I NEVER NEVER tell a Girl That she is ATTRACTIVE. EVER.

[blayde]

Your whole life you're TAUGHT (usually by morons, afc's, your dad, and your grandmother) To TELL your date that she looks GREAT.

Something like this:
1. Wow. Your'e lookin hot tonight.
2. You look stunning.
3. I HAD to ask you out. You LOOKED so good!

Guys. You're losing POINTS quicker than a TAXICAB meter. It's even worse if you use references to LOOKS to GET dates.


Personally, I NEVER comment on a girl's looks UNTIL she basically DEMANDS that I do WAY into the relationship.
Here's WHY:
1. It instantly removes all mystery and challenge. Trust me.
2. You turn yourself into every other AFC puppy dog she dumps.
3. It establishes that you are shallow only interested in looks.
4. It places you as the CHASER instead of the CHASEE.
5. It gives her the upper hand that she DOESNT WANT.
6. It makes her realize that SHE's INTERVIEWING YOU, not the other way around.
7. It shows that youre a guy who is CONTROLLED by looks. Not by his WILL.

Guys, I've dated MANY beautiful women and I want you to try something. SHOW a girl you have interest in her but make HER WONDER WHY. Dont tell her why.

If she's good looking, she already knows it.

Women need challenge. NEVER tell her she's attractive until you're about to date exclusively. Then you'll get the points you wanted in the first place.

 

[MVPlaya]

I like this post, but I think it differs per person. You can make it clear to the girl that she is attractive while at the same time signalling with your body language that SHE is being interviewed, not Vice Versa. By the way, a nice compliment works miracles on the shy good girl types.

 

[Serialized3]

This doesnt work if the girl is cute/hot, but she has low self confidence.

 

[Industry]

It better to compliment something about her than her as a whole. Say something like

"Hey, I really like that skirt. You've got good style."

or take what is normally a negative attribute and make it positive

"You're so cute when you act all shy around me."

This works a whole lot better than "OH WOW OH DAMN IM IN LOVE YOU ARE A GODDESS AND I WILL WORSHIP YOUR HOT BODY ALL DAY AND EVERYDAY"

You will score bonus points here and guys make sure you really mean it. Girls can smell a fake a mile away.

 

[Thoroughbred]

If a chick really digs you then a compliment will not hurt, just my opinion.

 

[sux2bu]

The least you can say, the better. Especially when the girl you're seeing is a 9/10. Why be like every other guy that has chased her skirt up until she met you? -- It's just like saying "I love you" everytime you get off the phone. Totally unnecessary. It's supposed to be a nonverbal understanding. It's annoying; just say "bye" or, when she say's "I love you," respond with: "Ok." Always leave them guessing!

 

[NewMan]

I like to compliment a girl when I meet her for the first time.

It's worked like a charm for me.

I usually mention something like....

"Hey, I really like your eyebrows"
Or

"I really like the color of your toe nails"

I basically comment on something that she's spent time on, but that not very obvious.

You know chicks spend a long time getting their nails done, brows waxed etc. A comment about that, makes them feel good and makes you look like you take notice of her....

 

[Jimbo2k]

Originally posted by sux2bu
The least you can say, the better. Especially when the girl you're seeing is a 9/10. Why be like every other guy that has chased her skirt up until she met you? -- It's just like saying "I love you" everytime you get off the phone. Totally unnecessary. It's supposed to be a nonverbal understanding. It's annoying; just say "bye" or, when she say's "I love you," respond with: "Ok." Always leave them guessing!

Lol,
I couldnt imagine saying "OK" after a long-time gf has said that to me.

 

[becker]

I don't think it's good to make a blanket statement that you should never compliment a girl. That's overbroad.

The key is to make sure that you know HOW to compliment. You can't take some lame AFC pathetic line from a chick flick and attempt to incorporate it into your arsenal. The operative word being "pathetic". Most compliments come off as pathetic because it makes it seem like you're worshipping her.

You need to make sure that if you compliment, it's more of a passing thought, with a ring of indifference, but not too much, or else it seems insincere. It's an artform that has to be learned, like everything else.

I compliment women a lot, but I make it subtle and I make sure that it's sincere. Anyone, not just women, could smell a kissa$$, and if it sounds like you're just trying to get into her pants, forget it.

 

[King Rat]

Accidental compliments

A few weeks ago I was talking to this goth chick, just practicing being C+F and having fun. We were headed for the cafeteria for lunch and she said all she wanted was a cookie, and I started busting on her about being too skinny and bulemic, and she looked at me with a stunned/joyous look and said,"did you just call me THIN?" Turns out her friends keep making fun of her, calling her FAT. This chik is fine, god her "friends" must be skeletons .

 

[Ratisson]

Yes buddy! ur right on.

Telling a girl how pretty she is is anti-challenge. Ever since she was 12 years old she has heard from every horny guys how beautiful she is, and when u tell her she is pretty, she puts u in the pile of all the other desperate guys. And therefore u arent different.

I agree. She know u like her becausew ur taking her out, but u want her to wonder hoe MUCH u like her.

I think 1 compliment a date is okay. i would say "u look nice" and at the end of the date "thank u for the fun time". This is what doc love sayd and hes always right.

BUt i think that after the 60 days of courting her that u have to start telling her she's beautiful, because compliments raise interest level only after SHE is in love with U. At this time u have to make her feel special and apreciated.


Awesome post
-ratisson

 

[AMF]

Good post.

You guys are right, it does depend on the girl.

We can all spot b!tches who already have a high enough opinion of themselves. Complimentin these girls is supplicating, confirming what they already know. By not complimenting hot chicks, they'll wonder WHY, whats special about you, and they'll naturally want to find out.

It's harder spotting girls with slightly lower confidence. Some really hot girls often fall into this category, because they dont believe they are hot, or have self esteem issues. If you really want one of these girls (often, you wont! coz confidence is attractive, as we all know) then compliments can make them fall in love with you. You gotta make the call as to which the target is.

But, in general the kinda chicks we'll be angling for, will have ENOUGH confidence already. Complimentin these chicks will only send you backwards.

 

[Salacious D]

Exception to the Rule

There's a girl I know that I was into at the end of May this year, I got her phone number but I lost interest. She wasn't too into the idea to begin with.

Fast forward to around now. We've been chatting online (I know, breaking a rule) on and off every few days, exchanging emails--ones that she initiates--anyway, because I'm not really interested in her, I told her I thought she was gorgeous, sexy, something along those lines. I didn't really care because she's just a friend, even if she is ultra~mega hot. She then told me that only one other guy had told her the same thing, my best friend, apparently (who has a g/f), and according to her, he tells that to everyone. This isn't true, but, yeah, anyway, while I'm not into her, and I'm fairly certain she isn't into me, there is definitely a higher IL in me on her part for doing this. We hardly, if ever, see each other at school, but just last night I spent an hour chatting with her because she decided to tell me a story about how she and her group of friends (all of them also ultra~mega hot) had gotten together one night, become tipsy, taken their shirts off, and examined each other's breasts.

Now, your first reaction would be, she's messing around with me. It's very possible that the story was just a lie. But she still spent an hour telling me about something extraordinarily sexual, and I, of course, was making snide, horny little comments all the time, and she mentioned that she "liked it." But I guess details aren't that important.

Overall, I'd agree with this rule. Don't tell the girl that she's gorgeous. It's much better to be more subtle, to notice little things here and there, earrings, hand jewelry, wacky shirts, that sort of thing. Up until now I hardly ever spoke to this girl, even when I got her number I hardly knew her, I just dropped into her class one day (it was close to the end of school so everything was laid back), got her number, and left. I never called her. But because I made her feel good about herself, because I flattered her, I may be giving her a ring shortly.

One more thing: you know Benjamin Franklin? Fat, old founding father? The guy was supposedly a master at flattery, like, at parties he would go home with more than one chick all the goddamn time. Just food for thought...

 

[Derek Flint]

I usually only compliment them in a C&F type of way.

Saw a "10" on Halloween and told her: "Damn, you look almost as good as I do"

 

[Zephyrus]

If you compliment a girl and you are sincere it won't hurt. If you just look for something to compliment her on she'll know.

These chics pick up on that stuff... if her hair looks great, You can tell her, your hair looks great. She isn't going to start thinking "All the mystery is gone!". That's nonsense!

 

[princelydeeds]

I agree it is best to keep the compliments to a minimum. If Im with someone new, I like to compliment women in an over bearing, cheesy "I bet you say that to all the women kind of way. " It has to come off as obvious, I say it with a big smile on my face.

The only other time I compliment is when Im kissing them or touching them intimately. After kissing and stroking, I look them straight in the eye and say "TAKE OFF YOUR CLOTHES!" I say this without cracking a smile. If I know shes thinking about it but nervous, I tell her how gorgeous she is and that it would make me happy just to look at her delicious body.

 

[Lionheart]

I try to find non-standard things to compliment a girl about like her clothing (not too much and make it something on her that's striking but apparant, you don't want her to think you are an gay fashion expert) or jewellery.

This way -

You stand out.
Get credit for noticing.
Give her a compliment that she will appreciate.

I also don't tell a girl she is attractive, it comes over as shallow and desperate, believe me - she already knows you want to give her one.

 

[DYDevotee]

I told my girlfriend once, only once, that she was beautiful, that's more than enough, though, she may not have heard me, what with all the noisy sex we were having, ha, I am excellent.

 

[ChasinReveries]

hmm, i told a girl she was beautiful one night and like RIGHT when i said that she said "awwwwww, really??" and i said "of course..." she hugged me and twenty minutes later we were making out in the middle of a party...


so it DOES work....u just gotta find the right typa girl...

 

[Bonhomme]

Sometimes a gal needs a boost

If she's genuinely attracted to you, a little compliment here or there won't hurt, as long as you don't overdo it.

This isn't a "one size fits all" thing. Everybody reacts to things in their own way, which varies from day to day. As anyone can see from the examples above.

That said, usually it's best to compliment a gal for something people tend to neglect, as Lionheart suggested.