I notice alot of guys posting about ex's contacting them...

[Warrior74]

It's christmas time guys. holiday reflection + emotions + single + wanting presents,attention,affection, + plus not feeling like loser for being single while hanging with fam and friends = contacting you. Give it a month it will pass.

When I was young my friends who were players used to tell me, never date a girl seriously 2-3 months before christmas, valentines day or her birthday it cost to much and they change afterwards. I used to laugh at it, its pretty funny, but it does have a hint of truth in it.

Also look at the biology. What did women do in the winter for centuries? They settled down. They look for security. What's more secure than an ex boyfriend you know inside and out? What happens in spring time? Why do we use eggs and bunnies for easter? Because its a period of fertility and rebirth. That's when you really go to meet new woman, in the spring. I bet none of these ex's will be calling around then. The world will feel new and they will be looking for something new.

Remember she's not interested in you, she's interested in what she can get from you right now. Ask yourself, what can she get from me and why now?

 

[I'm in the Mood]

Damn, I never thought about it this way, especially from a biological viewpoint.

I love this. +1

It's christmas time guys. holiday reflection + emotions + single + wanting presents,attention,affection, + plus not feeling like loser for being single while hanging with fam and friends = contacting you. Give it a month it will pass.

When I was young my friends who were players used to tell me, never date a girl seriously or start talking to a girl 2-3 months before christmas, valentines day or her birthday it cost to much and they change afterwards.

Also look at the biology. What did women do in the winter for centuries? They settled down. They look for security. What's more secure than an ex boyfriend you know inside and out? What happens in spring time? Why do we use eggs and bunnies for easter? Because its a period of fertility and rebirth. That's when you really go to meet new woman, in the spring. I bet none of these ex's will be calling around then. The world will feel new and they will be looking for something new.

Remember she's not interested in you, she's interested in what she can get from you right now. Ask yourself, what can she get from me and why now?

 

[horaholic]

Who cares? its a situation to be take advantage of. Im single and lonely, and me and my ex just broke off our 'friendship' cuz she felt like all I wanted from her was sex, and I wasnt getting enough sex from her for my satisfaction. It was a civil, mutual decision. I think she will cave in, and call me wanting sex very soon. She was all I really had for xmas, and now theres nothing. if a different ex called me up, I would hit it for the holidays.

 

[tebow1120]

horaholic I agree with you man being single is lonely ass hell,after I jacked off I wanted too cry because its lonely ass hell.This whole dating thing is depressing because it feels like you never get anywhere.You meet a women and yall hit it off great,she give you her number,you decide to call her she doesn't pick up the phone.Like you do all the right things but never get anywhere.Guys take wha you can get.

 

[zekko]

horaholic I agree with you man being single is lonely ass hell,after I jacked off I wanted too cry because its lonely ass hell.This whole dating thing is depressing because it feels like you never get anywhere.

There are advantages to being single. But I find your comments interesting because there are a number of posters here who seem to think that being in a LTR is an AFC thing to do.

I cannot disagree more strongly, in fact I think it's a very natural way to go. It's great to have someone to rely on, someone your family can get to know, someone to trust, a partner, and not just someone to pump and dump. But if you're going to be in a LTR it has to be the right girl, someone who meets certain criteria that you are looking for. You can't just pick anyone out of a bar and turn her into a LTR.

As for those who really do prefer the pump and dump lifestyle, hey that's their preference and more power to you, I guess. Different strokes for different folks, you know. Some guys get tired of it after awhile, and some guys keep doing it even when they're older.

 

[AAAgent]

If your only problems currently only consist of loneliness then i guess the ex situation is better than nothing. Personally if my ex contacts me again which happens alot i wouldn't pick up. I have more important sh!t to take care of. I'm not dependent on sex or a woman. If i wanted sex i wouldn't need to get it from my ex either.

I wouldn't consider myself a man if i had to settle for sex with an ex. If i want something i will get it or die trying. My ex is my ex for a reason. I have other sh1t to worry about such as my health, finances, future, etc. I don't deserve pvssy unless i have my sh1t together.

I recently cut off contact from all my plates and girls i know because i simply have more important sh1t to worry about than taking care of or spending time with a person that isn't significant to my life.

If i had a girlfriend or child that would be different and i would factor them in but that's a different story.

These people don't understand no contact means NO FVCKING CONTACT!

They think ooh being friends is a good idea, i can fvck her or slowly break away, etc. All they're really doing is picking at a scab that is trying to heal. Sometimes these scabs are picked at so many times they become scars.

To all the guys on this forum missing their ex's, or somehow want to or are connected with them....man up and just move on and stop wasting your time and your posts about them.

It christmas time right now and i probably would be lonely normally but i have too much on my table. I don't play the radio but instead play my gym music to keep me pumped and motivated. It would suck listening to all those christmas songs on the radio.

 

[bigjohnson]

Remember she's not interested in you, she's interested in what she can get from you right now. Ask yourself, what can she get from me and why now?

Ask yourself what you can get from her instead.

 

[Exhumed]

He clearly didn't mean it that way...

 

[Warrior74]

Who cares? its a situation to be take advantage of. Im single and lonely, and me and my ex just broke off our 'friendship' cuz she felt like all I wanted from her was sex, and I wasnt getting enough sex from her for my satisfaction. It was a civil, mutual decision. I think she will cave in, and call me wanting sex very soon. She was all I really had for xmas, and now theres nothing. if a different ex called me up, I would hit it for the holidays.

Who cares? Well man, if they had your attitude they wouldn't be here posting about it would they?

 

[sodbuster]

it took me until 9pm to realilze I was alone on dec 24. Had too much to do before then

 

[Proselytiser]

You're point on biology doesn't apply down here but you are right and everything else does. Christmas is a relief when you can spend less and in Aus we have the best of both worlds as it is 'mating season' (hehe) at the same time