If Online Dating Has Taken Over, Why are the Clubs and Bars Still Packed?

[simongtown]

So, yeah, supposedly online dating is all the rage, and even online websites have given way to phone apps. So, supposedly "no one" has to go out anymore.

Yet, the clubs and bars are more packed than ever. The local ones are so packed during peak hours you literally can't breathe or move. I've gone to multiple clubs in recent years which are packed shoulder to shoulder with zero free room on the dance floor. These are not small clubs, either.

If anything, clubbing and barhopping are more popular than ever. I'm not saying it's any more fulfilling or yields better results on average than before, but there is no way clubbing has become less popular.

Despite all of their faults, clubbing and barhopping still have inherent advantages that apps or websites never will: in particular, you know exactly what a potential partner looks like, from an infinite number of angles, if you so choose (instead of 2, 3, 4, or 5). Two, you get to interact with them right away. At worst, you'll get a rejection right away rather than having to wait for someone to check email or never getting a result one way or the other (tinder).

 

[Who Dares Win]

Online dating works only for a restricted number of guys who get the lion share of the hotties while the average guys dont usually get a reply.

Also phone numbers or agreements to meet means sh1t nowadays, a girl changes her mind every 20 minutes so the best bet is still meet one in real life and try to bang her that same night.

Clearly that doesnt work for most guys anyway but at least they get a reply...

 

[TBG]

Because people still like to socialize?

Just because the place is packed, doesn't mean it's packed full of single people.

 

[MrJack]

So, yeah, supposedly online dating is all the rage, and even online websites have given way to phone apps. So, supposedly "no one" has to go out anymore.

Yet, the clubs and bars are more packed than ever. The local ones are so packed during peak hours you literally can't breathe or move. I've gone to multiple clubs in recent years which are packed shoulder to shoulder with zero free room on the dance floor. These are not small clubs, either.

If anything, clubbing and barhopping are more popular than ever. I'm not saying it's any more fulfilling or yields better results on average than before, but there is no way clubbing has become less popular.

Despite all of their faults, clubbing and barhopping still have inherent advantages that apps or websites never will: in particular, you know exactly what a potential partner looks like, from an infinite number of angles, if you so choose (instead of 2, 3, 4, or 5). Two, you get to interact with them right away. At worst, you'll get a rejection right away rather than having to wait for someone to check email or never getting a result one way or the other (tinder).

It hasn’t actually taken over. Sure tons of people are on them but over half those people don’t take it serious and use it for validation.

 

[Mazer]

Most women go out to clubs with their orbiter male friends these days. I don’t see too many groups of just women.

 

[jacketrunner]

Drinking and dancing with friends. Meat market days are over.

Not true at all... meat markets are still alive and well.

Online dating is a grind, and something girls usually do when they're bored. It's not like a girl sees a hot guy when she's out and thinks "I didn't meet him on an app, therefore I would never go home with him."

Going out is still much more effective than apps, at least for me. You can essentially get many first micro-dates in a single night, and take a girl home without having to build your whole night around her.

 

[jacketrunner]

Yes, if you live in certain places and look a certain way you can still pull, but nothing like 10 years ago

You sure you’re not looking at the past with rose-colored glasses?

 

[RichardTheFrog]

In my mind the WORST thing I can do is walk into a bar with a girl. Why expose myself and my chick to a houseful of male-dominant-drunken-embittered patrons?

Makes MUCH more sense to log on to match.com and end up with a handful of one-on-one dates.

Especially when the guys would all come up to you like they're your friend first.

Then they'd call you "crazy" for getting mad.

 

[simongtown]

I suppose it's a rite of passage for most everyone who turns 21, or who can get a passably realistic fake ID past a doorman while in college.

 

[R.U.G.]

The hive has to bumble. They bumble in the pubs and night clubs.

 

[claudolfgeorgini]

It's simply because most guys don't get laid from online dating.

As for the women, they are at the club for validation and mostly just to have fun.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

So, yeah, supposedly online dating is all the rage, and even online websites have given way to phone apps. So, supposedly "no one" has to go out anymore.

Yet, the clubs and bars are more packed than ever. The local ones are so packed during peak hours you literally can't breathe or move. I've gone to multiple clubs in recent years which are packed shoulder to shoulder with zero free room on the dance floor. These are not small clubs, either.

If anything, clubbing and barhopping are more popular than ever. I'm not saying it's any more fulfilling or yields better results on average than before, but there is no way clubbing has become less popular.

Despite all of their faults, clubbing and barhopping still have inherent advantages that apps or websites never will: in particular, you know exactly what a potential partner looks like, from an infinite number of angles, if you so choose (instead of 2, 3, 4, or 5). Two, you get to interact with them right away. At worst, you'll get a rejection right away rather than having to wait for someone to check email or never getting a result one way or the other (tinder).

Places are still bumping. Its a mitigation of approach anxiety.

For women, it is dopamine spikes and open hypergamy. Discreetly being Chad's booty call.

For men, they can excuse their mediocrity of approach anxiety and complained n about women's e standards. Man guys will do roids assuming it will get them attention.

 

[nismo-4]

Most women go out to clubs with their orbiter male friends these days. I don’t see too many groups of just women.

If they're orbiters, they are just women.

Most women go to clubs for validation. Men don't get off on validation like women do. It's sex first, then validation.

 

[oldmanofthesea]

OLD and Clubs aren't mutually exclusive. Many people go to both. Women can get validated in both places so they will use both to accomplish that. Both women and men want to catch the most attractive fish they possibly can (hopefully someone they feel is MORE attractive than they are) and they know that they need to cast as wide a net as possible to do that so all options are on the table including clubs, OLD, and anything else that will expose them to the widest possible dating pool. Nothing really wrong with that, but it does represent a societal shift with the consequences being that people are far more picky than they used to be, are far less likely to give someone a chance, will put up more barriers and obstacles for you to overcome in order to "win" their attention, and are much more likely to be looking for a short-term sexual relationship only.

 

[wifehunter]

"If Online Dating Has Taken Over, Why are the Clubs and Bars Still Packed?"

Because we live in an ocean of sluts.

 

[3agle 3yes]

I don’t get what you’re trying to say. Most women don’t go to bars or clubs to get laid...and some people who initially communicated online go to these places.

 

[MrJack]

I don’t get what you’re trying to say. Most women don’t go to bars or clubs to get laid...and some people who initially communicated online go to these places.

Right? It’s not like since OLD exists, that everyone just stays at home and only plays matchermaker on their phones now.

I have OLD profiles and I still go out to bars/clubs? It’s fun, why not? Lol.

 

[resilient]

Because we live in an ocean of sluts.

They be a huntn' for Chads... lol.

 

[MatureDJ]

It's simply because most guys don't get laid from online dating.

As for the women, they are at the club for validation and mostly just to have fun.

THIS!

Most guys would prefer for the chicks they Tinder to simply come over and sex them. So when that doesn't pan out, it's off to Plan B.

 

[simongtown]

OLD and Clubs aren't mutually exclusive. Many people go to both. Women can get validated in both places so they will use both to accomplish that. Both women and men want to catch the most attractive fish they possibly can (hopefully someone they feel is MORE attractive than they are) and they know that they need to cast as wide a net as possible to do that so all options are on the table including clubs, OLD, and anything else that will expose them to the widest possible dating pool. Nothing really wrong with that, but it does represent a societal shift with the consequences being that people are far more picky than they used to be, are far less likely to give someone a chance, will put up more barriers and obstacles for you to overcome in order to "win" their attention, and are much more likely to be looking for a short-term sexual relationship only.

I'm seeing little if any overlap between the hottest girls I see in dating apps or dating websites vs the women in clubs and bars.