I went out with another chick and the g/f found out

[wheelin&dealin]

My girlfriend, of 6 months, was looking through my cell phone and found out that I called some other chick. She asked me about it and I said that I went out with her once(about 3 weeks ago) and that nothing ever happened between us.

The g/f was pissed off and went home. I kept telling her that nothing ever happened between me and this chick and that she was over reacting. I tried to smooth things over but she was bitter.

Should I just tell my g/f to f*ck off and get out of my life? Or should I repair the damage?

 

[trajhenkhet]

Well you know you didn't do anything wrong so don't act like you did. Let her steam it off and contact you. She needs to learn to trust you. I mean what is she going to do when you need to go on say a buisness trip and women are going to be at the meeting. Is she going to get all uptight?

 

[Bungo Pony]

Did you go out with this other girl as just a friend, or were you looking for something on the side? If you were looking for something on the side, you shouldn't be in a LTR.

If this girl was just a friend and you explained that to your gf, of course she'll be a bit pissy. Leave her alone for a bit and she'll come around if she truly gives a 5hit about you.

 

[Ninja Dude]

I was gonna reply to this, but bungo pony pretty much took the words right out of my mouth.

decide what you really want here then act accordinly

 

[Knicknack]

Originally posted by Ninja Dude
I was gonna reply to this

????

it appears you DID reply... lol

 

[wheelin&dealin]

Just to clarify things. I got the other girl's number at a club and then I took her out and kiss closed her.

I told the g/f that I went out with this chick and that I didn't touch her or anything.

 

[Ser_i]

what do you want?

do you want to keep the LTR ? think smirnoff Ice "as clear as your conscious" tell her nothing happend, and she has to believe you or you'll have to rethink about the state of your relationship.


if you don't realy care, once again think Smirnoff Ice "as clear as your conscious" nothing happend, no bickering, put on Barry white and get it on

 

[drixsa]

W&D-

if you WANT this girl to stay around tell her that she is just a friend and nothing more

then tell her if she canot be comfortable with you having female friends that you 2 cannot be in a relationship

reverse the tables on her and vua la

 

[BobbDobbs]

Your girlfriend is going thru your cellphone? She's probably snooping elsewhere as well. She was already insecure before she found the number. It'll just get worse.

 

[wheelin&dealin]

Originally posted by BobbDobbs
Your girlfriend is going thru your cellphone? She's probably snooping elsewhere as well. She was already insecure before she found the number. It'll just get worse.

After she found the number I was just like "So... you want to see some more numbers?"(sarcasticly) Then I opened up a drawer with about 20 chick numbers in it and proceeded to hand them to her.

That probably didn't help the cause but at least it shows the insignificance of just one girl's number.

I also flamed her about going out with her guy friends. Even though they're a bunch of dorks with no chance of ever making a move on her.

 

[TesuqueRed]

W&D---she caught you flat-footed on a test and you failed.

You don't have to answer her question. Just look her dead in the eye, don't back down, be offended (as you should be) and say "what are you doing going thru my cell phone?" Don't let her take the conversation anywhere else and force her to answer that---which is, to acknowledge that she is way out of line. Then let her know this is unacceptable and that this discussion will go no further.

If you have to, inform her you call a lot of people with your cell phone (men and women) and who you choose to call is your business, not her's.

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BTW, dump her if you want to see others. Why sneak around? Be clear about what you want and be straight up about it. If you want to see others, back it off with her.

 

[DJ_Dork]

You have a girl that has low self esteem and insecurity issues. She is delicate and fragile - if she doesn't like the appearance of different girls being called then you're going to have to get around that. (clearing cell phone calls every so often and hiding cell phone away) It's most likely she likes to be involved with your personal life too (obsessing where you go, etc) She wants to control you passively -

SHE wants you predictable so she has less stress/anxiety. Create a web-log or whatever fake diary (where she can have access to) and create an impression you care about her or the stuff you do outsife is the stuff you do. Form that trust with her and she'll be more trusting with you/less snooping (but she'll still do it)