I was told that I was intimidating.

[Dimebag_Darrell]

So I this weekend I was hanging out with a few girls and my friend. Well, I made out with this girl I PU'd from Dillards but afterwards got distant because I was more really high on hash(this **** only comes around once in a lifetime). Well, afterwards I was pondering about why I don't get laid as much as I could be. I talked to my friend and his girlfriend and they were discussing some previous day about me and how his girlfriend thought I was hot but I my presence was intimidating. And then she went on about how every girl that knows me has said the same ****. I'm attractive but too much to handle. And they get pissed because I'm stubborn like a child. She said most girl found me hot but too aggressive, especially on the phone. This perplexes me. I'm trying to sort of figure out what they mean.

I'm thinking that maybe I'm too direct with my game or I scare them with the way I act. I don't know.

 

[Phoenix_of_the_ashes]

Dimebag Darrel is dead.

 

[Dimebag_Darrell]

thats not the point

 

[Phoenix_of_the_ashes]

Yes it is.

 

[KarmaSutra]

Dimebag Darrel is dead.

Uncalled for. Noted, but uncalled for nonetheless. If they all think you're too aggressive just punch the chick in the mush and see if she loves ya? :crazy:

 

[blinkwatt]

Who cares. If you are pulling in chicks now why does it matter? You are doing the right thing.

 

[Dimebag_Darrell]

because I like to analyze feedback on how other percieve me. I find it perplexing and interesting if its a flaw or great attribute. it tickles me, this idea of being intimidating to women. but at the same time I feel as it's something that may be hindering my true potential.

 

[thederekeffect1]

If they all think you're too aggressive just punch the chick in the mush and see if she loves ya? :crazy:

lol. Funny, but I advise against it. Haha.

Anyway, intimidation can be a good thing. I don't know exactly what you mean by "too aggressive". Like you pick fights with random people or you make your move with confidence? Hopefully, the 2nd one. If that's what she meant, I wouldn't worry about a thing. I used to get that all the time. I took pride in it. When someone told me that I had "an intimidating look", I'd say thanks.

As my interpersonal communications teacher told me back in my high school days, "you have an intimidating look. That can be a good thing if you use it correctly, but sometimes it can be a bad thing if you use it wrongly".

 

[Cruise]

Could be a good thing if you have a quiet, assured confidence to go with it. If you aren't getting the results you want, change up your approach, style, and routine.

Although if you ARE comfy with who you are and the responses you're getting, it's an awesome thing. Only means that you're weeding out the type of chicks you don't want in the first place, namely ones that're too timid to actually act on when they like you. Just like how hot chicks would prefer a guy who's not intimidated by looks, same thing usually applies to guys who have more going for themselves than just looks alone. They prefer chicks who aren't intimidated by their presence. I'm usually told by chicks that I have an intense presence, and usually when I'm silent, they still feel a really powerful projection coming from me just by my look and body language. But I've found that chicks who I find the most appealing are the ones who actually make light of this and aren't swayed, and are still able to live in their own little light-hearted, fun and energetic bubble.

Hopefully those 2 pennies were redeeming?

 

[spider_007]

lean back and relax more. Sometimes you just have to let things happen instead of trying to conrol or influence them.

 

[El MonoLoco]

Damn son hash is easy to get especially out here in Cali

Who cares if they say you're intimidating....what are they 18, 19? they don't know their cootch from a hole in the ground.....neither do most guys at that age.....ha ha ha

I wouldn't worry about it .....just do what your doing.....

they think you're intimidating because they want to jump your bones but can't or haven't figured out how to tell you .......:crackup:

f*ck um:moon:

 

[Tomatoes]

Hash is fvcking crap. Made up of Weed, mud and carrier bags....

Smoke the green. Its much better for you and much more potent. I got an oz in my car right now...bah hard to get hold of. :crackup:

She may have said you were intimadating because you were stoned (Makes no sense I know!)

I have been told the same thing when I was stoned. I have also been told by a girl that she was "uncomfortable" being with me alone when i was stoned because im "not myself". When you get stoned you become more relaxed and chilled...Girls dont seem to understand this. They belive you become more like a dangerous drunk. This is not true but heh. Girls sometimes become uneasy by it.

I rekon that the reason she said you were intimadating.


For the record. Im a 5,8 pretty skinny lad. About as intimadating as a fly :box:
Im a lover not a fighter.....

 

[The_flying_dutchman]

You know I've been told the same thing as well but I've always took it to be a gentle way of saying women aren't attracted to me, kinda like the old "You're a great guy and any girl would be lucky to have you" excuse. Don't get me wrong, I'm sure females are attracted to you in terms of looks, but looks really are not that important when it comes to females, it's all about having game. But I get what you mean when you say that it might be holding you back, because the important thing is getting the girl. I think the best thing to do would be to try to just go with it because changing up your approach would make you appear fake.

 

[xblitz44x]

If you're having success, don't change a thing. If you're not getting call-backs or dates after you've gotten the phone number then you may have to start being conscious of the way your actions are being perceived.

 

[Cruise]

I think the best thing to do would be to try to just go with it because changing up your approach would make you appear fake.

Uhh... no it wont... :crazy:

 

[legolas]

because I like to analyze feedback on how other percieve me. I find it perplexing and interesting if its a flaw or great attribute. it tickles me, this idea of being intimidating to women. but at the same time I feel as it's something that may be hindering my true potential.

I used to know a guy who at first sight looked like he could eat you alive. He was big, sometimes unshaven and had very little facial expression (think Schwarzenegger in Terminator) Upon talking to him, I found out he was soft spoken and normal LOL

Sometimes you need to smile more, and be more lighthearted, be less aggressive, dress differently, things like that. It would help if you can have someone film you and you can see for yourself how you appear to others. I saw a tape of myself dancing once and was terribly embarrased. Needless to say I made the necessary adjustments.

 

[S1NN3R]

I get told I'm intimidating al the time. I just move on. Every girl will percieve you differently, so over-analysing one girl's reaction isn't going to further your capabilities much.

Find a girl who's less timid.

 

[So Many Ways]

Do you have a mean mug expression on your face all the time? Do you scrunch your eyebrows like you're glaring at someone? Do yo always look serious? If you do, women might find you intimidating.

I've been told the same thing in the past. I now make more of a concious matter to smile more.

 

[S1NN3R]

It's not just the way you look, it's the way you hold yourself and present yourself to people. A person can be physically intimidating, intellectually intimidating, socially intimidating, all sorts of things.

 

[Dimebag_Darrell]

yeah. well, i feel like a certain vibe from most girls like they would like to talk to me but can't. And one thing I've noticed at work from working with nothing but girls, they always ask me "whats wrong?" Maybe I am presenting myself as unapproachable. And I'm tired a lot too so who knows. Point is, I'm not getting any dates or follow ups. I've literally set up to hang out with 12 girls over the last week and I've hung out with 6 in the last couple of days and they're all completely different. And this has f*cked my game up too because I can't figure out how to turn on the right switches because I'll accidentally think that this girl is going to be as cold as the girl from last night and I'll come across as weird. And out of the 6 girls I've hung out with, none have I made out with. Its a shameful thing but I'm trying to work with it as at least I'm making an effort to meet girls. Umm, yeah I need some sleep too. anybody else feel the same way?