Hi. So, i don't really know what to do with this girl from class - i've had a really big crush on her for about 2 -3 months (oneitis, i know) and we've talked for 6 months. Since the beginning, she has been (very) physical and flirting with me which i have reciprocated and intensified since crushing on her. Until a few weeks ago, i really thought she was into me - we were snapping and chatting multiple times a day, mostly initiated by her. However, 2 weeks ago i asked if i should come over to her place one evening to watch a movie to which she agreed (we had never done that before, and i thought it was on). But just 10 minutes before i was heading out to her place, she flaked (she had to get up very early the next morning). Instead, she said that i should come to her place next tuesday. However, monday she suggested that we went to the cinema with a mutual friend instead on tuesday. This is like the 3rd time she flaked on me, and i think that made her intentions pretty clear...
Because of the flaking I'm like 80% certain that she's not into me and only wants us to be friends. I still have a mad crush on her but i'm kind of angry with her for flaking. As mentioned, i'm in class with her, and we have a lot of mutual friends, so i can't completely ignore her. But i thought about just backing off and never initiating contact while still being polite. If i'm wrong and she is in fact interested, i suppose she would express it to some degree with me backing off. Could it be that she flaked because she was afraid i was only in it to get laid (which i'm not) or is it a lost cause? Or am i better off just continuing our flirty friendship as if nothing happened?
Because of the flaking I'm like 80% certain that she's not into me and only wants us to be friends. I still have a mad crush on her but i'm kind of angry with her for flaking. As mentioned, i'm in class with her, and we have a lot of mutual friends, so i can't completely ignore her. But i thought about just backing off and never initiating contact while still being polite. If i'm wrong and she is in fact interested, i suppose she would express it to some degree with me backing off. Could it be that she flaked because she was afraid i was only in it to get laid (which i'm not) or is it a lost cause? Or am i better off just continuing our flirty friendship as if nothing happened?
