If you're a regular..how do you hit on staff?

[8ball]

I haven't seen this topic before.

Let's say you go to the gym every single day for a couple of years.
It's pretty crowded, but the staff has seen you and knows who you are.

Then one day you decide: You know what? I think that trainer is pretty hot! I want to ask her out.

But she's seen you come in everyday for two years and you've never talked to her before.

Now..do you like like a total puss? Did you blow it by not asking her out right away and not hesitating? How does this look from a woman's point of view? That it took two years to get up the nerve?

In my case, I just never noticed her all that much. But I asked her a quick question the other day ( 'Is someone using this machine?' ) and she turned out to be pretty cute.

But I'm kinda at a loss about what to do, b/c she may have me pegged as a hesitating dude.

 

[Dee-Zy]

Just say Hi.

Then Hi again the next day

and the day after that - or you can add it with a 'how you doing/you look good' type of comment

then when u feel like u have a grasp on the situation, use this.

Hi! How you doing? *then pause N just look at her (with a smile of course)*

You know what? I have been say'N talk'N to you for he past days/weeks/months (ok, maybe not months lol) and I don't even know your name!

Then introduction starts, fluff talk N u ask the number here.

GL


GHOST

 

[CyranoDeBergerac]

Yeah, what Dee-Zy said, but I'll take it one step further...

Because she's seen you around she might be more comfortable around you, hence she might lower that dreaded bane of intercourse (verbal or otherwise...)...the b1tch sheild.

You got this one man, just relax, say hi, and maybe crack a joke or two if something strikes you as funny.

 

[ShortyBrown]

be careful, some girls don't make a habit of $hitting where they sleep.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Here's a suggestion, after chatting for a while and upon deciding you want to go out with her, tell her that you want to ask her a strange question (pique her interest).

Ask her where she goes to hang out that's different than where you guys are now. Be sure ask her quietly (as it was a secret) so not to get her into trouble about suggesting the competition to where ever you are (plus you can get in real close to her so that she can hear you )

Get her to start telling you about the place and why she likes it so much. Then spring a line on her like, "So what day works best for you to take me to this place and show me around? I'm free Wednesday and Thursday (or whenever)."

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Alright guys, I think I am semi-qualified to answer this one, since I am a trainer at a gym. Most of the female trainers, specially the cute/attractive ones, are used to being hit on by dumbasses in the gym, so you better hope there is an initial attraction there. The female trainers are hit on by all kinds of guys, clients, clients who look good and/or have money, jocks, muscle heads, etc. So you better make sure you stand out, because she's probably heard it all. And she won't be as easy to impress as the girls that work the front desk.

My advice is that you talk to her and get her talking about her carreer as a trainer, by asking specific questions, she'll love getting into it, at least if she loves her job, and is passionate about it, let her tell you about how great her job is, etc.

So yeah, the bottom line is, how well can you sell yourself among the pool of interested candidates?

 

[iqqi]

there has actually been a post on this exact thing, (guy interested in HB at the gym). i can't remember exactly but i think it may have been a Deep Blue post. Any Masters know what I'm talking about? It was originally an email exchange, and then he put it on the boards so people could learn from it...

You nshould DEFINATELY read it, cus that guy f@cked up...

 

[-HPNOTIQ-]

I'm with Gangster of Love on this one...

I'm a regular at a local gym and friends with a very cute aerobics/kickboxing instructor (age 22, college business major, hot filipina)

She's HEARD IT ALL, SEEN IT ALL, and, BEEN APPROACHED BY ALL.

Tall guys, short guys, rich guys, poor guys, guys with 100k/year jobs, AFC's, DJ's....everyone.

So, I ask her...what kind of guy is she interested in? She broke it down like this:
"I'm not interested in what a guy has, what kind of car he drives, or yadda yadda about his boat, house, clothes, etc. For once, I'd like a guy to talk less about himself and act less like a show-off. I like a down to earth guy. Yes, I've dated guys I've met here at work. But, I don't like making a habit of it. The one thing the guys I've met at the gym had in common was that they talked less about their possessions, and asked more about me."

Proof positive that women love talking about themselves, the reason why the convo should remain 70/30. Keep inquisitive, ask questions, listen, then learn.

You have a better shot actually being interested in her genuinely than showing off that you have a 13 inch p*nis and enough cash to buy Anna Nichole Smith's love for the weekend.

-HQ

 

[Chemistry]

In this kinda situation I feel you need to act straight away to get the best results...

So, you join the gym, or start your new job, then from the minute you get in there on that first day you decide how you want the rest of the people to perceive you, because first impressions carry a lot of weight... if you're all AFC say for 3 months, then one day you think I like such and such a girl then go act, she's still got the AFC pic in her mind... however, had you gone in on that first day took command and saw then hit it off with her on a social level before moving on to asking her for a drink she knows who you are...

She may reject you, but you'll forever be in her mind as that guy who had the confidence to just step up to the plate and ask her which is a much better perception than the guy who took three months to build his confidence up / realise what he wanted before he asked... a guy who knows what he wants is attractive to girls

All is never lost tho' of course... if the girl thinks you're good lookin' on the first day, then chances are she's still gonna think the same, so you just need to project the right kinda attitude and confidence to show her that the above didn't apply... its just much easier to start as you mean to go on, changin a person's perception of you is a difficult thing to do