I think it ended because I suck in bed!

[Dave111]

I'm feeling pretty down about this. Was dating a girl for a few months there but it ended last week. It was a kinda mutual thing when we agreed to end it, because I knew deep down it wasn't working, but really when it comes down to it, I think its because we never clicked in bed.

Its a big blow to my confidence when I read the article at the top of the main page in this website about "being her best lover ever!" blah blah. I need to learn fast on how to become a competent lover. I just dont think I was turning her on in bed. I tried all the foreplay and what not, but she wouldn't let me go down on her to pleasure her that way. She told me she didn't ever let guys go down on her!

I've been fine with my previous girlfriends and I know they have been satisfied, but with this one, she seems really difficult to please. Even if it is just a case of the two of us not clicking, it still upsets my confidence. The thing is when we broke up last week, she told me she thought it wasn't going to work with us, but she made it out that the reason was because we worked with each other, I on the other hand get the gut feeling it was more than just that reason, hence why I'm feeling a bit down in the dumps just now.

any of you guys ever had this problem with bad sex knocking your confidence?

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by Dave111
I'm feeling pretty down about this. Was dating a girl for a few months there but it ended last week. It was a kinda mutual thing when we agreed to end it, because I knew deep down it wasn't working, but really when it comes down to it, I think its because we never clicked in bed.

Its a big blow to my confidence when I read the article at the top of the main page in this website about "being her best lover ever!" blah blah. I need to learn fast on how to become a competent lover. I just dont think I was turning her on in bed. I tried all the foreplay and what not, but she wouldn't let me go down on her to pleasure her that way. She told me she didn't ever let guys go down on her!

I've been fine with my previous girlfriends and I know they have been satisfied, but with this one, she seems really difficult to please. Even if it is just a case of the two of us not clicking, it still upsets my confidence. The thing is when we broke up last week, she told me she thought it wasn't going to work with us, but she made it out that the reason was because we worked with each other, I on the other hand get the gut feeling it was more than just that reason, hence why I'm feeling a bit down in the dumps just now.

any of you guys ever had this problem with bad sex knocking your confidence?

Was it your first girl? It takes a while for you to get a sexual vibe going. Often you're so anxious to please her that not only do you not know what works for HER, you don't know what works for YOU.

If you f**k up sexually, it makes it twice as bad if you get all self-conscious about it. Just be confident about what you DID do right, understand what you did WRONG, and try to improve until you find something that works for both you AND her. And some people just AREN'T sexually compatible.

 

[Soma]

The only time I experienced that prob was when I first started having sex. But after a while I just let go and let my passion take over. I pay attention to every exquisite detail of a women's body, teasing her, making her want me. Build up the tension and then I just ravish her. Ohhhhh yeah. But I've spent a lot of time learning about what works and what doesn't by reading MANY books, watching videos, asking questions, and learning on my own.

I've never had a complaint in the last 7 years. In fact, I get quite a few compliments. I remember one time, I was hanging with my ex-girlfriend, her boyfriend, and this new girl I was dating (whom was introduced to me by the ex-gf). The girl I was dating was a virgin and I knew she wanted to fvck me but was a little hesitant since she always wanted to wait for marriage. The thing that finally tipped her over was on that particular night, my ex-gf, said to the girl I was dating, in front of the bf.."You should have sex with Soma." Girl asked why. My ex replied, "Just do it. Trust me. You'll be in for a treat. He really knows what he's doing." As my ex said that she was putting her hand on my chest and snuggling up to me while the virgin girl was all DDB (Doggy dinner bowl look). The boyfriend sat there, looking on, like WTF!?!?! I'm sure you can guess what happened with that virgin later that night.

The easiest piece of advice I can give you is to let your passion take over. Let go of your inhibitions in bed. Don't just fvck the girl. Savor the experience! Inhale her sex and let it pour through you. Touch her, taste her, tease her. Enjoy her body and enjoy your body. Enjoy how your bodies fit together. Feel the heat. Feel the sweat. Notice the details. Sensuality, my friend. Be sensual. Meaning, use all your senses to experience her. If you honestly experience the pleasure, her experience will be heightened as well. And when you're done she'll want more, and more, and more...

 

[Ice Cold]

It's called a dry vagina, nothing to worry about

 

[joecollapoppa]

its her problem not yours

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

No such things as a 'terrible lover' for a male!! All you do is put 'it' in and out - up and down!! It is fairly simple!!

 

[Eternal]

Re: Re: I think it ended because I suck in bed!

Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
No such things as a 'terrible lover' for a male!! All you do is put 'it' in and out - up and down!! It is fairly simple!!

*Puts away feather, whipped cream, and massage oils* Well I'll be damned...

 

[NewMan]

No such things as a 'terrible lover' for a male!! All you do is put 'it' in and out - up and down!! It is fairly simple!!

I wonder why am I not surprised at this comment....

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Originally posted by NewMan
I wonder why am I not surprised at this comment....

Maybe it is because you place your manhood on your penis whereas my manhood is based on my masculinity and the 'manliness' I possess and the traits that women seek.

If Your woman is basing whether she likes you based on a penis then she is a hor - "Say no to hos"!!!!!!!!!!!

Don't be a pvssy-pleasing chump!!!

 

[MindOverMatter]

If you think you're bad in bed, educate yourself. Learn new tricks, new positions, new locations, etc, whatever. Never let sex get boring.

Mark this relationship as a loss, and move on with your life. Don't let this hurt your confidence, instead, look at it as a learning experiance. Some of the greatest martial artists are guys that were picked on in school. Vin Diesel used to be a Dungeons and Dragons playing geek in high school. Albert Einstein failed math once. Do you see where I'm getting at? All these people had a flaw that they focused on, and fixed it, and turned it into something that made them great.

 

[timorozco]

don't trip about it, move on, take the experince u learned with you, trust me, the first time for me? i was with 2 girls for my first time and i was so drunk the worst was moving, did i suck? oh hell yea, but hey, good experience, i learned a lot and now it just keeps getting better.

 

[NewMan]

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Maybe it is because you place your manhood on your penis whereas my manhood is based on my masculinity and the 'manliness' I possess and the traits that women seek.

If Your woman is basing whether she likes you based on a penis then she is a hor - "Say no to hos"!!!!!!!!!!!

Don't be a pvssy-pleasing chump!!!
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Thats where your wrong.

You may go around hitting your Ho's - that's not manliness.

Your problem is, you need meek women with low self esteem.

Good sex is part and parcel of a good reltionship.

Now it makes sense. That's why your women have to be virgins. With an outlook and attitude like that - I'm not surprised.

Go put your wife beater T-shirt on PRL.

 

[cave dweller]

practice

Practice makes perfect.........
Study the 'G Spot'.......
Develope your 'after-play'.

cave dweller

 

[Player_Supreme]

YO:

It looks like it wasn't all you. Look at the fact that she wouldn't let you go down on her. That is a woman with repressed sexuality. She probably had trouble getting an orgam.

Don't kicks yourself. But do search for more info on becoming a better lover. There is always room for improvement.

If you look back on it, you will see that this woman probably doesn't click with anyone. She needs to learn to fix herself first. You can't be Capt. Save-a-Ho, and fix all of their problems.

Just let it go and grow.

 

[DJ_Dork]

who cares, find another girl.

 

[Viking25]

Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover


If Your woman is basing whether she likes you based on a penis then she is a hor - "Say no to hos"!!!!!!!!!!!

It's "Make the ho say no!" !

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Originally posted by NewMan
Your problem is, you need meek women with low self esteem.

Now it makes sense. That's why your women have to be virgins. With an outlook and attitude like that - I'm not surprised.

Your misguided comments are why I feel compelled to visit this site - to correct the wrong!!

Those women who do not give themselves sexually to a man (Virgins) actually have extremely HIGH self esteem and not 'low', as you stated.

For a woman to deny a man the main thing that he wants (sex) shows that she has something greater to offer him through her person and companionship and has the confidence to reject his sexual advances knowing that he may/will leave. Her thinking is “If you don’t want ‘ME’ then you can’t have what I possess and have to offer”. This virgin stance takes much character and a high level of self worth to chose to be alone rather than be a man’s hor. This is a sign of a strong woman!!

‘Meekness’ is a character trait/quality that exhibits high self-esteem – not low. I want a woman who is meek and possess a high level of esteem - possessing such a sense of self-worth that she is not threatened by the naturally superior position of the male!

Contrarily, ‘Hors’ have extremely low self-esteem and no confidence in keeping a man – so they give up the thing that men are after (sex) in hopes that he would stay with her because of his lust. The hor has nothing else to offer through her person or in her companionship so she ‘keeps’ a man through the basest element (sex) in a male/female relationship! The hor ties her self worth to her vagina!! When the hor is a few years older she is no longer attractive and she is finished!!

Prostitutes, strippers, porn-hos all have extremely low self-esteem and do not love themselves or others– and they are a lonely and psychologically/spiritually damaged bunch.


You may go around hitting your Ho's - that's not manliness. Go put your wife beater T-shirt on PRL.

It is not the ‘T’shirt – it is the sleeveless ‘A’ shirt that is of the ‘wife-beater’ kind. I am not a pimp so I have no need to ‘hit’ my hos!
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Good sex is part and parcel of a good relationship.

"Good sex" is when it is more than a physical act and encompasses one’s spirit and being expressed in love – this is a “good relationship” that brings forth "good sex"!

You don’t need to have a “relationship” with a hor to have “good sex”– just satisfy your lust and leave!!

You can have “good sex” without a relationship (hor/girlfriend scenario) or you can have a “good relationship” with no sex (virgin scenario)!

Newman – you need to become a “New man” and change your thinking to a more masculine stance and have a greater male perspective! You don’t ‘eat’ a woman’s infested disease ridden vagina to please her or think that this is part of ‘good sex’ – do you? Only pvssy pleasing chumps feel obligated to ‘go down’ on a woman!!

 

[Player_Supreme]

PRL said:

"‘Meekness’ is a character trait/quality that exhibits high self-esteem – not low. I want a woman who is meek and possess a high level of esteem - possessing such a sense of self-worth that she is not threatened by the naturally superior position of the male!"

My comment:

Amen brotha! It is a womans natural way to be meek. Society is shifting and changing and not in a good way with these new masculine females running around.

There is a movie comming out with Queen Latifah and some gay faggot who is playing a cop. Queen is playing the hard masculine role and the cop is whining like a bytch.

I urge all real men not to see this movie, cause it is setting mankind up to take a lower place in society. Queen is a known dyke...and that actor looks straight up faggot....

Don't get sold a bill of goods by our media and entertainment avenues. Those are now controlled by fags ie ...directors...writers...actors...casting agents...

Why do you fellows think they are selling this new feminine man as being sexy to women....

 

[Blue Phoenix]

Very good

PRL said:

"Contrarily, ‘Hors’ have extremely low self-esteem and no confidence in keeping a man – so they give up the thing that men are after (sex) in hopes that he would stay with her because of his lust. The hor has nothing else to offer through her person or in her companionship so she ‘keeps’ a man through the basest element (sex) in a male/female relationship! The hor ties her self worth to her vagina!! When the hor is a few years older she is no longer attractive and she is finished!!

Prostitutes, strippers, porn-hos all have extremely low self-esteem and do not love themselves or others– and they are a lonely and psychologically/spiritually damaged bunch. "

Man, where did you learn all this stuff?

Where did you get your Phd in 'hors'?

Your comments were perfect!

"... hos all have extremely low self-esteem and do not love themselves or others – and they are lonely and psychologically damaged."

They basically focus their value on how others perceive her. They're seeking approval and definitively, they've psychological issues!

I totally agree with you!

PRL do you think is it possible to stop being a hor? Would you believe if one of them tells you they've changed?

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Originally posted by Blue Phoenix
Man, where did you learn all this stuff?

Where did you get your Phd in 'hors'?

PRL do you think is it possible to stop being a hor? Would you believe if one of them tells you they've changed?

Haha, yeah - this was the topic of my thesis to obtain my Phd - "Wh@redoms" - I attended 'Pimp University' (PU). Once you know the ‘Hor mindset” you will know how she thinks and her future actions – they are very predictable!

Any women can come out of her 'wh@redom' and actually most do but not because of their own decision but rather because of "involuntary" retirement i.e. "aging". Women know that their so-called beauty is "temporal" by nature - it is fleeting them on a yearly, if not monthly, basis!

A woman's so-called 'beauty' is closely tied to her youth and so are her child bearing years - thus her time to trap, errrr, get a man's interest is short and must be accomplished within a certain time frame in her 'youngest' years.

This is why they panic at the age of 27 if they are ‘not’ in a committed relationship because they want to be married by the age of 30 and have children as soon as possible – and they know that they can no longer hold down their weight and keep in shape as they age – especially after child birth!!

This is when they know that they must find a man who would keep her in her worst looking years 35 – 75 and thus are no longer interested in the so-called ‘Jerk’ type who will leave her stranded once her ‘beauty’ is gone but now is looking for a ‘Nice guy’ (read chump) who will stay with her in her declining years and “love” her for who she is and not factor in her horish past!! This is the CHUMP OF ALL CHUMPS – and this is the category that the majority of American men fall in to – they are marrying X-HORS!!

The X-HOR wants to “settle down” and become a wife and a mother only because her options in finding a mate have become extremely limited – she can never compete with her younger self and the millions of younger hos she calls her competitors!

Very few women change their hor status but if they do it is usually because of a religious or spiritual conversion - it does happen! I would believe a girl if she said that she will not be a man’s hor anymore only if they had a spiritual awakening and are humble – I will encourage them to take the high road but I would never marry them!! Thus my ‘unmarried’ status!

I am at peace and always have been, unlike many of the current AFC’s who have and are getting castrated by their hors and paying a heavy emotional, psychological, and financial toll for many years because of their unmanly behavior and thinking!!