I wouldnt say i've been missing it, Bob.

[jungleman pete]

The subject lines got nothing to do with what i'm going to write about, but I recently saw Office Space again for the millionth time and I dont think i'll ever get sick of it. (By the way, anyone know any simular kind of movies?).

So last week I saw this chick working at a local supermarket down the road from my house, and decided I wanted to ask her out. She was probably a 6.5 so definitely not out of my league. She was a bit shorter than me which I always dig.

All right, so I spent all week trying to devise ways of talking to her and i've got to tell ya. It was starting to get on my nerves. I really dont like stressing too much, so by the time Saturday come I was really in the mood just to ask her for her number and be on my way.

So I worked myself up to walk in there, it was later in the afternoon so things were winding down. She was standing behind the service counter talking to a friend. Man, this wasnt going to be easy. The adrenaline was flowing pretty strong by now, but I had to do it. One thing I knew was I had to stay composed. I walked right up to that counter, standing next to her friend and said "Hi, are you busy?" She said something along the lines of "Kinda". Even though she was yakking with her friend. Then I said "Can I give you a call sometime". Then she says something like "Why, for a date?". And I go "Yeah". She smiles. And i'm thinking "Oh yeah! Here we go!". Then she says "Ive got a boyfriend whos coming back from (blah blah) tommorow". Damn. I say "thats cool" and walk away. Nevermind.

So I feel relieved that I did it. But I also realise that I probably made it hard on myself by not asking her out the first time I saw her last week. All I found that happened was that by taking the week to ask her I built her up in my mind just a little bit. And that little bit is enough to mess you up. From now on i'll be asking out straight away. Which is where I need your help.

What do you think of asking before going for the number "Are you seeing anybody at the moment?" Just to warm them up and to take the pressure off directly asking them out?

I havent asked too many girls out in my time but most off them seem to be shop assistants or waitresses. I know all girls are differant, but in your experience would you say these girls are low percentage when it comes to getting the number?

Thanks for your help everyone, this site is great!

 

[iqqi]

Originally posted by jungleman pete
I walked right up to that counter, standing next to her friend and said "Hi, are you busy?" She said something along the lines of "Kinda". Even though she was yakking with her friend. Then I said "Can I give you a call sometime". Then she says something like "Why, for a date?". And I go "Yeah". She smiles. And i'm thinking "Oh yeah! Here we go!". Then she says "Ive got a boyfriend whos coming back from (blah blah) tommorow". Damn. I say "thats cool" and walk away. Nevermind.

aahhahahah! i can picture you clearly! you are an AFC!!! that approach was awful. just being honest. you need to read the bible my friend! that was a very unsuave approach. no ****y, no funny, no charm, no rapport, no...no....no nothing! no creativity! now please think what you could have done differently to atleast include ONE of those elements in your approach.

oh, and post it here. so we can give you some pointers.

 

[ShortyBrown]

Re: Re: I wouldnt say i've been missing it, Bob.

Originally posted by iqqi
aahhahahah! i can picture you clearly! you are an AFC!!! that approach was awful. just being honest. you need to read the bible my friend! that was a very unsuave approach. no ****y, no funny, no charm, no rapport, no...no....no nothing! no creativity! now please think what you could have done differently to atleast include ONE of those elements in your approach.

oh, and post it here. so we can give you some pointers.

Wow aren't we in a helpful mood today.

I commend you for at least having the balls to give it a go. It takes guts for some people.

 

[jungleman pete]

Hell yeah it was AFC. But it wasnt COMING from an AFC.

Its hard sometimes you know. I built it up way too long. Thats why i posted. If i could have worked a decent convo, i would have. I need to get a feel for what i did wrong. You live and learn. I'm not about to guzzle any tears over it.

What would you have done dude? Man, i've read the bible too. But sometimes when the pressures on, you know? I know I have some sh!t to work on. Who doesnt. So, given the situation, what would you have done?

 

[Chaos-Knight]

I'v recently had simular experiences,

One girl I got the number she was friendly ect
Then I find out for sure she has a boy-friend
NEXT~

then there's this cute gal I kept getting good convo
out of her,smiles and giggling,took me like months
to decide to go for the number,
(I only see her like one a month or less)
then last time I chatted I finally caught her say "my boyfriend"
so NEXT....

Jeez finding single woman can be challenging,
most of em are in relationships waiting for BBD's...
(bigger better deals)

Oh and about Office space = Very good movie.
I'm sure there's some DJ related material on there
like how peter aproaches the waitress = pure gold.
Me and my friends all love the movie,especially MILTON,
and LUMBARG I'm practically sheding tears thinking about
how funny the movie was...

If you havent seen this movie rent/buy it and...
"go ahead and just " ....WATCH IT RIGHT AWAY!

 

[NINJA PIMP]

Originally posted by iqqi
aahhahahah! .....snip mindless drivel

Real nice, iqqi.

Dont listen to this bytch dude. She is the resident troll on this site and while there was a time that she offered decent advice, those days are long gone!

Do yourself a quick favor and put her on your "Ignore" list. Trust me, you will be happier.

Now onto some helpful advice for a change.

Cashiers are easy man

This is what you do. First off, be friendly and say "hi" as you load up your groceries. Wait for her to ring you up and right when she is charging you, ask her for a discount. She will laugh and probably look at you like your crazy. Dont let it faze ya. Just plow through and be ****y/funny by saying, "You knowwww, the discount for extremely good-looking customers" This will definitely get a smile from her but she will tell you she cant do that. Look at her like you are really thinking about this whole deal and then come up with a bright idea. Tell her "Well, I am not very happy with this bizarre policy of yours and I´d hate to have to get the managers involved..., but I tell you what. You can make it up to me by giving me your number." Then just make solid eye contact with her and give a slight smile.

See the difference? Ballsier, Funnier and much more direct minus all that drama you built up. I have used this successfully many times. I dont score with each girl but I almost always get the number.

Iqqi is right about one thing. You should really read the Bible. It can be found in the upper right hand corner of the forum. Soak it up like a sponge and feel free to post more questions. Thats what we are here for.

Good Luck!

 

[iqqi]

Originally posted by NINJA PIMP
Real nice, iqqi.

Dont listen to this bytch dude. She is the resident troll on this site and while there was a time that she offered decent advice, those days are long gone!

oh please. everything i said was true. he is not whining about my response, so why are you? i am sorry if i hurt the young chap's feelings, but i am sure i didn't. lighten up! if you can't laugh at yourself....i can! ahahahahha!

anyways, i think i was helpful.

creativity. ****y. funny. charm.

any of those ingredients would have helped the situation out. better yet, forget the bible, go visit the tips section. there are some good suggestions in there. search senor fingers.

peace.

 

[jungleman pete]

Thanks alot guys!

Great advice! I think i'll try out the discount bit as well! Very nice stuff. I'll give the DJ bible another read through, it has been quite a while since i last checked it out.

The approach was way off I know, so i definately should have hit her up when i first spoke to her. And the first time i spoke to her I was doing the C&F. Which is part of the reason i went back, cos i had a bit of a chance.

Man, it was tough with her friend standing next to me though!

Thanks for the advice again guys. I wish i was a chick like Iqqi, just sitting back waiting for guys to approach me. Not that any guys approach Iqqi anyways. Thats just..icky.

 

[jungleman pete]

I wrote that while you responded Iqqi.

Thanks.

 

[DEKKA]

i have to agree in part with iqqi on this one. and dont try to defend the guy because even he's admitting what he did was AFC... which it was.

there wasn't a lot of finesse put into this seduction if ya know what im sayin.

was her friend standing right next to her the whole time?

he should have just started a friendly convo with her and gone from there.

plus if she works in retail shes not going anywhere... he could have warmed her up a little slower. ya know, had a nice convo about stuff then come back another day and finish up, arrange a date on the spot or get the number.

its way easier if you relax, stop "approaching", and just start socializing.

good luck bruh props on going for it. no shame in that at all. rejection is great!

 

[jungleman pete]

Thanks Dekka, thats definately true dude.

I've actually been reading alot of your stuff about rejection and that huge ass list that you wrote up lately on the forum. Its great. Keep it up!

 

[jungleman pete]

Just another thing about approaches, I know we all would like to make the perfect approach all the time, but dont girls determine if they like you within a few seconds?

Is what you say as important as just saying something?

 

[Legend]

i wanna see a pic of iqqi

 

[alboh]

Don't worry about having a "perfect" approach. The more you plan out your approach the more you'll be phased when everything doesn't work out according to your plan. Overcoming your fear of approach is way more important.

Make sure you've poured through the DJB, and keep at it kid! Remember every f uck-up = another dumb AFC thing you'll never do again!

 

[drZaius09]

Here is a run-down of what "I've got a boyfriend" could possibly mean when a girl rejects you:

1) "I've got a boyfriend..." TRANSLATION: "I don't really have a boyfriend, I just don't have the balls to say that I'm not attracted to you. Please go away."

2) "I've got a boyfriend..." TRANSLATION: "I really do have a boyfriend, but that is not the reason why I'm rejecting you. I'm rejecting you because you are not attractive to me. I give my number out all the time to more attractive guys without so much as a second thought."

3) "I've got a boyfriend..." TRANSLATION: "I am one of the last of a dying breed of women who actually remains faithful to my mate. I turn down the attractive just the same as the unattractive when I'm in a relationship. You will never meet another girl like me for the rest of your natural life."

So basically, if she were really interested in you (read: attracted), the boyfriend would never have been a factor. Case closed.

 

[coin]

Dude, what you did took balls. Who cares if it was unsuave - just the fact that you did it is DJ.

Every time you do it you will get better. I have.

 

[jungleman pete]

Thanks to all the guys who responded. I appreciate your advice.

I know the approach wasnt perfect, but I'll take it as a lesson and move on. And i'll be better for it next time. I actually had fun doing it. Which surprised me!

I have really learnt a lot from this website and it is really refreshing to have a place where a guy can go to get constructive criticism and support.
Thanks again.