I think im doing something wrong

[Comeback kid]

I posted a few conversations i had with girls on here, i wanted to know what i have been doing wrong. Girls always seem like they aren't interested in my conversations. 1 big thing is im not very popular in school, about 10 girls really dislike me. Does this mean I won't have any chances with other girls because of this?? Just want to know before i return back to approaching. What i mainly wanted to know is if im doing something wrong because im making no progress with any girls at the moment. So i posted a few conversations i had with girls, if anyone see's anything wrong please feel free to tell me.

Girl walks into the room and sits down in her usual seat beside me
Me-Hey
Girl-Hi (looks away)
I touch her arm after a few seconds of silence
Me- So where did you get the braclet
Girl- A friend made it for me (looks away again)
Me- Must be a really close friend huh
Girl- Yeah (looks away)
See how she's not really engaged in the conversation

Another example is i see a girl walking in the hallway (one I smiled with a while ago)
Me- Hey i just came to see how you were doing
Her-Oh....Thats nice
(it seems like she didn't really want me to talk to her, wasn't giving much eye contact either, actually none really)

My last example is one day when I was sitting with a group of girls at a table(i decided to talk to the one i was interested in)
I saw her doing some math work, she was laughing with her friend at the moment then went back to her work
Me-so is that hard
Her-No (her facial expression completely changed and she became serious then started talking to her friends again)
This happened 2 more times when i tried to talk to her. She turned out to be a lesbain in a relationship but still it follows the theme of that uninterested vibe. Some other things to know is im black, im okay looking. But some say i act white, i just don't fit the steryotype, im fine with who i am. And all the girls i approached were white.

 

[Mr Plow]

Wish I could help, sadly, can't, I'm gonna wait to see what others say I could make use of what they say too...

And without being offensive are you hideous, I mean I guess it's not offensive seeing as I'm leaving it up to you to give an answer. It seems that girls probably would give this sort of reaction to Quasimodo, but I mean, you probably aren't so don't go thinking you are.

If not, like I said I'm waiting for suggestions to help myself out too.

 

[Ether]

Any particular reason that the 10 girls hate (or really dislike, whatever) you?

If you think your social status is holding back, you should probably start working on that. HS Bible has quite a few topics on the subject, but you've probably read them. The conversations you bring up don't seem very intruiging at all, but I can't be a good judge of that over a computer. Try some more interesting topics?

just some feedback.

 

[Comeback kid]

i'd say im average looking. When i was bit younger i used to think i was ugly cause alot of people would say i was. But then i heard a few girls say i looked cute, and some people said i didn't look that bad when i referred to myself as ugly. So i think overall im just average. These 10 girls dislike me for a number of reasons. Some of them i made some bad mistakes with, others just dislike me for small reasons. Like i tried to talk to one girl and she said nothing back. So thats that.

 

[WesCottII]

You've been going to the same well for years now.

All these girls know you, who you are, what you do, have seen you grow up. Boring in a word.

Go somewhere else, and approach girls you DON'T know.

 

[shaunuk]

I definitely find WesCott's opinion to be true in the small places in sub-urban England I grew up. My schools had like..1000 people in them..everyone in your grade knew each other, at least to an extent. They've seen you grow up, they know what you're REALLY like.

It's easier to walk in there with a clean slate with girls you've never met before or who are not familiar with you.

The way you are trying to engage these girls in not PARTICULARLY exciting, but it's not bad really. If these girls had never met you before, many of them would be more receptive. Work on talking to girls you don't know, in the same way, and then adjust accordingly.

shaun

 

[LostAndConfused]

All these girls know you, who you are, what you do, have seen you grow up. Boring in a word.

+∞ with that post, its so true. Since its in the high school forum I assume you are in high school. Most of these girls have the opinion that you are either a loser or an AFC (aren't the two interchangeable, lol). You probably haven't tried to communicate with them much outside of just saying hi. It's like the three-second rule, but you waited months or even years to approach. They're already f*cking the football players.

What you need to do is find a social connection to girls outside your school. Go out with some friends that don't go to your school. Go to their school events. Talk to some of the girls there. And if you don't think you can build up your social proof (in high school its hard, I d*mn sure can't...), separate your school from your social life, talking to friends and girls outside of it.