i want to be more than friends but im confused

[cablegb]

hey guys
i have encountered a problem
she and i are taking the same class in college
we went to dinner every time we have class and after that we would go to dinner
sometimes she calls her roomate and we go to dinner together right after class

we have good conversations
i do some playful touchings

and i think im falling for her.

i dont know if she is thinking about the same thing
but i dont want to jeopardize our friendship, because once i tell her i like her
even though she probably would nicely reject me and we would still be friends but it will not be the same thing.
and she is taller than me

and i dont know if i should just get the balls and tell her or just be friends
or should i test it out first?

confused

 

[Ace of Flames]

Poor little fledgling... so untouched by life.

Lemme do you a favor. You aren't "falling" for this girl. Just trust me, you aren't. Don't go spilling your guts out to her, because I can tell you right now how that's gonna go over, but you wouldn't like it. Instead, go check out the bible. There's a nice little link to it at the bottom of any and every page here on the forums. It says "The DJ Bible". Good stuff, that. Just read what interests you, don't overload yourself with info.

Come back after you've messed around with that for awhile.

 

[cablegb]

Poor little fledgling... so untouched by life.

Lemme do you a favor. You aren't "falling" for this girl. Just trust me, you aren't. Don't go spilling your guts out to her, because I can tell you right now how that's gonna go over, but you wouldn't like it. Instead, go check out the bible. There's a nice little link to it at the bottom of any and every page here on the forums. It says "The DJ Bible". Good stuff, that. Just read what interests you, don't overload yourself with info.

Come back after you've messed around with that for awhile.

why do you so sure i am not falling for this girl?
i want the whole explanation

 

[Cod3r]

Poor little fledgling... so untouched by life.

This coming from the 'guru' that just got laid 2 days ago... classic


-Cod3r

 

[Ace of Flames]

This coming from the 'guru' that just got laid 2 days ago... classic


-Cod3r

Once again, so? This guy's problems have nothing to do with sex. I've never claimed to be a guru or anything else of the sort. Life is more than sex. Lay off man. Besides, it was 6 days ago...

Anyways, *ahem*, how do I know you aren't falling for her? Well that would imply that you love her, and if you are still her friend, then you don't love her. Not the real, mature kind of love. You probably just think she's hot and she gives you attention, so boom, you jump to love. No offense, but stories like yours are a dime-a-dozen around here. I've heard it so many times, and lived it a few times too, back in my AFC days.

Look, I'm not saying there isn't a chance for anything to come outta this girl, only that if you do what you're thinking about doing, there's literally a higher chance of being struck by lightning than things going over successfully.

You came to this site for help right? Well there's no such thing as a quick fix here. We're all about the long-term. You have to change your very foundations and beliefs to succeed here. Just flip thru the bible, if it doesn't interest you, try something else.

 

[rrrrr]

he's right though, you can't spill your guts to a friend. it won't work. i don't think there is a way out of the friendzone. i think guys get put there because 1)they are wussies, or 2)they are not attractive to her.

 

[Cod3r]

Once again, so? This guy's problems have nothing to do with sex. I've never claimed to be a guru or anything else of the sort. Life is more than sex. Lay off man. Besides, it was 6 days ago...

Just pushin your buttons bro... relax, I think you're cooL :rock:


-Cod3r

 

[cablegb]

sign i guess i wont say anything and search another target
i need to work on this ****
thanks guys anyways

 

[Ace of Flames]

Just pushin your buttons bro... relax, I think you're cooL :rock:


-Cod3r

I was never gonna start some :box: , I was just . I'm glad you think I'm . Peace offering:flowers: ? You're too. Let's :woo: .