personal02
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Experts,
Disclaimer - I'm a newbie, please go easy on me because i made obvious mistakes.
So up until now i was only focused on my career which is all amazing with rapid growth, money etc. I dated a few girls casually, and my last relationship ended about a year ago (serious from girl's side but not from my end). Single since then.
My job requires frequent traveling, I met a group at my recent client locations and became friends with them instantly. A girl in this group (very attractive) seemed interested and charmed me while we went on a couple of outings with the group. Her friends told me she was totally different when i was around, and i saw all the "she's interested" signs. So I asked her out for coffee and she converted it to a dinner date. We met and had great time, I was super chivalrous (my nature) brought flowers, picked her up, paid for food, dropped her back home, basically treated her like a princess (my big mistake). I did NOT kiss her (my other mistake) just a hug and kiss on the cheek.
She texted me back shortly after the date asking if i had reached hotel, and then we exchange few flirty texts.
Now here is my ultimate mistake - I started picturing her as my perfect girlfriend, and how we would do long distance, stupid future planning etc. and not only this i discussed this with her over the phone after 2 days grrrr. From that point she flaked (i immediately realized my mistake but it was too late) She started avoiding meeting again, and i didn't have much time as i was traveling back soon after it. I literally forced her to meet me on the way to the airport though she said she was unwell. I brought flowers for her again and some food because she was sick and met her near her house. Wasn't a great meeting.
Next day i tried calling her, she didn't answer ..received a text shortly after the missed call statin that.."About what you said, you planned everything, i feel under pressure, suffocated, let's take things slow as friends ok?" I said OK.
After this i went back to the same client location again, texted her to which she didn't repond. She read my texts but didn't respond which upset me so i texted her a few times (another mistake) at this point i was looking weak, depserate and needy. Asked her to meet me and she refused saying that i was too rude to her (off course i was).
From that point (i sent the last text) she has not responded, it's been 5 days. I think she is gone, but i'm so much into her (god knows why, because we hardly spent time together) keep thinking about her. I think it's over.
I need to understand the dating game, please advise..this is way too complicated than my work or anything else.
Disclaimer - I'm a newbie, please go easy on me because i made obvious mistakes.
So up until now i was only focused on my career which is all amazing with rapid growth, money etc. I dated a few girls casually, and my last relationship ended about a year ago (serious from girl's side but not from my end). Single since then.
My job requires frequent traveling, I met a group at my recent client locations and became friends with them instantly. A girl in this group (very attractive) seemed interested and charmed me while we went on a couple of outings with the group. Her friends told me she was totally different when i was around, and i saw all the "she's interested" signs. So I asked her out for coffee and she converted it to a dinner date. We met and had great time, I was super chivalrous (my nature) brought flowers, picked her up, paid for food, dropped her back home, basically treated her like a princess (my big mistake). I did NOT kiss her (my other mistake) just a hug and kiss on the cheek.
She texted me back shortly after the date asking if i had reached hotel, and then we exchange few flirty texts.
Now here is my ultimate mistake - I started picturing her as my perfect girlfriend, and how we would do long distance, stupid future planning etc. and not only this i discussed this with her over the phone after 2 days grrrr. From that point she flaked (i immediately realized my mistake but it was too late) She started avoiding meeting again, and i didn't have much time as i was traveling back soon after it. I literally forced her to meet me on the way to the airport though she said she was unwell. I brought flowers for her again and some food because she was sick and met her near her house. Wasn't a great meeting.
Next day i tried calling her, she didn't answer ..received a text shortly after the missed call statin that.."About what you said, you planned everything, i feel under pressure, suffocated, let's take things slow as friends ok?" I said OK.
After this i went back to the same client location again, texted her to which she didn't repond. She read my texts but didn't respond which upset me so i texted her a few times (another mistake) at this point i was looking weak, depserate and needy. Asked her to meet me and she refused saying that i was too rude to her (off course i was).
From that point (i sent the last text) she has not responded, it's been 5 days. I think she is gone, but i'm so much into her (god knows why, because we hardly spent time together) keep thinking about her. I think it's over.
I need to understand the dating game, please advise..this is way too complicated than my work or anything else.