-bopper blah blah blah!

But damn she is so freaking hot! I want her! I must have her! LOL. Anyways, she finds out her work schedule today and we've talked about setting up a "date" this weekend. I will probably take her to the movies or something. Having her come over to watch a movie would probably be too obvious in this stage of the game.

Yep.. don't look too far into the future with this one.

Just do what you need to do, closer her and move on.

Yeah, it may develop into something more. But with girls that age, they are going through so many changes in their life, it is rarely anything permanent.

Just have your fun. Don't overthink it.

Right on man, life is too short to worry so much. Lets enjoy younger women while we still can!

There are going to be a lot of available young women around because there are fewer men that are a 5-10 years older.

Not sure what you mean about there being fewer men 5-10 years older. Could you explain a bit? Is that some kind of census statistic?

Anyways guys, I feel like a million bucks this week. Feels like some of my old confidence is finally coming back.

 

[Golden Arms]

Originally posted by Gangster Of Love
She made age an issue only because you made it an issue, initially. You gave her every reason to doubt herself and over analyze it, and she did. Approval seeking is very important for girls at that age.

YES !!

Think about it this way - you're not sure whether you want to date her cause she's too young for you.. but you're willing to give her a chance

 

[Ricky]

Style got a 19 year old hooters girl. I think he's in his mid 40's.

 

[Ever onward]

Hey Ricky,

I'm rereading the Game but I haven't got to that part yet. I'm sure I can "get" this girl so the question may be how long to I keep her?

 

[NorPacWolf]

Control Her Frame

Neil Strauss aka Style is actually in his mid 30's. However, he could easily pass for someone in his forties ('Tyler Durden' busts on Neil about this as part of his own 'game').

As far as the age issue is concerned, you have to take the lead and provide the proper frame for her. If you raise the age issue as a concern, then she will follow your lead and display concern in turn. If you completely ignore the topic or run some ****y/funny on her and bust her when she gets 'worried' about the age difference, then she will likely follow suit and treat the issue lightly. If you worry, she will worry. If you are lighthearted, she will be also. That's the game.

NorPacWolf

 

[Leah]

Sorry, I can't get past the first line where it says Subway being a restaurant.

 

[Ever onward]

Sorry, I can't get past the first line where it says Subway being a restaurant.

I was being sarcasatic! Thanks for your valuable contribution.

 

[Golden Arms]

So what hapenned with the chick ?

 

[[o_0]]

get the girl. but dont expect shes gonna be your wife. just have fun and dont ever ****in try to get into love wiuth chick who is that young. girls before 22 are immature and dont really know what they want from life. one day she may just woke up and decide your not the thing shes looking for. but have fun. sex with nice chicks is dope.

 

[Ever onward]

Juggler has mentioned that throughout his approaches he established that the thing that was making girls shy about the age difference was NOT him being older, it was them being YOUNGER. So, what he would do is say "My last girlfriend was 19" (which i believe was true), then the girl would associate with that and have no more hesitations about the age difference. Try it, see if that works for you.

I actually dated a 20 year old last fall, maybe I'll let that slip.

So what hapenned with the chick ?

I have a date with her tomorrow night (sat). We're going to a haunted house and possibly a movie.

There is something else that's bothering me. I was, until last weekend, seeing a woman, stephanie, who is about 5 years older than me. I broke up with her because she and I seemed too different. I really care about stephanie, she has been there for me recently when I was dealing with my dad dying. She still wants to spend a lot of time with me and sometimes be physical.

I want to date younger women and not be tied down but I also have feelings for stephanie. How do I date who I want without hurting stephanie?

 

[the12thplanet]

your my hero...

 

[racerX]

...."There is something else that's bothering me. I was, until last weekend, seeing a woman, stephanie, who is about 5 years older than me.".....

Dont date chicks older than you. You can date them when you are old. Always get the youngest, hottest chick you can get. If you are 30 years old, go for 18-25 year old babes. When you are 40 it will be tough to get 18-25 year olds. You can get 35 year old chicks when you are 45 years old. Generally speaking, the older a babe is, the more baggage she has & the more times she has been burned by a dude.

 

[DonJuanMonk]

That's not luck brother. She's probably one of those girlie types that had an absent father/no father in her life so she likes being in a company of an older guy.

Katie Holmes is a perfect example, she didn't have much of a father and has pretty much dated guys 10 years older than she was. She's married to that child rapist Tom Cruise who is more than 20 years older. Same forth for the yellow fevering Nicholas Cage who just recently LOST my respect after marrying a 21 year old asian ho.

An older guy who has his life set together pulling a young teeny girl or 20s girl doesn't phase me, I see them as perverts/rapists like other people do.

 

[DonJuanMonk]

Originally posted by racerX
...."There is something else that's bothering me. I was, until last weekend, seeing a woman, stephanie, who is about 5 years older than me.".....

Dont date chicks older than you. You can date them when you are old. Always get the youngest, hottest chick you can get. If you are 30 years old, go for 18-25 year old babes. When you are 40 it will be tough to get 18-25 year olds. You can get 35 year old chicks when you are 45 years old. Generally speaking, the older a babe is, the more baggage she has & the more times she has been burned by a dude.

That may be true. I just personally think that the selection from older SANE women thins out while there are plenty of younger woman. But it doesn't mean you should cradle rob.