Thanks this is just what I needed ... I'm back at the gym, diets almost on point. And I am trying to generate work ... A lot of it boils down to being where I'm at in life at this moment in time, I should get back in shape pretty quickly due to muscle memory as I was big last year. And improve my looks with getting a tan etc... I'm just at a loose end on the financial front ... As I'm 31 and broke.
Sure, right now at this moment, you are 31 and broke. So what? That is not what is important!!! What is important is what you are going to do about it!!
Plenty of incredibly successful people have lost everything at some point in their lives, some more than once, only to show the world who they are by building their life up again.
This moment of being broke does not define you unless you let it. It's an opportunity for you to demonstrate your character, skills, resourcefulness, and determination.
You write the script. What do you want to create? Go do that!
Let me offer you an analogy for your thinking, "I am 31 and broke."
If that remains your focus and what you keep telling yourself, it's as helpful as someone who needs to lose weight consistently repeating I am fat. I am fat. I am fat. I am fat. I am fat. I am fat. I am fat.
That only reinforces their self judgement and perpetuates a sense of internal shame. That only digs a deeper darker hole to try and pull themselves out of.
What serves them is to focus on what they want, what they can do and to do those things. They want to feel strong, energetic, and fit. They choose to move more and eat better. They begin to feel empowered. They build momentum. As they stick with it, their life begins to morph to that of someone who feels fit, strong, energetic and fit. They work out now. They are spending more time outdoors rather than on the couch. They are making new friends here and there. There trying new foods and new activities. They feel more vibrant and alive. They are enjoying themselves. Their body is transforming. Their life is transforming. Their living the life they want. It feels so good.
Do that with your finances. Start by making a list of ALL your talents and skills, including the most ordinary. Do this for you! Really do it! Force yourself to consider and look at all your capacities and all you can do! If the list isn't crazy long you are staying stuck in "I am fat/broke" thinking. Just as the other started eating healthy and moving more...do the equivalent in your business/career/financial goals. Force yourself to get out of the box you are in and expand your actions and reality.
Many years ago, I was having a moment of shame about my own body and how far it was from the fit healthy body I desired. Somehow I got into all these really intense judgements of the ways it/I wasn't healthy and fit. It hurt inside. I felt worse and worse. I could feel myself constricting and feeling powerless.
This thought slapped me right out of that. I imagined someone who was fully paralyzed and lives their life in a wheelchair and if they had the opportunity to switch places and have MY unfit body in that moment. I realized they would find joy in being able to have arms and legs they could feel and move. They would take delight in being able to move, play and experience the world through this very body I was feeling so judgmental of. I realized the unhealthy, unfit body I was feeling so disappointed with would not phase them. They would jump right in and make it what they wanted, if only they could have the opportunity. They'd simply do what I described above. They'd love the very same body I was busy shaming and judging. They would enjoy it and treasure it. I realized that what I was feeing bad about would be someone else's dream come true. I realized how much opportunity was mine, if I simply chose to have it. I moved into gratitude realizing how fortunate I am to have the body I do and to have the opportunity to experience life in ways that someone who is fully paralyzed will never know.
Suddenly I had woken up again, to the gift my body already was, right that moment, that somehow I had lost sight of.
I am not sure what country you live in and what level of opportunity exists for you. I live in the U.S. There are endless reasons one could point out as to why it could be difficult to make money or build a business here. It could feel like a constant uphill struggle that leaves one feeling overwhelmed and hopeless sometimes. I get that.
What I also imagine is that there are people in other countries whose lives truly lack the freedom, the available resources and the opportunity to build their own business if they wanted. They may be forced to work a factory job for pennies a day, their entire life. Another may be struggling in a war torn country just to find shelter and literally survive. If they had the opportunity to jump into your body and have your business or career opportunity right now, it could be like winning the lotto to them.
There would be no complaints. They'd be thrilled to have the opportunity to work hard and utilize all the amazing resources the rest of us so often take for granted. They would put in effort, gain momentum, and gain the admiration of those around them, as they did not hesitate to take full advantage, of the opportunity to live a life where they could suddenly have their own business or financial success if they wanted it.
Given the opportunities, they would perceive you have right now, I imagine they'd work hard to create their dream and they would do so with a heart full of gratitude for the opportunity to do so everyday.
REALLY consider, all that you have available to you right now, that would be someone else's dream come true. Take action on YOUR dream, every day, with the gratitude they would have, if your opportunity, suddenly became theirs.
