I vented out, how wrong was it?

rcast9999

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Okay, so I fell for this woman. She is a single mom, early thirties, and so forth. I really fell for her, and put up with her for about two years. However, I found out she was the mistress of a well to do guy, had a child with him and is being thoroughly supported by him financially. The guy is very wealthy, about 20 years older than her and gave her a kid. She also played the field with other guys, doesn't work at all, and seems to just be partying. So one day I got fed up and called her a gold digging ho and kicked her out of my apartment. Apparently, she got upset. Man, I put up with it for two years. Perhaps I should've just moved on, but I vented. Was I that bad???? She played me like a fool.
 

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In my opinion, venting usually occurs from the buildup of unexpressed emotions over time that end up dripping like a leaky faucet into a pitcher. The pitcher holds a lot of water, but once it overflows, it overflows.

So think about whether you vented because you were upset with the actions she was allowed to get away with repeatedly by you or because you were upset with your own inability to act in a way that would have prevented this from happening or with you kicking her to the curb much sooner.

In my experiences, venting is really a reaction to the frustrations you feel inside yourself rather than a reaction to an outside action...

Just my 2 cents...
 
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rcast9999 said:
Okay, so I fell for this woman. She is a single mom, early thirties, and so forth. I really fell for her, and put up with her for about two years. However, I found out she was the mistress of a well to do guy, had a child with him and is being thoroughly supported by him financially. The guy is very wealthy, about 20 years older than her and gave her a kid. She also played the field with other guys, doesn't work at all, and seems to just be partying. So one day I got fed up and called her a gold digging ho and kicked her out of my apartment. Apparently, she got upset. Man, I put up with it for two years. Perhaps I should've just moved on, but I vented. Was I that bad???? She played me like a fool.
You reacted like any reasonable man would do.

If that was me, I'd have done exactly the same thing as you and I wouldn't feel iota of guilt about it.

Hopefully you've learnt your lesson and will wise up to these superhoes.
 

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now you know what to avoid.

don't be hard on yourself though, I did that too for 2 yrs to a ho.

Learned my lesson and then some!
 

horaholic

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With all due respect, you're being a pvssy concerning yourself about whether you should have vented or not. You are a MAN, and you had a right to vent. DO NOT question it, and whatever you do, UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES, APOLOGIZE TO THIS FEMALE!!!!!!

In your opinion, what do you think she sees in you?
 
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