I really need help...I am addicted to porn..please help me.

[jackhamma]

Guys I am hitting an all time low. I am very serious about this. I am addicted bad. I mean addicted real BAD to porn. I can't stop. Its consuming all my free time. I have went through so much porn that I am even getting into some really screwed up types of porn that someone should never be into.....

Honestly I am a good looking guy. I am in good shape. Any free minute that I get I am either watching porn, looking up porn to use later, or beating off. Its becoming SICK....recently I am even spending Saturday nights in the apartment beating off to girls online rather then going out...

I wasn't always like this...I am actually pretty successful when I go out. I pull girls...but the past month or two I just have been coming to a realization that my dream job (after 12 years) is not realistic...all my good friends have girlfriends, and I am the single guy...I guess I am lonely...and I have a lot of free time....what can I do?

Please help me..

 

[Piers Nivens]

Dude. This is far more dangerous than u think.


IMMEDIATELY detach yourself from the internet.

Get a gym membership. work out. Go biking. Hiking. Go run in parks.

hang out with family and friends.

DO NOT be alone with a computer or smartphone capable of playing porn.

Meditate, do religious things.

Read books. Draw something. Go sit by the lake.

feed birds, ducks. Skip rocks.

Build things.

THERE IS SO MUCH u can do to keep urself away from it.

 

[MountainSlide]

This is not an uncommon problem my friend so don't worry you aren't alone. Currently I suffer from PTSD and rarely ever get horny and when I look at porn I am like "god this is boring!" But when I was younger I had a serious porn addiction. I had a girlfriend that I lived with and I was always trying to find ways to get rid of her so I could jerk off to porn. I would send her on errands to the store, whatever I could! And she would come back and be like lets have sex and I would be like "I'm not in the mood right now" and she would know and get angry at me lol.

Anyway this will be destructive to your sex life because porn isn't real. Everything that you are seeing is all fake and you are addicted to a fantasy. There is only one solution to your problem and that is to just quit doing it. Not once a day... NO! Just not at all period. Whatever.. jerk off if you need to, just don't look at porn while you're doing it! Then you will want to have sex with real women. Because porn makes you expect your own sex to be like what you see and it never is and you come to be like **** porn is better than real sex!! Watch the movie Don Jon.. That movie is about you my friend. Good luck !

 

[Trump]

Guys I am hitting an all time low. I am very serious about this. I am addicted bad. I mean addicted real BAD to porn. I can't stop. Its consuming all my free time. I have went through so much porn that I am even getting into some really screwed up types of porn that someone should never be into.....

Honestly I am a good looking guy. I am in good shape. Any free minute that I get I am either watching porn, looking up porn to use later, or beating off. Its becoming SICK....recently I am even spending Saturday nights in the apartment beating off to girls online rather then going out...

I wasn't always like this...I am actually pretty successful when I go out. I pull girls...but the past month or two I just have been coming to a realization that my dream job (after 12 years) is not realistic...all my good friends have girlfriends, and I am the single guy...I guess I am lonely...and I have a lot of free time....what can I do?

Please help me..

Bro we've all been there, it's not as uncommon as you may think.

Wondering what the dream job is that after 12 years you suddenly realized it wasn't attainable.

You need some discipline. I would join something keep you busy. Ice hockey, dance, drawing, sport, cooking, piano, learn something to keep you focused and doing things. It's not realistic to unplug the computer but if you keep busy and pretend to have someone screaming at you to get things done (i.e. Drill sergeant) you wouldn't have so much time to think about things.

That's why I always do when I get lazy, pretend a fake drill sergeant is coming to scream at my ass in 5 min, wakes me up. There are not enough ideas out there, people like being told what to do!

 

[MountainSlide]

If People can quite smoking! You can quit looking at porn! :rockon:

 

[Don-Kong]

The cycle of addiction includes: fantasy, ritual, acting out and shame.

In the stages of change you are in is the contemplation stage. You will stop, perhaps relapse and continue until you unlearn the habit.

It's essentially self soothing, avoidance, or boredom or some other.

People with compulsions or OCD feel a similar type of shame because they want to stop but can't. Be compassionate with yourself. You'll get there

 

[3agle 3yes]

OP this might be the cause...

...but the past month or two I just have been coming to a realization that my dream job (after 12 years) is not realistic...

You've lost your focus and direction.

Don't ignore it, reassess your future and come up with a different goal.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Don't masturbate. Contrary to popular belief, it does make you weaker. You feel relaxed and stress free because of the hormone cortisol (a stress-releasing hormone) is released. And as all the broscientists know, cortisol=bad. It breaks down muscle which is why i tell you that you get weaker. For you to physically feel the effect of it just lets you know how much weaker you are gonna get. I mean dude, you don't go out there and start pumping heavy iron right after you're finished wanking one off. You feel sleepy and tired.

 

[foreverAFC]

Guys I am hitting an all time low. I am very serious about this. I am addicted bad. I mean addicted real BAD to porn. I can't stop. Its consuming all my free time. I have went through so much porn that I am even getting into some really screwed up types of porn that someone should never be into.....

Honestly I am a good looking guy. I am in good shape. Any free minute that I get I am either watching porn, looking up porn to use later, or beating off. Its becoming SICK....recently I am even spending Saturday nights in the apartment beating off to girls online rather then going out...

I wasn't always like this...I am actually pretty successful when I go out. I pull girls...but the past month or two I just have been coming to a realization that my dream job (after 12 years) is not realistic...all my good friends have girlfriends, and I am the single guy...I guess I am lonely...and I have a lot of free time....what can I do?

Please help me..

its ok bro, i like to sit home alone and jerk off while i dissociate from reality and dream of all the things ill never be as well, it is what it is. a lot of people are lonely and have shattered dreams, its fine to deal with it with tons of internet porn and substance abuse.

look at the flipside to the situation, you arent trapped in a horrible relationship with some out of shape ugly chick like im sure some of your friends are, you havent knocked anyone up, you arent out of shape yourself like many of your friends are becoming, you dont have a family to support so you can still change careers and try different things etc.....you are generally pretty free compared to most of your friends i bet and if jacking off too much is the biggest issue you have right now then consider yourself lucky my friend, there are people who dont even have a private room or computer to jack off to even if they wanted, there are people living in warzones and things like that right now. enjoy jacking off all you want, just make sure to keep working out and pumping iron so that your body doesnt atrophy from all the hours spent sitting behind the computer and you will get out of the house once in a while. dealing with reality is hard, you gotta do what you gotta do to get yourself through the day.

 

[foreverAFC]

I mean dude, you don't go out there and start pumping heavy iron right after you're finished wanking one off. You feel sleepy and tired.

actually i make sure to jack off every time right before i go lift weights, if i dont i will get so horny and distracted by the females around, but if i jack off real good before i go i can just concentrate on the work.