You have the proper mindset. It's really not worth the trouble people put themselves through. It's only made out to be such a big deal because they make it that way - by worrying and analyzing too much. The more you dwell on something - the more it tends to bother you. You gotta just not care so much. These things really aren't that important, or worth losing your mind over. Once you realise that its not a big deal, and causes more harm than good - you're much better off. Can't let everything get to you.
Rejection means nothing, because nobody is special. Their approval doesn't determine your worth. You don't need anybody. Just because they're retarded, all about the status, and care about these things - doesnt mean you have to. Too many guys are acting like women, and trying to understand them - by being just like them. Thinking like them. Losing themselves to them. Putting themselves in their shoes. Letting them run the show. Playing their stupid games. Analyzing their behaviors. Making it all about them. So, they end up whining about dumb **** just like them. Complaining and whining over how women are, throwing a pity-party, looking for sympathy... Stop acting like little girls. Who cares if this girl is a dumb *****? She's not worth stressing over, and keeping in your mind. Stop dissecting her every move and trait. Get rid of her.
Not accepting the red pill would be my guess as to why it happens... Still living in a fantasy world; idolizing women; making them out to be bigger than they are; believing everything they say; assuming they're as good as they claim. They probably think that there must be some kind of grand prize waiting behind this girl who acts disinterested, teases them, plays games, acts closed off, complains about men, is dating others, etc. She MUST be something special to act like such a stuck up, snobby *****, or have little to no interest in them. They find out eventually that there's no pot of gold to be found. The chase was more exciting than the catch. Just because they have options, are challenging, and date around - doesn't mean they're a good catch, or worth anything. Most people who tease, act immature, and play games AREN'T worth anything.
They don't ask themselves the right questions. It's not why does everyone like her - its why does no one want to keep her? Why does she tease men and play games? Probably because she's insecure, annoying, and unlikeable. It's the only way she can keep them interested. They only want her for sex. She's crazy. Those are the things they should be looking at.
They need to realise that nobody is special. There's no reason to chase, cave in, give away all the control, jump through hoops, prove your worth, worry about if they like you or not, over-analyze everything, etc. Most people simply aren't worth a damn, and certainly not worth all the BS you put yourself through... All the mental torture, being pushed around, getting used and played... For what? One person who's probably a loser anyway? Are they really that important? Why are you seeking their approval? Why do you care so much? Why do you analyze them?
Some people never snap out of it, realize these things, ask these kind of questions, or change their ways - only to complain about it over and over. They're only disappointed because they have expectations, live in fantasyland,and place women and relationships on a pedestal... I'd wager that a lot of people are so bored and lonely that they purposely over-analyze everything, and make it out to be bigger than it is. Like, dating is some huge puzzle to figure out. It fills their minds with something to think about.
While they're trying to find out what works, and trying to play the game right, or give her everything she wants, and be the perfect everything - another person comes in and nabs her away. That's because he took action; wasn't afraid to be himself; and didn't place her or dating on a pedestal. "But he's such a loser, and I'm so awesome and perfect", they say. "What does she see in him? I'm King Pimp; the encyclopedia of game". That's because he actually DID something.
This is where jerks are most successful. They just don't care. They go for it, and don't care if they get rejected. They don't try to impress the women, or follow a rulebook. They don't wait forever to make a move, or do anything else. They don't ask or tell. They just do. They also don't try to heal her, play her games, allow themselves to be controlled, or act like insecure girls.
The nice guys (or whoever) plan, analyze, worry, obsess, and think too much. Even when the girl shows interest - they delay and delay. Like they're playing a damn football game - complete with a playbook, time-outs, instant replays, challenges... They try figuring everything out - instead of just going with the flow, and taking action. They ask for permission, find out where she stands, what she wants... It's too predictable and boring. He takes too long, talks too much, thinks too hard, acts too serious, tries to determine where she stands - without ever DOING anything. She gets bored and bangs another guy who's 500x more exciting - then he complains and analyzes EVEN MORE. It's the fear, hesitation, over-analysis, and inaction that caused this to happen in the first place. They try too hard to make her think - instead of feel. They also try too hard to do everything right - instead of just doing.
Mostly, though, they're desperate and insecure. They're afraid of losing her. They need her. That is the core of the problem, and it shows in all these posts. They're not doing these things for themselves - they're doing everything to attract women. The neediness is still running the show, which is why they failed in the first place. They worry and care too much. They try doing everything right. They don't want to fail and be alone.
The only difference is, instead of asking the girl these things - they ask other guys. They're still trying to figure everything out, and do everything right - for HER. They just don't want to ask her, because she might get turned off and lose interest. And worrying about that is the root of the problem. This is what needs to be addressed before anything else. Stop doing everything for women, and caring about them so much.
A lot of what people do to prevent things from happening is the same thing that causes them to happen in the first place. Funny how that works. The nature of fear...
