If she cheats on you???

[SweetSassyMalasy]

Say you've been with a girl for 3 months. If your gf goes on vacation with her girls and comes back and tells you that she got drunk one night and made out with some guy. Or that she fooled around with some guy while she was there but she was really drunk. She says she's really sorry and says that she was too drunk to think clearly and that she wants a second chance. Would you give her a second chance?

 

[Scrumtulescence]

No. That's bullshit. Not only is she likely to do it again, but she should have control over herself even when she's drunk.

 

[spider_007]

you just earned your self a freebe, use it wisely.

 

[JohnJones]

Even if it was an accident, it means that she's untrustworthy. Is she going to stop drinking? Stop going out?

The first time she goes out and refuses to drink, she will bow to peer pressure, or feel that you are "controlling" her...

Do her the best favor you can and calmly dump her saying that you cannot trust her and that you hope she can learn from the experience.

 

[SweetSassyMalasy]

that sucks

 

[tseluca]

Let me ask you, What are you looking for?

If you want a serious relationship, I would say don't do it with her.

If you are just looking to have a good time and hook up on occasion, tell her the rules have now changed, that you like her, like hanging out with her, but you realize she is not "girlfriend material". Tell her you could still hang out, but she must realize that you will be persuing other women. If she puts up a fight, just tell her, you obviously were looking for other guys, thats the way it is, sometimes 2 people like eachother, but they are not meant to be"

She cant argue with that

 

[SeldomSeen]

RE:

well ask yourself this: if you went on vacation with a bunch of guys and got drunk as hell and some hot girls were hitting on you would you say "hey thanks Im drunk but I do have a girlfriend at home that I care about?" or would you go for it. Now ask yourself that about 5 times and go over it in your head. If you wouldnt do it then you should think about ending it with her. If you wouldve cheated in this situation and feel that you yourself would need a second chance then maybe you should base it off of your own standards. Hmmmmmmm quite a dilemma isnt it?

 

[Ebach]

don't ask yourself anything... kick her to the curb... she will come back crying... use that to get some pootang and find another girl to be your gf while banging this one while it lasts

 

[white cloud 8]

I don't know about you but, I'm not the forgiving type for those b*tches. Eventhough, it personally has not happened to me yet, I am sticking to my frame of mind.

**DON'T BE A PUSHOVER**

 

[g g g unit]

once a cheater always a cheater!!!!!!

 

[GropeDope]

Tell her the only way you'll stay with her is if she has a threesome with you.

 

[SweetSassyMalasy]

My whole thing about this is LOYALTY! I don't care if she is drunk out of her mind, it takes two to tango, so its still a decision that she is making. I would not give a girl a second chance even if she made out with some other guy while she was drunk cuz that breaks trust, relationships are based on trust. If I can't trust my woman do be trully mine while we r together than I can't be with her. I would not cheat on my gf even if I was drunk and was getting hit on by some hot *****es. But that's just me.

 

[everywomanshero]

it won;t work

Almost all women are inherently disloyal.

Sorry guys women are designed to select the best genes. The simple fact is this guy was good stock in her estimation. She felt attraction for him, wanted to be impregnated by him deep in her subconcious, and spread her legs for him very willingly. Whatever she tells you happened, a notch more probably really happened.

The truth is all women work this way. It should not change anything. At least she was honest enough to admit it. Now you're going to punish her for being hoest and find someone who will lie to you and always say nothing is up?

There are guys who know how women work, and there are guys who still don't get it yet. Step into the light

 

[General Septem]

Re: RE:

Originally posted by SeldomSeen
well ask yourself this: if you went on vacation with a bunch of guys and got drunk as hell and some hot girls were hitting on you would you say "hey thanks Im drunk but I do have a girlfriend at home that I care about?" or would you go for it. Now ask yourself that about 5 times and go over it in your head. If you wouldnt do it then you should think about ending it with her. If you wouldve cheated in this situation and feel that you yourself would need a second chance then maybe you should base it off of your own standards. Hmmmmmmm quite a dilemma isnt it?

I've thought about this but easily justify it by saying "but I'm a man, I'm the dominant one by nature". That said, I do believe in forgiveness, if your relationship has any meaning whatsoever to start with (though most really don't). Why do you go out with girls? If it's because you want sex, then whether you dump her or not really doesn't matter. But if you love the girl enough you can look past her mistakes. We're all human.

 

[Fash]

Dude,

This is something you can use to your advantage...

Think about it, you now have the upper hand in the relationship and you can use the emotional blackmale to get her to do anything you want!

The sad fact is that she WILL do it again, especially if she bumps into a smooth PUA.

So don't take it so seriously, have your fun with her and ditch her as soon as you've found something better.

 

[Johnnie5]

Originally posted by tseluca
Let me ask you, What are you looking for?

If you want a serious relationship, I would say don't do it with her.

If you are just looking to have a good time and hook up on occasion, tell her the rules have now changed, that you like her, like hanging out with her, but you realize she is not "girlfriend material". Tell her you could still hang out, but she must realize that you will be persuing other women. If she puts up a fight, just tell her, you obviously were looking for other guys, thats the way it is, sometimes 2 people like eachother, but they are not meant to be"

She cant argue with that

best advice i have read so far

She cannot be made to think that what she did is acceptable in a relationship

 

[DonJuanMonk]

She's not girlfriend material bro. Consider alternative options now.

 

[Captain Popular]

Dude, **** it, life's life and **** happens....i would make sure she feels like **** though.................I mean chances are you're not gunna marry this girl, so might as well have some fun with her before you trade her in.....hey what goes around comes around.....you have to give her props for at least telling you man, you woulda never known.
Im Out
Mr. Larry