If your girl is pregnant

[Thugo]

If you find out your girl is pregnant, what do you do?

1) You don't love the girl

2) You won't abandoned your kid. I will stick with her to raise it.

3) She is anti-abortion

4) Anti adoption

5) Is the game over?

 

[Aaron B]

first of all insist on a paternity test. don't accept any of her arguments to the contrary. Once you accept a child as your own, in many cases you can still be required to pay child support even if you later learn you are not the biological father

do you want to be a father? if not, did she know from the beginning you don't want a child?

are you 100% sure she is pregnant?

 

[Thugo]

Yes she is pregnant 100%.

I plan on the paternity test, but pretty sure it's mine.

I don't love this girl, but I won't be a rat and abandon her.

So now am I stuck in a miserable relationship the rest of my life with a girl I don't love and a kid? Maybe I'll love the kid.

I want to be a father sure, but not with her.

 

[DJDamage]

How did this happen?! did you use a condom?

 

[Thugo]

She's on the pill. Either it didn't work, or she set me up and didn't take it.

I still should have worn a condom though.

So is it game over? I'll never find the love of my life?


Like I said, I can't just abandon the girl because I don't love her. I have morals. She does love me, but I don't love her.

 

[itishe]

If you ever plan on backing down, give the child away to a good home. Don't kill it to make your lives easier, it didn't want to be born only to be slaughtered later.

 

[Aaron B]

why try to make the relationship work if you don't love her? It is doomed to fail, why put you, the child, and her through that misery?

Of course your number one priority in life should be the welfare of your child

 

[Thugo]

Originally posted by itishe
If you ever plan on backing down, give the child away to a good home. Don't kill it to make your lives easier, it didn't want to be born only to be slaughtered later.

Read my first post. She is against abortion. She will never do it. She would never give it away for adoption. She wants the damn kid. She's happy she's pregnant. She got me good. My only hope is the paternity test reveals it's not mine.

The one thing I will not do is marry her because of this.

 

[Thugo]

Originally posted by Aaron B
why try to make the relationship work if you don't love her? It is doomed to fail, why put you, the child, and her through that misery?

Of course your number one priority in life should be the welfare of your child

That's why I'm sticking with her. A child needs 2 parents.

 

[frivolousz21]

dont be with her if u dont love her.

just be a good dad..pay child support and see your child as much as you can.

 

[Thugo]

I know this is a terrible thing to say, but I am actually praying for a miscarriage.

 

[DJDamage]

Originally posted by Thugo
She's on the pill. Either it didn't work, or she set me up and didn't take it.

I still should have worn a condom though.

So is it game over? I'll never find the love of my life?


Like I said, I can't just abandon the girl because I don't love her. I have morals. She does love me, but I don't love her.

Let that be a lesson to the rest of you, never trust a girl with the pills (she either forgets to take them or they don't end up working properly). Even if a girl says she will take the 48hr pill or do abortion, don;t believe her. She might change her mind when she will have to make that tough decision.

Even if you wear a condom I recommand to still pull it out before you ***.

If you don't love her, don't be with her despite if its your kid or not.

 

[itishe]

Originally posted by Thugo
Read my first post. She is against abortion. She will never do it. She would never give it away for adoption. She wants the damn kid. She's happy she's pregnant. She got me good. My only hope is the paternity test reveals it's not mine.

The one thing I will not do is marry her because of this.

I guess you're right.

It's what the woman says goes. We have legislation making head way to states that women may have an abortion without asking for permission first from their husband/boyfriend, etc.

Screw child support, just split the time taking care of the child. There is no reason women should have more power in who gets to take care of the child over males. If she takes care of the baby full time and you just send checks and stop by time to time, she can influence the child into resenting her father.

 

[Thugo]

She keeps saying if I keep drinking she is going to take the baby and leave.

Time to raid the liquor store!!!!

Seriously, she said that last night. She has a huge family who could help her raise the kid.

 

[itishe]

Originally posted by Thugo
She keeps saying if I keep drinking she is going to take the baby and leave.

Time to raid the liquor store!!!!

Seriously, she said that last night. She has a huge family who could help her raise the kid.

Thugo don't let her think she's the master of this baby simply because it's coming out of her vagina. Remeber it takes 2 to create 1.

 

[Thugo]

She is around 2 months pregnant. When do miscarrages take place ususally? I know this is sick, but if it happens naturally, then so be it.

 

[john_1234]

this kind of situation has always been a fear of mine. girls i've messed with in the past, the ones i knew for sure i didn't want a future with, i'd always withdraw prior to orgasm and jerk myself off. you can NEVER trust any girl who says she's on the pill. and you can NEVER know for sure if the condom you have on at that moment will break or not.
about maybe ten years ago, i had a conversation with this guy who had a night stand with some girl... she got pregnant. she wanted to keep the baby. the guy explained to the girl that he would be there for the baby, but he wouldn't be there for her.
this is the same approach i'd take if i was in a similar situation. i know it sounds harsh, but in a complicated situaiton like this, it's best to be blunt/to the point. i would tell her, "i do not see myself being with you in the future. but what ever decision you make, i'll respect that. and i'll be there for the baby... but i'm not going to be there for you."
reminds me of something chris rock said in one of his stand up routines. i'll never forget this!
"If you get a girl pregnant, NEVER even consider mentioning abortion. don't even mention the first ****ing syllables. because if she decides to keep it, that baby will be six years old one day... and you'll ask your son how he's doing, and he'll say, "I'M ALIVE MOTHER****ER! THAT'S HOW I'M DOING! YOU WANTED ME DEAD! BUT LOOK AT ME! I'M ALIVE MOTHER****ER!"

So to avoid this type of drama, there's only two things you can say to a girl in this type of situation:

1) said in an AFC'ish type of way, "Oh baby, this is fantastic! I look forward to having this baby with you. Oh baby I loooove you!....























































































2) Look at her straight in the eyes seriously and say, "So what are you going to do?"





Oh man, that was classic! Funny yet so true

 

[Aaron B]

Originally posted by Thugo
That's why I'm sticking with her. A child needs 2 parents.

do you honestly believe you two will stay together for 18 years?

 

[Desdinova]

She's on the pill. Either it didn't work, or she set me up and didn't take it.

I've noticed that women are terrible at taking ANY kind of pills. Unless you live with the woman and see her take the pill each day, don't take her word for it. Put a rubber on.

She keeps saying if I keep drinking she is going to take the baby and leave.

Time to raid the liquor store!!!!

If you don't have joined custody, you'll probably end up paying for child support. All your paycheques will have a chunk deducted off them (which is based on your gross, not your take-home) to care for said baby (and for the mother to spend however she sees fit). You have two choices:

1) Joined custody
2) Pay for the kid's needs, her makeup, her shoes, her new bf's birthday present, etc etc.

 

[Thugo]

How about I put a bananna peel on top of my stairs tonight?