it's so strange how i see a group of friends hanging out and i'm all alone. this hasn't happened before.. this has been happening to me for months now. even though i am cool with more people, i haven't made any friends who are girls, haven't hung out with anyone much. also, it seems like a few of my friends don't pay attention to me as much as they do to others. it's weird.. it really is. it's also weird how it seems like girls don't really respond that positively towards me. it's also weird how when im sitting at a seat while everyone else is on the other side of the room. i approach them, but it seems like im not that good enough for some people. what the hell is wrong with me? why can't i even get some people's attention no more? it's like, there is something wrong with me but i dont know what.
i think it's me
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well what do you look like (style and physically)? If you're not appealing to other people, the realities of high school are that you will usually be outcasted. This can be worked on pretty easily and unless you have something really physically wrong with you, shaping up isn't a big deal.
Maybe you're trying too hard? I know a lot of kids who are really nice people, but they try so hard they come across as needy and annoying.
Are you usually upbeat and fun to be around, or do you act depressed and wear shirts that say "The voices in my head don't like you"?
The bottom line is there's a lot of things that can put someone in your position, and without some more information about how you act, look, etc, it's a little tough to really give you help.
Maybe you're trying too hard? I know a lot of kids who are really nice people, but they try so hard they come across as needy and annoying.
Are you usually upbeat and fun to be around, or do you act depressed and wear shirts that say "The voices in my head don't like you"?
The bottom line is there's a lot of things that can put someone in your position, and without some more information about how you act, look, etc, it's a little tough to really give you help.
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The recurring theme in this whole post is...."it seems."
Ever notice how sometimes when you're in a quiet place and your eating you try to chew quietly. Simply because you THINK that if you chew loudly someone will hear the crunching. Which is not the case (unless your a slob and like to chew with your mouth open)
I can completely relate to what your saying. Some of it might be true too, but I bet that most of it is only what you THINK is the truth. In other words you're probably imagining it. Or basing a reason on some kind of evidence that is false.
Your reality is all based on how YOU look at it. Some people see a glass thats half empty, others see it as half full. Don't give up because you "feel" a certain way right now.
I've also noticed the more you try to make people like you, or try to fit in to get attention, the less people will actually like you. This usually happens because in their reality you're being false, you're not being yourself. When actually your just wanting attention. Which also makes people feel as though your needy. This is a huge turn off to most people.
Be friendly, don't over do it. You might also want to take up some hobbies, or something, so you can have fun with yourself. Watch a movie, go for a run, treat yourself to something nice. This is one of the biggest keys for anything in life.
Nothing is WRONG with YOU. However, the way your acting could be. I hope this helped you, or gave you a foundation to start with.
Tootles....
Ever notice how sometimes when you're in a quiet place and your eating you try to chew quietly. Simply because you THINK that if you chew loudly someone will hear the crunching. Which is not the case (unless your a slob and like to chew with your mouth open)
I can completely relate to what your saying. Some of it might be true too, but I bet that most of it is only what you THINK is the truth. In other words you're probably imagining it. Or basing a reason on some kind of evidence that is false.
Your reality is all based on how YOU look at it. Some people see a glass thats half empty, others see it as half full. Don't give up because you "feel" a certain way right now.
I've also noticed the more you try to make people like you, or try to fit in to get attention, the less people will actually like you. This usually happens because in their reality you're being false, you're not being yourself. When actually your just wanting attention. Which also makes people feel as though your needy. This is a huge turn off to most people.
Be friendly, don't over do it. You might also want to take up some hobbies, or something, so you can have fun with yourself. Watch a movie, go for a run, treat yourself to something nice. This is one of the biggest keys for anything in life.
Nothing is WRONG with YOU. However, the way your acting could be. I hope this helped you, or gave you a foundation to start with.
Tootles....
thanks guys.. this is helping. this whole situation went hard on me. i felt such an outcast in my classes. i also noticed everyone being normal to themselves, or at least that's how i see it. im either quiet or i think so hard about this everyday. i wasn't lonely like this before, now it feels like i am.
thanks guys.
thanks guys.
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but i like those shirts....
They've become cliche' (however you spell it)
Walk to the other side.
Nothing at all.
Cool with more people is good. as he said, youre trying too hard.
Look around you. Find someone to talk to.
"well, sir. I have nothing to say" then sit there andwait till you do. You dont have to be in your prime the whole day. If you see your classmates, youll notice that one of them isnt the talkmaster all the time. The ones who are arent liked much. talk only when you have something to say. The negative responses are for that.
In all, lighten up.
And come to school naked, thatll solve your problems.