I NEXTed her...

[Boilermaker]

After I ended my years-long LTR/LDR I managed to hook up with a 19-year old very recently, and it was actually pretty good ... for about a week ...

She came over in our first date, we had sex, and the following 7 days; she kept coming over late at night (she works in a bakery) and we kept having sex.

Then, her lame friends somehow got into her head (or it was purely herself, I don't know) and she became very concerned about the fact that she had sex with me so early on. Well, this is a girl who had no problems of admitting to have slept with +20 men/women, and she's only 19 !...

Then started the mind games, she started coming over and not staying, not replying to my texts, gossiping with her friends about every little thing I tell her (whatever I said to her previous night, these other chicks (friends of her) were coming and telling to me...)

Well, she started using her sex/intimacy card so heavily that I really got fed up. and wanted to talk to her recently. She didn't reply to my call and text - and I fired off a text message that basically said `I don't want to see you anymore, and let's just be friends`..

Maybe I could have salvaged this, but her selfish attitude, the fact that she can offer nothing but sex to me, and also the fact that she is very immature got to me.

So I NEXTed. Back to square one.

What do you guys think? Did I overreact?

 

[Colossus]

No, but you didnt even need to send the LJBF text. She was ignoring your calls and texts, which means you got dissed. If a girl ignores my messages ONE time (without a legit reason and apology) she is done.

 

[Bluntmaster]

Let's be honest here. You fired off that text because you are butthurt and you were hoping it would trigger a response from her. Did you get a response?

The proper way to next is to just never contact her again.

 

[Boilermaker]

Let's be honest here. You fired off that text because you are butthurt and you were hoping it would trigger a response from her. Did you get a response?

The proper way to next is to just never contact her again.

no I wasn't hoping anything. Next is next.

That'd be pretty lame to try to continue after I wrote what I wrote to her.

No I didn't get a response.

How does it matter how you next if you are determined to next a girl? ... couldn't quite see that.

 

[Bluntmaster]

no I wasn't hoping anything. Next is next.

That'd be pretty lame to try to continue after I wrote what I wrote to her.

No I didn't get a response.

Next is not firing off any butthurt messages. Next is just never saying anything to the b!tch again. Next time you know.

 

[Boilermaker]

yes, I am not going to deny I was pissed.

..and I could have been much harsher in my last text you know, it wasn't really a butt hurt message.

 

[Bluntmaster]

yes, I am not going to deny I was pissed.

and she knows that you are pissed. They enjoy getting reactions out of us. My last BPD girl made me fire off all sorts of angry texts and it never did any good. I learned alot from that sorry excuse of a woman. The girl I am with now can get no sort of reaction out of me. I am a rock. If she ever p!sses me off, I will walk and never say a word. It's strange becoming an emotionless rock, but it's for the best.

 

[Boilermaker]

yes I acted out like a true idiot in the last phase. The best decision I took was to walk..

she definitely knows I am pissed. but she also knows I am never going back. it's all about "abundance" -- if I had two other plates I could focus on at the moment, I wouldn't be pissed in the first place.

 

[Bluntmaster]

yes I acted out like a true idiot in the last phase. The best decision I took was to walk..

she definitely knows I am pissed. but she also knows I am never going back. it's all about "abundance" -- if I had two other plates I could focus on at the moment, I wouldn't be pissed in the first place.

But you haven't walked anywhere. If that b!tch called you right now begging to come f/ck you she would be in your bed. I know because that's what my ex did and I took her back.

 

[Boilermaker]

But you haven't walked anywhere. If that b!tch called you right now begging to come f/ck you she would be in your bed. I know because that's what my ex did and I took her back.

well in fact she did reply now.

she is saying " she didn't have her phone all day and she never had a chance to reply " ...


and I still don't feel like it.

if she begged? ... I don't know that. Let's not ask that question and I will believe that I walked.

 

[f283000]

..and I could have been much harsher in my last text you know, it wasn't really a butt hurt message.

That would have only given her more power and satisfaction. Or are you really that naive to think that women are somehow offended/hurt by your harsh words after they been acting up? They do it TO GET THAT EXACT REACTION OUT OF YOU! THEY DO IT TO PISS YOU OFF!

Nothing hurts a woman more than NC and showing her that you are better off without her.

 

[jophil28]

No, but you didnt even need to send the LJBF text. She was ignoring your calls and texts, which means you got dissed. If a girl ignores my messages ONE time (without a legit reason and apology) she is done.

Yes, but this technique ^^ is for more advanced students of our art.
However the OP ultimately did what his self respect asked of him even though he took a couple too many days and texts to get there.
For that he deserves props.

 

[Boilermaker]

thanks Uncle Jophil.

it means a lot to me, especially now when I am just beginning ...

but I know that I am really better off without her, and her juvenile games.

so I am not going back !

 

[jophil28]

if she begged? ... I don't know that. Let's not ask that question and I will believe that I walked.

There are few occasions in life when your latent inner strength can illicit a feeling of true masculine power when it kicks in.
Turning down some hot, young, eager pvssy, and walking away from it is one of them.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Boilermaker,
Disapointing,Girls who work in a Bakery are generally well Bread....Seriously No contact is the only way.....At 19 most Girls are just Children.In a couple of Months when she gets tired of getting up early to go to the Bakehouse,and Motherhood seems appealing,she will pull the stunt of falling pregnant.

 

[Mr.Positive]

There are few occasions in life when your latent inner strength can illicit a feeling of true masculine power when it kicks in.
Turning down some hot, young, eager pvssy, and walking away from it is one of them.

Very true. Few men have this strength due to our media driven bs women pedestaling society.

Boilermaker, you are on the right track. Don't fall victim to these games, find another woman.

I always like the saying men don't get angry, hurt, or emotional...men just get disappointed.

 

[squirrels]

Don't fall for the head-games.

I've seen girls do that crap before when sex comes in very early in the relationship. If she starts playing that, "OMG it's too soon" drama, you have to just respond like, "OK, that's fine"...and pull it back a little bit.

The idea you want to project is, "It's fine if you're not interested in being intimate...I guess I'll have to turn elsewhere for affection".

She knows she's being neurotic and she wants to provoke a reaction...the best thing to do is LET HER be neurotic, let her stew in her own behavior and let her wonder if by being all dramatic about it, maybe SHE screwed it up.

This is what's meant by "being mysterious"...DON'T let her know what you think of her. Just become a little more scarce, as if you ARE getting the "LJBF" vibe from her and are RESPECTING it. Let her think that SHE is f'ing up with you and that you're out having fun and doing all those naughty things with ANOTHER great girl. That kind of uncertainty can prey on a woman's mind and override anything her friends are whispering in her ear. That is, IF she's really attracted to you.

When you say "LJBF", REALLY mean, "let's be friends". Hang out with her, but DON'T pursue the physical affection...hint at it, but pull it back "out of respect for her" or some nonsense. But start dropping hints that you're out with other ladies getting that physical affection from THEM.


All you've really done in this case by sending her the, "LJBF" message is eliminated doubts in her mind and vindicated what her friends have been saying...she cut back on the sex, and you got ticked off and cut her off.

That text may as well have read, "OK, you've got me figured out. I've got nothing...I resign."

You're way too zeroed in on this girl after what...a week??

In fact, being there to f**k this girl every night for a week was probably a MISTAKE. Every night, she knows exactly where you'll be...sitting home waiting anxiously for her to show up. You think just because you're getting up in her guts that she loses track of how predictable (i.e. BORING) you are??

She gets it in her head, "Hell, my p*ssy OWNS this guy". So she pulls it back a little and you get confused and start calling and texting, and then she's like...meh...you said it yourself, she's been on and off of 20 or so guys who have done the exact same thing. You're just a notch in her bedpost at this point.

And hey...here's the thing...there's NOTHING WRONG with being a notch in some girl's bedpost as long as you had fun. That's 7 days of sex with a hot teenage girl, which is more than most of us have had this past week, I guarantee you that!!

But you got hooked on that p*ssy way too early and when she pulled it back a little, you got a little bent out of shape over it. If you had had "other plates", you could've let it ride and given her time-off to think about it. But she knew she had you. And she knows if she came back around and waved that p*ssy in your face again right now, you'd f**k her again. Don't be surprised if she does next time she's mad at her current boyfriend/F-buddy and wants a revenge-f**k. Don't assume that because she's a young girl she's all innocent and dainty...like you said, you're like #20 she's done this with. She knows the game.

Maybe the best thing you COULD do was pull out of that situation...because you weren't ready for it. I've done that before...just ejected from seeing a girl. But I knew what I was REALLY doing...pretty much punting. She just "outplayed" me and I had made some bad moves, so to try to save face I had to cut her loose.

Don't get caught up in this "situation", man. It's not a big deal. It's a learning experience and you got laid in the process. Take it for what it's worth and get on with life.

 

[Boilermaker]

squirrels,

Man, now I clearly see this is exactly what's happened, it's amazing how you could go so deep on me by reading my two paragraphs of the entire week.


She came too early after my break-up and I totally got bent out of shape. Well, I can't say I didn't have fun but I feel somewhat dissapointed my game was so amateurish!

Thanks very much you guys, it's been VERY helpful to see you all comment on this.

 

[hithard]

Props boiler, most guys would have stayed and kept trying to tap young ass.

When dating/banging them that young it's always good to have a couple plates as backup (preferably one or two a little older). This can temper out the amount of ditzyness you endure from a 19yo. The other benefit is you don't really care if you see them or not. Dating multiples leads to less focus and attention being heaped on one girl. This in turn keeps you away from a lot of the head games.
Of course life doesn't always hand out extra plates for whatever reason. But even if you are just setting the groundwork with other women - it's enough to keep your focus in a less narrow band. It requires a bit of effort to actively seek potential plates, but becomes more enjoyable the more you do it.

 

[Falcon25]

I need you to read this very carefully. I have hooked up with many 19, 20, 21 yr olds.

One thing is very true and universal with all women. If you have sex with a woman EARLY in any type of relationship, she will walk away like it meant NOTHING to her. If you want to keep a girl, you have to mind fuvk her first.
But.....
If that's your goal.
18 yr old to 23 yr olds are CRAZY. They like you one day, like someone else the next.

Here is your mistake;

First, expecting anything more than a few weeks with a 19 yr old which you BUILT ZERO EMOTIONAL CONNECTION WITH.

Second, you saw her WAAAAAAAY too much. You can't see and have sex with a girl seven straight days and expect her not to get bored of you. See what happened? Instead of banging her for weeks, maybe months, you traded seven straight days for a fuvk buddy that could have lasted for months. You have to be unavailable, you have to treat her like crap, she is young, she wants what she can't have. You are old news. Just one more notch on her belt. You have to pretend, if not act, like you have TWENTY of her. You have to understand that she is young, and probably cannot be compatible with you in a relationship setting. You can't date this little girl. She is not a woman. All you can do is fuvk her till her eyes roll back, the way you do that is by establishing that she means nothing to you. TIME IS THE WAY TO A WOMAN'S HEART. NOT SEX. So next time, pull back a little, bang her but not for fuvking seven straight days. What's the matter with you? Don't you have a job? Studies? Or a family?

If a chick wanted to bang me for the third straight night, and she wasn't my wife, I would tell her that my covk hurts and that I need a couple days to rest from that mean ass puvsy of hers. I would also tell her that I have a family and I don't have time to fuvk her every night. I WOULD TELL HER SHE IS NOT MY GIRLFRIEND SO SHE DOESN"T DESERVE MY COVK EVERY NIGHT. Some guys will cringe at this, they will say "Dude, if she wants to fuvk, fuvk her, why you being a pusvy?" What they don't understand is that REJECTION keeps her wanting more NOT AVAILABILTY.

LEARN FROM THIS.