If You Flatter Her

[LoneSilver]

Ok just a simple question is flattering a woman an attempt at impressing her? If I tell a woman like I have that I think she is beautiful was this my attempt in her eyes to impress her with my words even though I didn't ask her name or phone at the time?

Does this automatically make me not the PRIZE in her eyes or does it set off all kinds of thoughts in her mind the way I handled it so far.

Let say I gaged this question to 20 women and all 20 being in the range of 6's and upwards to 10's and all said they would find a guy doing this a good guy but not so much the nice guy and would generate more interest in him. Now would I take my cue from these women or should I just put them aside and pay attention to DJ tips etc.

I think this would make an interesting discussion as women say they want one thing in a man but always seem to go for the other so in my situation have I setup the other with my situation or have I just set myself up in buddy land or is it to early to tell?

LoneSilver

 

[PopProducer]

For me it's not a question of telling or not telling certain things... It's the general attitude..

Most DJ's tell the women they are pretty, even if they aren't... What you say is not really important... It's what you DO what is going to tell her if you're desperate for her...

Let's say that you tell two woman at a party that they are very pretty. You get both phone numbers, and call the first one the following day and the other one three days ago... It's the time you waited what will indicate them how desperate are you, not what you say.

Don't pay too much attention to words... Pay attention to what people do... If I had a cent for every time that a girl told me that "nothing will happen" and we ended up in bed... I would have many cents.

 

[white cloud 8]

Originally posted by PopProducer
For me it's not a question of telling or not telling certain things... It's the general attitude..

Most DJ's tell the women they are pretty, even if they aren't... What you say is not really important... It's what you DO what is going to tell her if you're desperate for her...

Let's say that you tell two woman at a party that they are very pretty. You get both phone numbers, and call the first one the following day and the other one three days ago... It's the time you waited what will indicate them how desperate are you, not what you say.

Don't pay too much attention to words... Pay attention to what people do... If I had a cent for every time that a girl told me that "nothing will happen" and we ended up in bed... I would have many cents.

Would that also apply to talking a girl whom you see almost everyday in class ? (I don't talk to her that often, and, the majority of it is small talk). A girl gauges you by your actions and not by your words???

 

[t00dumb]

anyone can say anything to flatter a girl. but the real key to success is indeed how you say it, your tone, the way things flow when you talk, very smooth and interesting matter. for sure those will raise an eyebrow for her, in a good way of course

 

[LoneSilver]

Ok good replies. From my prospective I have handled my situation from not a desperate position.

Funny thing though after I had done this approach I read one of David D's Double Your Dating letter tips and it was a simular approach it made me feel pretty good except mine I believe adds more mystery as I didn't ask her name or number YET and just walked out but letting her know I just wanted her to know I thought she was beautiful and left her hanging in mystery as to who is this guy shes been eyeing then stops and then he shows up a month or so later with this interest level. I also explain in the last paragrah why I did it this way.

Every situation is different and I guess we just have to use our judgment and handle it the best we can and learn from our mistakes. But I have to deal with a complex with my eye condition and try to move forward and not think about me but her. Its easier said then done I might add and I always feel I might appear intimating to women the way my eyes are but maybe not so I have to play safe so to be a nice guy to ease the woman of interest but to go to good guy to let them know I'm still the man and know what I want and I demand respect or their history.

I'm here to learn and I'm not bragging but this Walmart lady is a Heather Locklear lookalike and believe me approaching a lady like this after her giving me strong eye contacts I stood tall shoulders back head held high looking her straight in the eyes and letting her know that my thoughts are not coming from a submissive boy and that I am not afraid of her. But I'd be lying if I said I wasn't nervous but I just went through it but oh my what a feeling I got when she blushed and smiled and said thank you I was just all shucks and stuff>chuckle.

But I held to my game as I didn't really want to engage her just yet in conversation I wanted her to look close at me and not at the distance it had been so she can see I have a minor disability and to see if it bothers her or doesn't for I am giving her room to decide. For when I go in there next and there is no vibe or eye contact at all I will know but if shes giving me a good vibe then I will know to proceed but with caution. But we will see in the days ahead in how my approach plays out and it will be a long time before I give out another compliment like the one I gave her as it then would appear desperate to give anymore to soon.

Peace

LoneSilver

 

[Nocturnal]

discussion

 

[LoneSilver]

Originally posted by Nocturnal
discussion

Huh? Did I miss something>chuckle.

LoneSilver

 

[someperson1987]

what about for younger (18-22) for me its seems to work wonders. I'm young too tho

 

[LoneSilver]

Originally posted by someperson1987
what about for younger (18-22) for me its seems to work wonders. I'm young too tho

Personally if its working for you then your doing it right for why fix something thats working for you?

LoneSilver

 

[PopProducer]

Originally posted by white cloud 8
Would that also apply to talking a girl whom you see almost everyday in class ? (I don't talk to her that often, and, the majority of it is small talk). A girl gauges you by your actions and not by your words???

Of course... That's worst, because whatever you say she's there everyday to see if you act that way or not...

It's a great thing to a pproach a girl you see everyday (or that you see regularly in situations she can't skip).

For me the best you can do is to show some interest in her but making her know (not but TELLING HER but SHOWING HER) that other girls there are interested in you so she must make a move fast...

Of course, it's not very easy because you need the other girls... But they are easy to find... You don't need to sleep with them, a little "XXX called me last night and told me..." and a few "ops it's late and I have to meet XX at the park" make wonders (and she doesn't need to know that you'll see xx at the park only to return a book)