if she blows you off, should you do the same back?

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Ok, here's the deal. I went out with this girl to a movie, all went good. Her IL was good, and we planned to go out again. The first time, I had to cancel due to something that's insignificant for this post. Second time we were going to get together again, she said her ex b/f talked to her online and called her a slut and their relationship was a joke so she was upset. She ended up going bowling and to oscars with one of her girlfriends and said it was a "girls night". Next, we were going to get together two days later. She said she had something at 6, and would be done soon. I called, and she wasn't back until 10:30 and she didn't even call me, I talked to her online. She said her thing started late, then she was hungry so ate pizza at her friends house, until 10:30 I guess and she said she lost track of time. The next day we were gonna do something but she said she might not be able to, and would have to be back by 7:00. It's now 9:30 and her away message on AIM says she's out for the night.

WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Now, tomorrow she's having a pool party for her birthday. I think I'm gonna skip this and talk to her later online and say some stupid excuse as to why I missed it.

Does this sound good? I'm not gonna let her blow me off and walk over me right?

so:

1) Should I skip her party tomorrow I said I'd go to?
2) Does it sound like she's avoiding me / blowing me off?
 

OpenMind

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Forget the online sh*t. Talk to her on the phone if you do. I would back off for a few days and keep sh*t quiet. Girls with high interest level do not blow you off.
 

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i would say to next her for blowing you off, but you did it to her first. go to the party be friendly and hit on other girls too. then give her another shot, if she flakes again next her.
 

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If she repeatedly blows you off, she is a waste of your attention. YOur attention is precious, don't waste it.

If you want to go to the party and hang with your friends, then DO IT. You don't have to be up her ass the whole time if it's a party. Just be polite, but keep your distance. If you don't feel like going at all then DON'T GO. But don't blow the party off as some revenge-act. If she's blown you off that many times, she probably won't give two sh*ts if you "blow her off." The IL is just not here. Honestly, how can you "blow her off" if she never shows to anything anyway?

If anything, go to the party and try to get your mack on with some of her friends...not because you want to make her jealous, but because maybe they'll be more receptive to what you have to offer.
 

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I'm not friends with any of them, and there are no girls above the bottom line for the attractiveness scale that are going....I know who they all are, but am not friends with them. I don't even want to go, if anything I'll caller her later and set something up later.
 

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Originally posted by dogstar
She said she had something at 6, and would be done soon. I called, and she wasn't back until 10:30 and she didn't even call me
Umm, take the hint. Move on.
 

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This girl obviously has no interest nor any respect for you.
And you don't know any of her friends which are going to her party.
So do yourself a favor and move on to some other girl, cause this one is wasting your time.
 

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Yeah! Word, brothers! She's got what's coming! Better yet, I'm gonna call a different girl and hang out at the time when her party is going on! Hell yeah!
 

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Definitely forget about this girl. When a chick disrespects you to such a point they need a taste of their own medicine and to lose the chance they had with you. Afterall, it's their loss.
 

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Originally posted by dogstar
Yeah! Word, brothers! She's got what's coming! Better yet, I'm gonna call a different girl and hang out at the time when her party is going on! Hell yeah!
Right plan, wrong reasons. You're not hanging out with another girl because you want to make the first girl jealous or give her "what's coming," cuz honestly she probably won't care. You're hanging with the other girl because YOU WANT to hang with the other girl and YOU WANT to have a good time. :)
 

dogstar

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right, i don't give a flying f*** about what the other girl cares, she isn't even going to know im hanging out with anybody else. all i know is im not wasting any more time.
 
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