Sometimes I think I rely on sosuave.com WAY to much for help with my women situations. Actually, I KNOW I rely on it way to much. Over the past couple of weeks I have written a number of posts about a particular girl and have been really overanalyzing my situation with her. I PROMISE everyone on this board (and myself) this will be the last post about this girl.
A short background if you haven’t read any of my other posts: I’ve been seeing this girl over the span of a month and a half. We’ve gone on four dates. Each time we’ve hung out we have come close to having sex (but haven’t done it yet) and always kiss, hold each other, etc. She has told me we should make all my fantasies come true, makes numerous references to how much she likes sex...basically she has seemed to show high interest level. HOWEVER, she flaked on me once: We made plans to hang out and when I called to meet her on the night we were supposed to hang out, she said she had homework to finish. We didn’t talk for a few weeks--I never called-- then she called me out of the blue (saying I had been the one who hadn't called HER) and we hung out last weekend, and she again showed a high interest level–she spent the night at my place and we kissed for hours, holding each other, etc., but no sex. (Based on what others have said on this board about my other posts, I think the no sex was largely my fault for not being more aggressive, but that’s a whole different topic).
Anyway, AGAIN, tonight, this girl flaked on me. The thing is, I KNOW I MADE A FEW MISTAKES that could have led to her flaking out on me. First off, I called her last night and said we should hang out. She told me that she had nothing going on. The thing is, I had hung out with her three days earlier. I know that the general rule is to wait for a week to hang out again, but I had gone THREE WEEKS without seeing this girl prior to the last time we hung out, and we had such a good time the last time we hung out (and I hadn’t been as aggressive sexually as I should have been) that I thought it wouldn’t be horrible to hang out with her again so soon, especially because Thanksgiving is coming up and she is leaving for the rest of the week. I realize that, overall, this is AFC thinking, but it just came over me.
Secondly, instead of making set plans and a meeting time to hang out, I just told her last night that I would call her tonight and we would get together. Again, bad, I know.
When I talked with her tonight on the phone she was pretty faded. She said that she was going to get drunk with her girl-friend tonight (acting as if we had never even talked about hanging out or anything). I was kind of pissed and was ready to get off the phone and said I was going to go. Before I got off the phone, she said that she was going to be back in town from Thanksgiving this Saturday (I’m not exactly sure why she mentioned this, but it seemed like she was hinting at the fact we should hang out then).
So here’s the question: I KNOW I made the mistake of calling and trying to hang out to soon, etc., but this girl still flaked out on me. However, like I’ve talked about in numerous other posts, this girl has showed consistent high interest in me and she ALSO mentioned the whole “being back on Saturday” thing. I like this girl a lot, but DON’T AT ALL like her flakiness. I’m a pretty prideful person and don’t like being treated with disrespect (flakiness). I feel like I’m so close to sex with this girl.... In your guys opinion, should I drop this girl or give her one last shot and call her up this Saturday?
A short background if you haven’t read any of my other posts: I’ve been seeing this girl over the span of a month and a half. We’ve gone on four dates. Each time we’ve hung out we have come close to having sex (but haven’t done it yet) and always kiss, hold each other, etc. She has told me we should make all my fantasies come true, makes numerous references to how much she likes sex...basically she has seemed to show high interest level. HOWEVER, she flaked on me once: We made plans to hang out and when I called to meet her on the night we were supposed to hang out, she said she had homework to finish. We didn’t talk for a few weeks--I never called-- then she called me out of the blue (saying I had been the one who hadn't called HER) and we hung out last weekend, and she again showed a high interest level–she spent the night at my place and we kissed for hours, holding each other, etc., but no sex. (Based on what others have said on this board about my other posts, I think the no sex was largely my fault for not being more aggressive, but that’s a whole different topic).
Anyway, AGAIN, tonight, this girl flaked on me. The thing is, I KNOW I MADE A FEW MISTAKES that could have led to her flaking out on me. First off, I called her last night and said we should hang out. She told me that she had nothing going on. The thing is, I had hung out with her three days earlier. I know that the general rule is to wait for a week to hang out again, but I had gone THREE WEEKS without seeing this girl prior to the last time we hung out, and we had such a good time the last time we hung out (and I hadn’t been as aggressive sexually as I should have been) that I thought it wouldn’t be horrible to hang out with her again so soon, especially because Thanksgiving is coming up and she is leaving for the rest of the week. I realize that, overall, this is AFC thinking, but it just came over me.
Secondly, instead of making set plans and a meeting time to hang out, I just told her last night that I would call her tonight and we would get together. Again, bad, I know.
When I talked with her tonight on the phone she was pretty faded. She said that she was going to get drunk with her girl-friend tonight (acting as if we had never even talked about hanging out or anything). I was kind of pissed and was ready to get off the phone and said I was going to go. Before I got off the phone, she said that she was going to be back in town from Thanksgiving this Saturday (I’m not exactly sure why she mentioned this, but it seemed like she was hinting at the fact we should hang out then).
So here’s the question: I KNOW I made the mistake of calling and trying to hang out to soon, etc., but this girl still flaked out on me. However, like I’ve talked about in numerous other posts, this girl has showed consistent high interest in me and she ALSO mentioned the whole “being back on Saturday” thing. I like this girl a lot, but DON’T AT ALL like her flakiness. I’m a pretty prideful person and don’t like being treated with disrespect (flakiness). I feel like I’m so close to sex with this girl.... In your guys opinion, should I drop this girl or give her one last shot and call her up this Saturday?
