Supereuroman
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Successful ice cold approaches (defined by street or car approaches, with no props like malls, grocery stores, though those are similar etc) is BY FAR the number one hardest skill in life (far much so than public speaking, though of the same type of skill). Incidentally, it is THE BEST skill to have in life and all men wish they had it because the opportunties are endless. This skill is not consummate with # posts or ons's from bars/clubs. It is the king of all interactions with females. Why? It is spontaneous and unexpected, by neither of you. One of the reasons why it's such a thrilling experience is you typically get only 3 seconds, literally. It requires you to do almost everything right in the first interaction (and you get slack in later interactions because you're such a beast)
Think about this: How can you quickly know if a woman wants to see you in 'that' way without wasting time? This skill allows you to find the quality females for LTRS that really want to get together with you (IE, no let's just be friends BS from friends of friends you know)
The rewards are great and numerous: A man who has this together would NEVER need to step foot in a bar/club, all that is required is for him to simply live in his own reality everyday.
To give you a tip of the Iceberg:
In this realm of conversing, looks are king and personality second. (That means an attractive person shouldn't try to be a smartass doing neg-hits etc and an avg guy MUST use his charming personality from the get go)
If you're an exceptionally attractive guy (to all females in general), focus on making the interaction enjoyable for both. Attraction is already present. Drop the game. (Specifically, No ****y or useless crap that will backfire). (for starters: Tell her your name to make her comfortable. Keep in mind you are talking to her out of the blue and she's wary)
If you're okay looking (I believe every man can be attractive if they really take care of themself), focus on sparking some attraction, and then quickly build comfort. (Only C&F if it is natural- my opinion is that a guy who takes care of himself would be attractive and no one should need C&F)
After the short interaction, IF the girl is intrigued, you will have no problem getting contact info (even if she had a bf- you are far too awesome to let slip by). There are actually effortless ways of doing everything, and the key is finding what works for you. Experience is paramount here.
In fact, to my knowledge, no one (not even David D's approaching women program- that's really approaching women in bars with ONE short street approach) has covered anything remotely close to useful on this area simply because it is most intricate yet rewarding skill to have in life, by far. Bar and club approaches are trivial because that's expected all that's required is soberness, nothing fancy.
I'll give you guys a couple of extra pointers because those who truly 'get it' through developing their own style would appreciate what they have much more than having it spoon fed.
For the best success (keep in mind this is for ICE approaches- street and car only, though it may apply to the rest too)
Regardless of how a guy looks, drop opinion openers. It's usually better to make statements. This is not a bar where the woman is expecting to be hit on. Ice approaches does not grant you mercy in the time department, the selection of words and the order of them are critical. Deliver without hesitation or weakness.
Teasing may be okay if you have attracted her and ONLY AFTER the fact, and she'll love you for having the balls to do it.
Being mysterious does not help (Who is this guy again?). Volunteer something about yourself within the first few moments.
Lastly but not least, once you have it, there's a certain feel to how things should go, so just keep an eye open. You will realize the power in deciding which girl gets to know you and which doesn't.
Now, the ongoing work. This skill requires every area of one's life to be handled first without noticeable results. It will take time. Years, even decades. It requires dedication and consistency on top of that. It is the HARDEST for a reason, much like climbing Everst. But remember, it is THE BEST, which encapsulates all other communication (bar/club/public speaking etc) skills. For the few that make it, nothing can stop them in life.
This is my Christmas gift to this forum (with thanks to Pook and AD's donation of their generous time to share priceless insight) and just remember, nothing is inconceviable. Good luck. Hopefully many will have new perspectives from their experiences that they would be kind to share. We never stop bettering ourselves. Stay tuned.
Think about this: How can you quickly know if a woman wants to see you in 'that' way without wasting time? This skill allows you to find the quality females for LTRS that really want to get together with you (IE, no let's just be friends BS from friends of friends you know)
The rewards are great and numerous: A man who has this together would NEVER need to step foot in a bar/club, all that is required is for him to simply live in his own reality everyday.
To give you a tip of the Iceberg:
In this realm of conversing, looks are king and personality second. (That means an attractive person shouldn't try to be a smartass doing neg-hits etc and an avg guy MUST use his charming personality from the get go)
If you're an exceptionally attractive guy (to all females in general), focus on making the interaction enjoyable for both. Attraction is already present. Drop the game. (Specifically, No ****y or useless crap that will backfire). (for starters: Tell her your name to make her comfortable. Keep in mind you are talking to her out of the blue and she's wary)
If you're okay looking (I believe every man can be attractive if they really take care of themself), focus on sparking some attraction, and then quickly build comfort. (Only C&F if it is natural- my opinion is that a guy who takes care of himself would be attractive and no one should need C&F)
After the short interaction, IF the girl is intrigued, you will have no problem getting contact info (even if she had a bf- you are far too awesome to let slip by). There are actually effortless ways of doing everything, and the key is finding what works for you. Experience is paramount here.
In fact, to my knowledge, no one (not even David D's approaching women program- that's really approaching women in bars with ONE short street approach) has covered anything remotely close to useful on this area simply because it is most intricate yet rewarding skill to have in life, by far. Bar and club approaches are trivial because that's expected all that's required is soberness, nothing fancy.
I'll give you guys a couple of extra pointers because those who truly 'get it' through developing their own style would appreciate what they have much more than having it spoon fed.
For the best success (keep in mind this is for ICE approaches- street and car only, though it may apply to the rest too)
Regardless of how a guy looks, drop opinion openers. It's usually better to make statements. This is not a bar where the woman is expecting to be hit on. Ice approaches does not grant you mercy in the time department, the selection of words and the order of them are critical. Deliver without hesitation or weakness.
Teasing may be okay if you have attracted her and ONLY AFTER the fact, and she'll love you for having the balls to do it.
Being mysterious does not help (Who is this guy again?). Volunteer something about yourself within the first few moments.
Lastly but not least, once you have it, there's a certain feel to how things should go, so just keep an eye open. You will realize the power in deciding which girl gets to know you and which doesn't.
Now, the ongoing work. This skill requires every area of one's life to be handled first without noticeable results. It will take time. Years, even decades. It requires dedication and consistency on top of that. It is the HARDEST for a reason, much like climbing Everst. But remember, it is THE BEST, which encapsulates all other communication (bar/club/public speaking etc) skills. For the few that make it, nothing can stop them in life.
This is my Christmas gift to this forum (with thanks to Pook and AD's donation of their generous time to share priceless insight) and just remember, nothing is inconceviable. Good luck. Hopefully many will have new perspectives from their experiences that they would be kind to share. We never stop bettering ourselves. Stay tuned.
