im 18 an shez 26

[Black_Italian]

Ok so a few weeks ago i was clubbing and i saw a girl from my gym shes 26 she knows one of my friend through there famalies she went said hello to him i ended up picking her up getting on to her and thats about it. Then my second encounter i was on the train going to work she happend to get on the same carriage we barley talked cause i was half asleep. THEN last night i saw her at a club again and she comes up to me we danced a bit like full touching and rubing against eachother. The first important part of convo was this:

she saw me dancing with these 3 diffrent girls one after the other
and they kept comign back to me and i ignored them cause i wanted her.

HER:Your a slut

ME:I know

(ONE of the girls walks up to me and trys to dance and i told her to RELAX!!! and pushed her away)

HER:OMG you are a slut

ME:Yeh and what r u???

(She gives me a questioning look then starts dancing with me.)

(Bit of usless convo happens and the she says

HER:I like older men

ME:Why r u dancing with me then? (smiling)

(she ingores this remark)

HER:When i found out u were 18 on the train i was like OMG

(then the security gaurd comes up to her talks to her for a lil bit)

ME: What about the security gaurd??? he is older

HER: Yeh hes hot

(but she continues to dance with me)
(then i step on her bag by mistake)

HER: Hey watch out i got a camera in there

ME: You do pull it out

HER: OK!!

(turns to my friend)

HER: Take a picture of me and this italian slut

(Got a pic with her. I then took the camera and started takign pictures of other hot girls and she got real angry and walked off i acted like i didnt give a ****.)

(She comes back later dancing next to me with some guys she knows not dancing like rubing up they werent touching they were just dancing in a circle and she kept talking to my friend ignoring me eventualy she comes back up to me there was a lil small talk. She then starts dancing and bumps into some other hot girl and i say to her

ME: Relax that girl doesnt want to dance with u

(This is where the **** hit the fan)

HER: BLAH BLAH BLAH im not a lesbian

HER: See this is why i like older guys they keep there mouth shut

HER: You need to get more mature you can start by closing ur mouth when ur chewing gum and she walks off.

So yeh i realy want to f**k this girl and break my age record which is currently a 20 year old chick. How do i fix it from here im planning on talking to her at gym. Any advice will be useful thanks guys.

L8ta

 

[-.-]

My bro is 19 and is currently dating a 27 year old lady. I guess he grew up and matured. Maybe you could use some growing up too. (no pun intended.)

 

[Black_Italian]

u recon she realy wants a mature guy cause my experince with women tells me they dont know what they want?.....i mean why would she approach me if she thinks im immature she was probably just trying to get a reaction out of me.....i dunno...any helpful advice besides telling me to mature

 

[Black_Italian]

so your saying its cause we were dancing and she didnt want me to be a smart ass or c+f she wanted me to shutup and get sexual. Man u bring up a good point why didnt i see that stupid stupid!!. I can see why your a senior DJ man. Thanks for the advice bro for next time i will know what to do. Have you got any hints or tips on how to fix it up with this girl now.... i recon i could fix it my self but some help would be good????

 

[Wiesman44]

seems like she's trying to find any reason to get away from you and convince herself that she doesn't want you. But ya, seems like you did overdo the c & f a little. With the benefit of hindsight, I would have tried to kiss her right on site, and see what she did.

 

[Microphone Fiend]

yea... i'm seem to be one of the few people that didn't like this but my opinon is you kept pushing her away, but you never really tried to reel her back in... Show a lil more interest next time... you can't be all Push*push*push...

Alright here's a money line that you shoulda used

Her:Omg I couldn;t believe when you said you were 18
Me: Yea I get that a lot... So what is it about younger guys that turns you on so much?

It really sounds like she liked you, and was trying to convince herself not to go after you, but you acted immature and managed to validate her opinion on younger men.

 

[squirrels]

Heh, I'm no expert, but this sounds like you're going backwards. You had her going, but once you get into good rapport or get to the point where you're grinding and ****, you can't really bust her chops straight up...it moves you to a previous stage in the "relationship".

Although this really isn't that bad, so I suspect it's something in your delivery/body language that got her thinking, "He's not trying to be cute, he's actually busting on me. I'm not getting anywhere with him." Instead of putting your arm around her, getting real close to her ear and saying, "Don't worry, I don't think she wants you", you probably were leaning back, ****y expression, chomping gum, and she thought, "this guy is a real prick."

BTW, chomping ANYTHING with your mouth open is not an attractive behavior. Not saying you should change just to get chicks, but if you don't then don't be surprised when you ward them off.

 

[-HPNOTIQ-]

Originally posted by Microphone Fiend



It really sounds like she liked you, and was trying to convince herself not to go after you, but you acted immature and managed to validate her opinion on younger men.

Mic Fiend has it RIGHT here.

She wanted you..she tried to get close to you..she tried to convince herself that maybe, just maybe the 18 year old in you would be everything she DIDNT expect.

But, you over did it with the c/f stuff..and validated her opinion on younger men.

If this opportunity were to happen again, act mature, act c/f...but...dont over do it.

Instead of insulting the qualities of older men...you should personify what is so great about being with a young.

A great c/f response to her insults of younger men:

While dancing in the club -

Her: "I really don't date younger men...they're so immature."

You: "Immature huh?? hahaha..(motion her hands to rub your six pack)....I make up for it with my STAMINA...(huge grin)."

Her: "Nice"

You: "I know...that's the same reason I only date older women. They seem to always have something new to teach me..."

blah blah blah...I think you can take it from there.

 

[Black_Italian]

ok cool thanks for that guys........im going to fix it at the gym tonight il talk to her il say something along the lines of.
"forget about saturday, you know what im going to do im going to take you out on thursday night (i wont say where yet, i think this will add a bit of mystrey. It wont be anywere boring like the movies)well have a good time and then after that we will see what happens"................... il tell u guys how it goes.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

First of all, Squirrels, I've been agreeing with you lately.

Black Italian, whatever you do DO NOT do what what you just typed on your last post. Don't come across as you are trying to apologize for your behavior and now will make it up to her by "taking her out." You didn't do anything bad to her, if anything , it is the only thing you still got going for you, the challenge part. If you go try to "make it up to her" it will be the moment you crumble as soon as you approach it this way.

My guess is that she will start playing games and know she owns you. If anything, you should lead the conversation into a situation where the frame is "I know you were a little bratty on saturday, but I might actually consider getting together with you, since you want me" type of attitude. No, don't use that statement. That should be your attitude.

So far you are handling yourself very well so far, but you do have to make some type of sexual advance. All you've done so far is resist her advances and shown composure. You might be a very good looking guy, sounds like it, since this older gal is really putting up with a lot, so there is some strong interest.

If you are a good looking guy, you might want to tone down on the negs and c/f. You might be coming across as an immature prick. She doesn't mind a little arrogance, but you have to make sure you are funny and charming, and show her you are a red-blooded young man.

Start doing what was adviced here before, pull her in with some interest, then push her off. Good job on your attitude, most guys, including the ones her age she claims to be into, don't show this much control.

Whatever you do, do NOT go nice on her and come across as if you are changing to be nice to her. Because of your behavior, she is thinking of you, so don't drop the ball now. Watch out for other obvious signs of interest, but wait 'till you express some sexual interest before you start busting her balls again.

If you don't already have her number, etc. now is the time to get some of her info. If you see her often, you don't need to call her; that will get her thinking "Why hasn't he called?"

 

[Black_Italian]

Gangster Of Love thanks for the advice brotha i didnt get it by the time i went to gym but i didnt see her there... LUCKY!!. Il c her wensday and il try using the attitude u said. I never realy considerd getting her number cause i see her atleast 4 times a week but i think i will know. Anyway thanks again for the advice il keep use posted on what happens.

Cyas