I was raised to be a girl...please help me.

[Babnik]

So I sat down and thought about all the things that I am, that I like, and things that make me a person.
I was raised by a single mother without any influence of a real man. I never had a manly role model to learn from.

So, lets take a look at what makes woman a woman...
She attracts men with her looks, she dresses nicely, she is being sex, she wiggles her butt, she plays dolls, she is emotional, she likes to talk with friends, she loves masculine men.

So do men do?
They like sports, they workout, they like to eat, they love good looking women and want to f*ck them, they play war games when they are little, they fight, they dont like to sit around and listen to women's problems, and they are always horny.

I am not gay by any means. I always get attracted to women, BUT I am more feminine than masculine...

I can't help NOT liking sports, I never did fight. Believe it or not I prefer a company of girls (that I dont' want because they are ugly) so I can talk about my problems, and as a child I played with teddy bears.

When I was less than 13, I was more like a guy and played with guys. I ENJOYED their company and had fun. Then, I moved to the USA and just stopped being a guy! It was culture shock and things just went down the hill... I met girly guys and ended in that zone.

I take care of my face and myself a lot like a girl!

I never had a father who would say "Guys don't cry, so shut the hell up with your whining" instead I had a mother who would come and calm me down like a GIRL.

I workout a LOT, but it only helps my looks, not my character and behavior.

I am 19 now.

Most horrifying thing - I look at a girl and I am more interested in knowing her personality than f*cking her!! Holy crap!

Can I still become a guyly guy? Can I acctually start LIKING sports and being guy rather than trying and still not enjoying it?

I am so scared that its too late for this...

What can be done?

I am not even interested in girls right now because I need to become a man again. It will take a while. I will care about girls later.

What do I do? Professional help?

 

[ChrizZ]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=110411

 

[Babnik]

This is for getting chicks. I am even on that level.
I need to think like a man before I can become all that stuff. I need to want to f*ck women and liking sports! And hang out with MEN!

 

[ChrizZ]

Watch porn, work out, go to football games, make male friends etc.
Dude, noone can teach you how to be a man, just go out there and do it.

 

[bbestar]

When I was growing up, my dad told me that when his father died (my grandfather died before I was born) He did not cry at all... I was like.. whoa he is tough.

Here is some steps to follow, Starting RIGHT NOW.

1. Disconnect with anything that is feminine, love your mom, respect her, but thats it.
2.Turn off TV, Computer, Internet
3.Go outside and walk across the whole entire state.
You want to plan your stops at hotels and motels, and how many miles you will walk a day and how long it will take, ration your food and eat out alot. Lets say try 3 weeks out in the wilderness.


The first Order that God gave man after he was created was to till the earth, take care of it. By walking across this great land, you will familarize yourself with this Land God hath blessed us with.
The Nature of man is to survive.
When your in the corner and all your enemies surround you and your about to die, you don't just curl up and give up.. NO!! YOU SCREAM, YELL, HOLLER, SHAKE, PUNCH, KICK, BITE... YOU HAVE TO SURVIVE, which reminds me. Watch the Movie Saving Private Ryan like 5 times.

With your sound system so loud, your whole house shakes because of the exploding grenade and that tank rolling into your house

 

[Mr. Unique]

I think some testosterone therapy would fix you.

 

[dannowillbookem]

this is an interesting point youve raised. i was always an emotional kid, hungout with girls as friends and would rarely think of them sexually, would not like sports, would be much to scared to fight etc.

you have a natural male inside you that has been shut down by over nurturing. i suppose i just matured into a male, but there were also moments when you grab your balls (to remind you that you have them haha) and do soemthing manly. hit a kid. kiss a woman. play some football. i would think that could awaken your inner, suppressed male mentality.

 

[Mr. Unique]

Hormone therapy is what you need.

 

[StrangeButTrue]

The way to get into sports is to play them. Have fun, understand them. Become a competitor.

Competition will get the testosterone flowing. Think of something you want. Something manly. A girl. A car. A trophy. Think of it and do anything and everything you have to in order to get it.

Competition and drive always brings out the male side of you.

 

[DJ_in_making]

Bro, being a man is written into you, it is your natural state, you just had it supressed as a child. When you have a case of nature vs. nurture nature always wins you just have to EMBRACE the manlinest. I know A LOT of guys who were raised by a single woman, myself included. You say you weren't raised in the US but I tell you anything remotely feminine about me was ridiculed out of me very quick! You can do it man.

 

[Joe The Homophobe]

Unless you wear make up or paint your fingernails (behave too feminine) everything is ok as long as you have a desire to possess women. You can be the wimpiest, skinniest dude on the block but as long as the desire to make women your own still burns inside you, there is no problem. You can be the guy that everyone makes fun of in school for being shy and quiet in class, but as long as when you get out of class into recess and have a girl waiting for you which you have been waiting all day to spend "quality time" in the romantic sense of the word, then everything is cool.

Think of this as the guy in the movie "revenge of the nerds." The hot blonde never got action and excitement from her good looking/manly jock boyfriend. Then one day the shy/feminine looking nerd who always liked the blonde shows her that being manly is not always how you look and act, but how big the passion burning inside you is

I applaud your desire to wanting to act and be more manly. But know that never getting into a fight and being a passive/cool attitude type of guy like you said is not a bad thing. All that matters is that the lion inside you still wants to go hunt some prey. If the lion ain't hungry then i would be worried

 

[WORKEROUTER]

Don't be afraid to be who you are. That's much more manly than succombing to what other people dictate how you should be.

Now, if you DO want to change, then make a list of things that you want to focus on. Then aim each day to excel in those areas.

It's as easy as that.

 

[brenbaus]

regarding the OP, where do you live?

 

[Create Reality]

I suggest to learn to be "a man", you get psyched on some Snoop Doggy Dogg, particularly the Doggystyle album.

 

[Mr. Unique]

10 things you should do

1. Inject some steroids up your balls (optional)
2. Eat lots of red meat
3. only masturbate once a week
4. Hit the gym and lift weights
5. shave your head
6. get a tatoo
7. If you shave your beard, stop shaving it
8. Go out camping with your friends
9. go find a hot stripper
10. take hormone therapy