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I think my "friends" girlfriend wants it from me..

jay07

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Long story short. Met this guy through my bpd ex who was her ex bf long before me. Had suspicions she cheated on me with him, but no proof. He was always texting me and telling me anything he found suspicious about her behavior since he lived next door (obv. trying to start drama between me and her).

Anyways, me and her finally are done with for good, but i still hang out with some friends that i met through her, and hes there. Hes cool with me, obviously tries hard to be my friend, and hes a good "friend" to me i guess you could say. Gives me free crap, (cigs, booze).

Heres the thing, his gf who i met through my ex before these two were even dating, i think wants me. And here is why.

I believe when my bpd ex and me were in our final stage of breaking it off for good, she tried to hoover him while he was dating his gf. She found out about their past and and now hates her.

Whenever im around these two, she shows me a LOT of attention. Always touching me, laughing at everything i say even if im not trying to be funny, seriously its kind of weird. She will initiate conversation with me more than anyone else. One night i went out with them to the bar because she said she had a friend she wanted to introduce me to. Well she ends up getting wasted and while were walking to the next bar she is ALL over me. I felt uncomfortable because i wanted to just bend her over there but her bf is walking with us just taking this from his gf. I mean, if i was him I would have pulled her aside and asked her wtf shes doing.

Well, it all comes down to this. I dont give two craps about this dudes feelings. I believe he may have slept with my ex while we were together. And although hes a cool guy, hes a shady dude for acting like it in front of my face when i know what he was doing behind my back. Im 2x bigger than this guy, so i do not want to fight him, but i do want to bang his girl.

Should i hit her up on facebook..or should i try talking to her alone next time were all together? I dont want to cause a scene as we hang out with alot of the same people, and if theres a possibility shes just super flirty type (which i dont see with anyone else) than id obviously create drama between me and him which would affect the groups judgement on me.
 

jafyk

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I am not sure if you are asking for advice or just sharing. All the same I think since you all hang out if you do anything with her you run the risk of it coming out and hence the drama you want to avoid.

Normally, I'd say don't do but since you care nothing for the guy, hey help yourself to her at your own risk. Although a part of me wonders if you are truly being honest with yourself about not caring anything for him. Otherwise why are you here asking for opinions.

Just find a time she's isolated and get her # and have her save you in her phone under a girl's name.
 

LukeWhatever

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didnt read ur wall of text but

BROS BEFORE HOES ALWAYS. never go for a girl ur bro is going with. not worth it. millions of girls out there. especially if shes in a relationship with ur bro.. if u get with her.. and get with her in a relationship she'll prolly just cheat on u with one of ur friends. imagine that feel

also u might think shes into u because shes just looking for attention. now that shes got a man she might want to validate herself as "hot" that shes not single and getting attention
 

Cremasta

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If you're not worried about either his or her feelings, that's fine. What you might be worried about is your rep with the group of friends you're hanging around with.

Flirt away, but don't put anything in writing (text message, facebook, email, etc.) that could come back to bite you. She needs to make the move though. You can hide that behind a facade of chivalry (I don't try to take other guy's girls), but it's really your rep with your friends which is the concern here.
 

Chamber36

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LukeWhatever said:
didnt read ur wall of text but

BROS BEFORE HOES ALWAYS
same.
 

pdx1138

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I wouldn't do it.

A guy a few years younger than me (I've known him since he was 10)
his wife, flirts with me often. Told me she has dreams of us making out and doing other "things."

As tempting / fun as it could be there's no way I'm going there.
 

HalfAddict

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I know a dude who pulls this sort of **** regularly...He is a rich kid and uses that to bed gullible broads. Let me tell you this dude has a new group of friends every couple of months and everyone knows about him... it ain't good. You don't wanna be the dude known for trying to **** other dudes ladies.
 
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