IL crash or AFC creeping back???

golf299

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ok, took a girl out who i've been out with a couple times before (in a group setting)...so this was our first 1-on-1 date. we had a good time at dinner...i opened all doors for her and what not, and then we went ice skating, which was good fun. on the ice we were holding hands and stuff.

the last time i was with this girl i did kiss her, but it wasnt open-mouthed or anything too spectacular, but we did kiss. however, on this date, when we were in my car at the end, there was no kiss. she leaned in for the hug and after we hugged, we kinda pulled apart slightly with our faces really close, but nothing happened.

i made some afc mistakes on the date and i wasnt feeling on top of my game at all (i think maybe because i took some medicine before hand that made me a little tired, and she was tired too for some reason)

so i guess i just wasnt feeling it from my end or hers... this girl is super-fly, so i want to know what the best next move i can make is...

she's having surgery later this week so i was thinking of getting her a "get-well" balloon or card and then trying to set something up for the weekend (while making sure to kiss close this time!!)

what do you all think?
thanks guys!
 

NewMan

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I think your worrying to much about it all.

It sounds like you were waiting for her to kiss you?

why?

Why didn't you just kiss her? You wouldn't feel like crap now - plus you would know her interest level.

Thats was you biggest mistake - not going for the kiss.


I wouldn't send her a balloon - call her up, wish her the best, tell her you'll be thinking of her - and that your looking forward to taking her to do XYZ when she's out.

And this time - kiss her.
 

golf299

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yeah, not kissing her was a HUGE mistake... i think i psyched myself out by worrying about it all night... i didnt want to wait til the end to kiss her because i think its so cliche and expected to kiss at the end of the date.

but, alas, i pu$$ied out.

i'm thinking im going to contact her tomorrow, just not exactly sure how i will go about it yet...
 

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Forget about the kiss, I'd say unless you're reading her well, don't just go in for the kiss for the sake of going in for the kiss. This stuff to me, can't get too technical, or else it seems ingenuine. Let things flow, ask her out on more dates, and when the time feels right, then you'll know by the way she acts. Then, when you go for the kiss, it will be a great thing.

Sometimes I think that a girl that may be interested in you down the road will reject a kiss if it is done at the wrong moment, even though she might be somewhat interested. Timing to me is pretty key more than a strict rule that says you need to kiss her at the end of the date or else you screwed up. That's B.S. plain and simple.
 
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