If she blows you off... Should you ignore her after that? I need some reassurance.

[dji_21]

I need some reassurance... Any thoughts would be great....


This situation has happend more than once and I think I know the answer.


I expressed interest in a girl, she showed some interest, but than, probably due to my overexpressed interest, blew me off (ususally not a direct blow off).

Often after that happens they act as though nothing went wrong and expect you to act the same way you previously did - still be really into them.

Well, this happend again - ran into a girl I was previously really interested in, etc. I ran into the girl at a large group function that lasted over a few days. I pretty much straight ignored her - probably rude, but to tell you the truth I was pissed off that she blew me off. Is this the right move? I feel as though it shows I won't put up with that type of behaviour but at the same time I feel I lost any shot I had with her. On the other hand, there is a good change if she had any interest at all it may increase.
I assume there is no reason for me to contact her now after being "rude". I mean I pretty much looked in the opposite direction when she came around.

Thanks, just needed some answers.

 

[Tesl]

Being rude gets you nowhere, I'd be civil without making much effort to speak to her. You can display a lack of interest (or hint she's blown any chance with you) easily enough without being overly rude about it.

 

[PapiChulo]

I asked a similar question about a week ago, and the response that I liked was that you should stop chasing her, but do not ignore her all together: use neg hits, be seen in company of other women (particular good-looking ones), create some mystery around you, ****y/funny routines and be a better man in general. In other words, you work her from afar, yet show her that you do not really need her because there is a plenty of other women that will be interested.
Being rude only shows insecurities and that you take it too "personally", and therefore pissed off once rejected. Other than this, you can not really fool her - she knows you would eat out of the palm of her hand. It also may make her feel guilty for turning you down, making it even more difficult. So be subtle, she will get it, well if she doesn't-her loss.

Honestly, I see women acting like nothing ever happened when you ask them out, while some will simply avoid you, and the third type will even get hostile.
What's the big deal- I don't know. Never show how much you really like or need them.....once they know, you lost the control of the situation.

 

[Falcon25]

Listen to me you fuvk,

When a girl ignores or rejects you, you act only one way. INDIFFERENT. You don't give a rats fuvking **** that she did that to you. Why? 1) She doesn't pay your rent 2) She doesn't put food in your stomach 3) You have other women that you can get.

This is something you can't fake. You have to go deep within your soul. You have to know that you will have ZERO emotions. NONE. You act as if you are talking to a stranger, co-worker, acquaintance, whatever. Men who are emotional always lose. You asked her out, she didn't accept, you move on to the next one. Just like JayZ said. No need to be rude or anything. BE INDIFFERENT. Smile, the sun will come up tomorrow and you will get your **** wet with another girl!


DO NOT BE INDULGENT

 

[joelchris2]

falcon....U gave the best advice...