I think I just got put in the friend zone :(

[sozzz]

long story short. met this girl at campus, talked only a couple times and then ask her to chill with me at some museum. at first, she was hesistant and then said ok. so she got into my car and everything is cool.

*fast foward to a couple days later*

met her again and asked her out for a drink, she yes. everything good.


*fast foward to now*

today, we talked and such. she told me that she likes likes this guy who works the same job as her and goes to the same campus as us. she says hes funny and cute and only if he doesnt have a girlfriend she would talk to him. the mofo was walking back and forth back and forth trying to get her attention im sure. i even told her that hes trying to get her attention, she laughs. i said go talk to him already, she said no...me and the guy used to be friends until we graduated high school, now we go to the same college and the mofo is trying to win her over just to piss me off or something..

now, i dont know if shes trying to make me jealous or not cuz i told her i have girls around me all the time, wherever i go, she said im ****y as hell but laughed everytime i turn to my ****y side.

i asked her to go out to play a game of 4-5 ppl kinda game, but first she said she wanna bring friends as well cuz its boring with 2 ppl. well we are all going tomorrow and im picking them up. and my boys will meet me there, since i invited my friends there too.

she told me she owed me dinner for taking her out twice. i told her i'll pick the place but she keeps saying that the place she chooses is good and i say probably not, just to tease her. we argued for a little, but i think we're going out to dinner 1on1 sometime next week, not this sat but next week.

what do you guys think?

 

[Interceptor]

Shes not interested in you. Leave her alone. Dont waste your time with her.

 

[sozzz]

Shes not interested in you. Leave her alone. Dont waste your time with her.

FUK

i thought she was.. what about the part she said we're going out to dinner 1on1?


P.S she just moved here from a china.. so shes very old fashion and dont know about the culture here much..

 

[jayhood]

Cmmon my dude. Reading from your post it is obvious that she is not THAT interested in you. I'm pretty sure she sees you as a friend.

 

[sozzz]

alright, thx.

 

[Kal0051]

yeah dude. Most of it would have been good til she told you she likes another guy. If she liked you she would never tell you she likes someone else. Sorry man but your just a friend to her, so treat her as such.

 

[sozzz]

UPDATE!! after i made this thread, i treated her as a friend but today, something happened..



while we're chilling in the library, she says its boring, wanna go to starbucks? i said ye, but lets not go here, theres one at the mall. we went there and she talked about how i dress like an old dude with nasty clothes. so i was being a smartass and said why dont she buy me some then. she said alright!

she likes this brand of clothe on guys so she suggest we go in and she picks me out a shirt. i said i dont want her buying me anything, plz don't. she said its ok.

later we head out to eat, during the drive, she said she wanted to test me thats why she offered me to let her buy me clothe and i accept. she said i failed her test. meanwhile her friend calls her, and while she was talking, i scream and stuff in the cell and her friend asks her who is it, she said a friend. after she hung up she started crying.. i was like WTF.. i said im sorry, i didnt know she take that kinda joke so hard..

i said im sorry and then BOOM it came to me, i asked her if she likes likes me.. and she need to be honest with me.. she said... just a little! i grabbed her hand and held it for a good 5 minutes. her hand got so sweaty and didnt know what to do. i let it go and we talked for a little. i asked her lets go eat and she said no... then she said i dont understand women.. when a woman says no, that means yes...


when we sat down to eat, we talked while eating and then somehow we brought up the holding her hand in the car.. i said to her, if you didn't like me why did you let me hold your hand for so long and you were sweating.. she said WHAT.. can't friends do that? she said if she tells me the truth, i might be dissapointed.. i said lol

it was time to go, it was starting to rain, so drove her home. i told her i think i just got sick and i feel like puking. i grabbed her hand and held it again. i told her i feel much better now. she LOL and say you sneaky person! later she pretend to look for stuff in her purse and then as soon as i let her hand go she cross her arms.. and then i told her.. i think i just got food poison and i feel like puking(not kidding).. she said.. SEE you shouldnt eat too much. i asked her if she could rub some oinment thingy between my nose.. she did.. and then asked me if i wanted my neck rubbed with the oinment i said yes.. drove her home n told her i'll call her.. she LOL and said do w/e you want!



AM I STILL IN THE FRIEND ZONE?

 

[jayhood]

I found your story to be unbelievable. Why would she say I do not understand women? Are you a woman looking for advice on how to get women on a male forum?

 

[sozzz]

You're not posing much of a challenge. She said w.e because she is not THAT interested, but wouldn't mind.

Friends with intimacy lets just say.

Once you stick it in tho, you should be on a higher playing field

she is from a foreign country and the girls there like it when guys tell them they like like them after a couple times of hanging out.. atleast thats what she told me..

what do you mean stick it in though?

I found your story to be unbelievable. Why would she say I do not understand women? Are you a woman looking for advice on how to get women on a male forum?

if i wanted to make random BS up.. i'd change my gender to female n make make my font pink n shiet.. she said that i dont understand women.. not her dont understand women.. my bad if i get it mixed up..

im just asking for advice not attention alright..?

 

[DJDamage]

She either views you as one of her girlfriends or this:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HK9VBxDlQOE

leave her be and move on.

Read the DJ Bible too.

 

[Kal0051]

she meant that he does not understand women

 

[Kal0051]

DJDamage got it right. Just leave her be and move on. Your in the friend zone and unfortunately for you you won't get out of it.

And "stick it in" means stick your penis in her... aka SEX

 

[daygameguy]

She either views you as one of her girlfriends or this:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HK9VBxDlQOE

leave her be and move on.

Read the DJ Bible too.

Hey thread starter,

Here is my viewpoint -

First, she looks like trouble.
Second, you are in the friend zone but she lets you be intimate with her because she doesn't have any other option YET.


Change the way you are handling her. Be in control. AND be assured that she is NOT shy.

 

[sozzz]

^she is EXTREMELY EXTREMELY SHY.. imagine a foreign country who dont kiss and hold hands in public..so when she come to america.. i gotta change my way to foreign crap and kinda forget all the american rules between a boy n a girl, if you know what i mean..

we talked for 4 hours last night..(YES i know i messed up right there, but i say forget the rules, im going with her BS culture in her country).

i called her to ask if she got home safely blah blah.. she said shes still at school cuz of the rain. i said it was my fault for getting her home late, she said yes while laughing.

*fast foward*

asked me the 4 rules that she wanted me to change.. but i only remembered one.. i stalled and change topics she said WHY do you always do that! just tell me you don't remember.. she then told me she wanted to test me, so she offer to buy me clothes and i accept, so i failed.. then i asked her again, if she likes likes me..(again i shouldnt keep asking this question, but i said in my head, screw the rules, im going with her culture in her country!). she said.. I did but 30 minutes ago i hate you now. i then explained to her how the culture in america is different than in hers, she then came to her senses and said she understand and she took me on my offers to go to the movies and she asked if i could help her read the chapters in the book.. i said ok..

but me, not like ending like that, i called her out n *****ed at her.. i said to her why the hell did you test me, i hate it when people do that! no girl has ever test me, do you know how pissed off i am? she said she admit she was wrong and she WONT EVER DO IT EVER AGAIN! she tried to apologize for a good 2 hours or maybe an hour and 30 minutes. ima meet her tomorrow at school n take her back to the mall to return all the ****s she bought me, and then ima go home. she said NOO keep the clothes, i dont want it back. i said i dont care, ima go there and drag your ass to the mall to return this, whether you like it or not.. she said shes SORRY and she wants me to keep the ****s she bought me. i said to her if she bought these just out of generosity, i would like them, but to test me.. FUK OUTTA HERE! she said shes SORRY again, how can she make it up to me? she said she'll do ANYTHING! i said i dont care anymore, ima see you tomorrow n take you to the mall to return n then im out. ima hang up now, its getting late and we've been talking for 4 hours now..she said NooOo she wanna talk more and if i dont forgive her she wont be able to sleep n wont be able to take her tests tomorrow.. i said why.. im no one special so why care so much? she said i am special and blah blah blah..

well today, i'll be driving up to the school n drag her ass to the mall and then probably take her to the movies and pay for her ticket cuz yesterday i didnt even have enough money for dinner so she had to chip in LOL.. i feel like crap but she didnt say anything..its my way of saying neither of us owe each other anything!

once we get to the movies, ima grab her hand as we walk in the movies and then as we sit down, ima wrap my arm around her and then LAY a FAT one on her lips. see how the ***** likes it! if she doesnt like it, PEACE. if she is down, then 1st base and home run here i come!

what do you guys think? am i making the right choice or i got myself deeper in the friend zone?

 

[DJDamage]

what do you guys think? am i making the right choice or i got myself deeper in the friend zone?[/B]

You are nuts and you reek of desperation.

 

[sozzz]

You are nuts and you reek of desperation.

OoO you serious.. what should i do then?

i dont see how that is reek of desperation man..

P.S you have to remember, shes not an american girl.. shes a foreign girl where the guy gotta express his feelings and and be mature and all this bs.. im just playing her game.. no more 3 days rule calling or asking out bs.. i do w/e i feel like. if i sink, then i SINK, hopefully i'll learn from this. if i float then maybe the stuff i have learned were useless..

 

[DJDamage]

OoO you serious.. what should i do then?

i dont see how that is reek of desperation man..

You are forcing yourself on this girl when all indications point to the fact she doesn't think of you in a sexual manner and you are dismissing it because you equate her background as an excuse of her being shy. Hell if she is really shy maybe she is too nice to tell you right to your face that you should fvck off because she isn't interested. Hell if she is a coward she might even put out if you go to the movies with her just so you won't get mad or cry about it, but after that she will avoid you like a plague.

Your behaviour is that of a beggar and nobody respects a beggar especially women (beggars can't be choosers). Your oneitis for this girl is quite evident here as well as your lack of options which is probably the reason you latched onto a foreign girl who herself is probably finding it hard to integrate into a westernize culture.

You really need to read the DJ Bible and eliminate all your bad habits.

 

[Jazzman19]

Uggghhhh....

Sorry, but this reminds me of something I did four years ago when I was much younger and stupid. Listen, you are DEEP in the friendzone with this girl, no matter what country she comes from or "customs" they may have. She is stringing you along because it is FUN for her, and you are playing right along.

That little "show" you put on about the clothes, no matter how appropriate you thought it was at the time, was just....wow. It makes you look like a male drama queen, and that is NOT a good thing. If this girl doesn't move your arm off of her after you put her arm around her, I am willing to bet everything I own she slaps you when you kiss her or pulls away and gets pissy when you make the attempt.

Sorry man, you should walk. If you like being around her and can get over trying to be with her, then accept being friends (which can be good if she has a crap-load of hot friends you can hit on).

 

[sozzz]

You are forcing yourself on this girl when all indications point to the fact she doesn't think of you in a sexual manner and you are dismissing it because you equate her background as an excuse of her being shy. Hell if she is really shy maybe she is too nice to tell you right to your face that you should fvck off because she isn't interested. Hell if she is a coward she might even put out if you go to the movies with her just so you won't get mad or cry about it, but after that she will avoid you like a plague.

Your behaviour is that of a beggar and nobody respects a beggar especially women (beggars can't be choosers). Your oneitis for this girl is quite evident here as well as your lack of options which is probably the reason you latched onto a foreign girl who herself is probably finding it hard to integrate into a westernize culture.

You really need to read the DJ Bible and eliminate all your bad habits.

i understand what you're saying. at first i was going to forget her and just be friends, but since this will be the last time i will ever hang out with her, i thought i'll give it one last try. the move in for the kiss will either hurt or pass me. i'll never know if i dont try. i dont care if i fail or if she slap me.. I HAVE TO TRY!!

i dont know how to tell you but my boys n her friends went out n one of my boys digged one of her friends so they talked on the phone for 2 hours and he told her he likes likes her and that she thought of him as only a friend and he said to her that she aint gonna be just a friend to him for long.. next day my buddy n i went to philly and he told me he wanted to buy her this $800 necklace.. i told him WTF man.. NOOOO.. he said to me.. in his foreign culture same as the girl i've been talking about.. girls love it when a guy tells a girl his feelings n crap.. i said to him, w/e do w/e you want but dont say i didnt warn you so..

i gave my buddy advice but i didnt take the advice i give him by slowing down a little bit, instead im trying to move just as fast as him.. me and her talked in the car.. she mostly does all the asking.. about my ex girlfriends, parents, siblings, my hobbies and all that crap.. but when she asks me what her likes n dislikes.. i just shook my head cuz i realized i havent been giving her enough attention.. so now that i am you tell me im desperate n shiet.. im confused as hell right now.

today will says it all.. if i kiss her n she pulls back.. im moving on. if she doesnt move back then we have something simple as that. WISH ME LUCK!:wave:

Uggghhhh....

Sorry, but this reminds me of something I did four years ago when I was much younger and stupid. Listen, you are DEEP in the friendzone with this girl, no matter what country she comes from or "customs" they may have. She is stringing you along because it is FUN for her, and you are playing right along.

That little "show" you put on about the clothes, no matter how appropriate you thought it was at the time, was just....wow. It makes you look like a male drama queen, and that is NOT a good thing. If this girl doesn't move your arm off of her after you put her arm around her, I am willing to bet everything I own she slaps you when you kiss her or pulls away and gets pissy when you make the attempt.

Sorry man, you should walk. If you like being around her and can get over trying to be with her, then accept being friends (which can be good if she has a crap-load of hot friends you can hit on).

I DONT UNDERSTAND if she was stringing me along why did she spend 1-2 hours trying to apologize to me? i mean if she was playing games, then she woulda say sorry and peace out but instead didnt want me to hang up and kept apologizing i know she knew she was at fault but 1-2 hours of apologizing is a little much for any girl to any guy they just met.. i still have hope in this girl.

and I WILL TAKE YOU ON THAT BET about my arm around her and kiss her!!:yes: HAHAHA..

i know im in deep **** now.. the only way for me to get out of the FZ is take my chances.

 

[mikeraw]

Hey, OP, if you're going to ignore all the advice posted here then don't even bother posting at all. Go read the fukking DJ Bible and stop digging your own grave. It's embarrassing to read about.

And post your age, too. It makes a big difference to people giving advice. You're obviusly younger, but how young? 20?