I thought that getting glances from women meant you´re good looking until...

[JdelaSilviera]

I went out with a new guy, which most girls I know find average or ugly (not too ugly to get attention), and I can tell he isn´t good looking at all, and I´ve seen many girls in the club glancing at him, probably because he has dark hair.

Also I know guys that are really ugly, but because they´re very tall they get lots of stares in the club, with all the confusion there, of course one is much more stared than realizes. But my conclusion is this, women stare/glance at what get´s them attention, like when we stare at a blonde, it gets our attention but we may find her ugly.
You can be good looking, but if you don´t stand in the crowd, in a club or down the street, they won´t see you...
Also women won´t check you as often, as we do. She may see you by accident, think "really cute", and you won´t see her staring/glancing at you all night, contrary to what we do....

What is actually funny, is that I already hanged around guys that are considered greek gods, and for my surprise the amount of stares they had weren´t very different from average guys.. Many times were less. It seems that at night (specially) women are too self absorbed feeling queens...

Another conclusion, is that what women find attractive often changes, it seems that their tastes are like (not drawing cause-effect) with their emotions towards a guy, both very changeable. A girl can find you very attractive one day, and her opinion can change completely the day after, I´ve seen it too many times...

What are you thoughts/ experiences?

 

[muhnkee]

Women don't put a lot of weight on a man's looks alone.

A good way to think of this is Ryan Lochte (Olympic swimmer) vs Ryan Gosling (actor). Both are good-looking men. Lochte is the better looking of the two, but most women would strongly prefer Gosling. Gosling is a bright guy who has a bit of a distant, not-really present quality that just sets women floating.

Also, sometime go read comment women make about Vigo Mortensen from LOTR. The number of chicks that say he's ugly as sin but still hot will leave your head spinning.

 

[TheStig]

Haha funny you should mention Ryan Lochte..he's made some of the most dense, bone headed comments I've ever heard..he's either really dumb or just gets super nervous in front of the camera.

 

[floydb25]

Hmmmmmm.... looks without action means nothing. You can be social, out-going, stand out in different ways, etc... people will look, maybe try to decipher you, find you intriguing (or annoying and retarded as hell), but that doesn't mean they like you. This has been my experience... with men. Ha Ha! :kick:

Men always said I wasn't very good looking, either. But their opinion matters not. Especially since the ones who said this were the unattractive ones who couldn't get **** from women - and had nothing going for them otherwise.

Losers love to judge and bring others down - while bringing themselves up - and think they know everything; talk about "leagues" a lot; how attractive everyone is; etc. There's also a lot of hate and envy behind their words. Losers just talk and gossip; think they're special; project their insecurities and failures onto everyone else; and need to have their faces smashed in. :box:

Anywho... How I knew I was good looking was from the actions and words of women. When they would approach and say "hey good looking / sexy" without hesitation, bright, huge smiles on their face, acting "girly" and excited, wanting to be around me, touching at any opportunity, contacting me, going out of their way for me, bringing up sex with me (or turning every conversation that way), staring for extended periods, compliments all over the place, screaming **** from their cars, etc... THAT'S how you know.

Some may also act jittery and nervous, be too afraid to look at you, etc. Or get pissed OFF when you reject them. Whereas men might find you annoying and retarded - women will also think you're "hilarious" and "cute"... even if you really ARE just annoying and retarded.

I guess it all depends on how attractive you are. But generally, you'll know if you're "hot" or "gorgeous". Girls will even TELL you that you are. The words "hot", "sexy", "good-looking", "very attractive" will be flying around. In my case - at least before I put on the pounds (sad face) - the word "pretty boy" was also used frequently. But you'll just know, and probably turn into a stuck up, conceited jackass as a result.

Girls WILL be hanging around you a lot. They are NOT afraid to approach or flirt with good looking guys - even if they're a little shy or unassertive. That's why GL guys always have women. They don't go around approaching everyone - the women come to THEM. Real talk.

 

[JdelaSilviera]

I totally agree with you, that guys can´t evaluate if one is good looking.

The purpose of this thread was also to say, that if you aren´t getting many stares in the club, it doesn´t mean you don´t look good.

About women approaching, I think they do only approach, when you are very very good looking, hence you are hard to resist. A good looking guy on an average day, may not be approached often, but in the days he looks best he best he becomes very good looking, and women will advance.