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Hey. It seems like in the beginning of the year, whenever I said "Hi" to someone i knew, they'd usually give a positive response, but now that its december, they just seem to ignore me or just look at me and don't say a word(They know i'm there). I'm just wondering why people ignore other people when they just say "hi" or greet or wave.

Note: They are right in front of me, and no, i haven't done anything to them.
 

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Sometimes people are shy and other times they don't feel like talking to people. I know I do this occasionally.

Moved to Discussion by the way.
 

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Do you say anything after saying hi? If you don't try following up with something to get a conversation going. If somebody I don't really know says hi to me I'll just say hi back. I would figure they were just being friendly if they didn't follow up with anything after the initial "hi."
 

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I'm gonna take a wild guess that your a freshman. In the beggining of the year most ppl will say hi since so many ppl do that (primarily freshman). Now by December most everyone has found there own groups of friends and doesn't have an urge for becoming great friends right off the bat.
 

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maybe it's exam stress gettin to them, yea that's probably it, everyone is in there own world thinking about how to make up 4 all the partying when they shuda been studying:D
 

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I agree with Vercingetorix (cool name, nothing like alesia)...

At the start of the year, (even 2nd or 3rd) everyone is very nervous and any familiar face is a relief. It also makes insecure ppl feel better if it appears they have lots of friends in the first few weeks.

Afterwards, they're back into the routine, have a set of good friends (maybe new, maybe old) and so don't need the morale boost of being enthusiastic w anyone that isn't a complete stranger.

Don't let it bug you, i only stayed friends w 5 or 6 first year friends, but made a ton more second year.
 

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Originally posted by Vercingetorix777
I'm gonna take a wild guess that your a freshman. In the beggining of the year most ppl will say hi since so many ppl do that (primarily freshman). Now by December most everyone has found there own groups of friends and doesn't have an urge for becoming great friends right off the bat.
Yeah, I would bet this is the case. The first month of college is like a free pass to talk to anyone, but after that, most people have their own friends and couldn't give a sh*t about getting to know.

The one exception is parties when everyone's drunk. Then you can go back to first-month mode and say Hi to everyone without getting weird looks.
 

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If you can break this unspoken code (of not making new friends once the year is underway), then you can prove to yourself that you're a capable PUA. :) Challenge yourself - take that as a fun task to overcome! :)


Anyway, it's already well into the school year, and people are in a their usual groove. Go to class, come back. Do homework. Then go hang out at the coffee shop/bar with the same old people. Break that cycle.



Do a cold-read. Say something like, "You know, it's funny how people on campus always ignore each other. They've got a couple of people they hang with now, so they think they don't need to socialize, and they close themselves off. I think that's awful. It's a mistake. You on the other hand -- I can't tell you're different [cold-read]. I can tell you're not closed-off; I can see that you're an open-minded girl.


If she likes your style, she will smile. Then segueway into ball-busting:


"Wow, and you're super-cute too when you smile!"
"You've got a nice smile."
"Your nose wrinkles up when you laugh!"



Then just take it from there. Build rapport - talk about school, hometown, classes, etc. Number close.




I once number closed a very cute Puerto Rican/Dominican girl (Norah Jones look-a-like, interestingly) in a cafeteria using this very method - in front of about 4 girlfriends and 3 very large, and irritated Puerto Rican dudes! :D :shock: Well actually, I did the whole cold-read/routine while waiting in line with her. Then I walked upto her table full of rowdy Boriquas and number closed her, right in front of all her friends. I went back to my apartment afterwards to check if my balls were made of steel or not! :p J/k.
 

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Thanks alot guys, I feel alot better now, and yea, I'm gonna break the cycle.
 

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Dude... When you have 5 exams in a row and... yeah... partied all fn semester :D

You're not really in the mood to to say hi... Add to this the fact that you have slept for like 3 hours a day for the last week :D
 
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