i neeeeed help

[hb]

i dont know where to begin so im just going to begin. Life is horrible guys. i use to be the sh*T back in jhs and now in my second year of high school i still feel like im no body. i was once the leader of my group and now i feel like i dont even have anymore friends. People dont really look for me too much. Ive been playing basketball forever, so much that i dont know how to do anything else. I wanna chill with my friends and have real boys but the problem is i really dont know how to interact with people too much, dont get me wrong, im known to an extent around the school but im not where i believe i should be. A big problem with me is that i do not like to put forth effort. i want people to make attempts towards me. The kids that fit the same group as me (the basketball players) are pretty much close to eachother and they know me but i dont know how to get closer to them. Another thing is i always find myself comparing myself to me older family members, for example i'll ask myself "am i ballin like my cousin was at the age of 16?" and ofcourse the answer is no.


what im trying to say guys is, how can i be more of a people person. what can i do to stop being bitter and start actually being cool with people................. well something like that

 

[flava]

ill be the first to tell u that youve caught the worldwide epidemic....AFC!!! you feel as if you have to prove yourself to people, that you have nothing to offer the world, because your so focused on trying to fit in that your missing the big picture. what im a saying is your destroying yourself from the inside out. dont expect to gain the respect of others when you truly dont even repesct yourself. your the one that put yourself in this state so your the one thats gonna have to get you out. you say all u ever do is play basketball that you dont know how to do anything else. well whos fault is that? u say you dont like to put forth the effort. whos fault is that? u even go on to compare yourself to other family members. whos fault is that? ALL YOURS!!! stop bitcing and put in some work. do u think bill gates just sat around and out of nowhere a building title "microsoft" fell on top of him? hell no siree. he got his snow white ass up and worked like a slave to get where hes at. likewise you gotta do the same. go find other things to do besides basketball, your not in the NBA so why invest so much time into it? that precious time could be used for self improvement. getting friends goes hand in hand with getting women. study these articles and develop your true personality. ony then will u truly understand yourself. then u gotta get the fuk up dawg and put in the damn effort. WTF are u even on this site if your not willing to take risks. surely you didnt think women are gonna just magically come up to u a just say "lets fuk". likewise with your peers they see nothing interesting about you so therefore why should the waste their time in u? so ur then one thats gonna have to show them just exactly why u are so amazing. go strike convo with them. youll get shot down a few time but hey, how are u gonna grow? lastly dont compare yourself to others. by doing that your going to be making friends for all the wrong reasons, and after awhile IT WILL backfire on you. so i hope you see the light now and decided to change. Im out

 

[UnexpectedTeen]

Dude!........
you need sometime to do some very serious self-reflection.
To begin with, you need to find yourself again.

Life is horrible guys

why? why is life horrible? because you feel it is that way? why should life be horrible?

i use to be the sh*T back in jhs and now in my second year of high school i still feel like im no body.

why? why were you used to be **** in school? because you made yourself so? why are you a nobody? is it because YOU FEEL that you are nobody?

i was once the leader of my group and now i feel like i dont even have anymore friends.

why? why were you then the leader of your group? why not now? why do you feel that you do have any friends? because you dont want to keep them as friends? because you dont want to make an effort to continue the friendship? because you dont want to have friends? because you dont want to make new friends?

Ive been playing basketball forever, so much that i dont know how to do anything else.

why? why would you want to play basketball FOREVER? why dont you know to do anything else? why dont the famous basketball players' have no friends?

i really dont know how to interact with people too much,]

why?why dont you know how to interact with people? why would you think that interact with people too much is bad? why?

but im not where i believe i should be.

why? why do you not believe you are where you should be? where should you be? why do you believe that you are not where you believe you believe you would be?

A big problem with me is that i do not like to put forth effort.

why? why is it a big problem? why dont you like to put forth any effort?

i want people to make attempts towards me

why? why would you want people to make attempts towards you? why dont you want to make attempts towards other people?

The kids that fit the same group as me (the basketball players) are pretty much close to eachother and they know me but i dont know how to get closer to them.

why?why arent they close to you as they were to the others? why dnot you know how to get close to them? why?

. Another thing is i always find myself comparing myself to me older family members,

why? why would you want to compare yourself to your older family members? why? why?

"am i ballin like my cousin was at the age of 16?" and ofcourse the answer is no.

why? why would you be like your cousin when he was 16? why would you want to be like him? why would you be like any one else? why would you not be yourself? why? why?

what can i do to stop being bitter and start actually being cool with people

why? why would you be bitter to other people? why do you want to know how to be cool around people?

Ask yourself these questions. if you can answer these questions, you have taken your first step for your self transformation.

 

[Ded_Skin_Mask13]

I found that "NOT GIVING A FILTHY CHIT!" has made me popular.

don't worry about them other ****s, just think of them being inferior to you(but don't overdo it). You are better than everyone else(except me he he). they can all burn in hell and you won't give a ****. It gives you a big power trip if you get in the right mindset, and it results in more confidence and stuff like that. But you can't be a fake about it or it won't work and it will make you look like a stuck up kunt

 

[threestarproject]

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Alright, you do need some help.... As for being the leader of your Group, all you have to do is step back up. This goes hand in hand with what Ded said(heh) about the correct mindset. For getting your friends back, I suggest you be the leader. As in you should organize tight **** to do. Gotta a house? Invite your soon to be crew over for a raucious night of pizza, videogames,music, good times/whatever. If you can drive, hit up a party, and let yourself be seen. Always be the one that has good fun ideas, and be willing to share them. To help you interact with people, I suggest you read the fscking DJ Bible, and HSDJB, especially the part about conversational skills. They are pretty generic and if your smart, you can figure out how to use them on everyone. A Good rule of thumb is to always talk about the other person. You might not know this, but the subject that people are most interested in are themselves. As for the basketball team, schedule a fun thursday night, or saturday morning to shoot some hoops and just chill.
Sigh, in other words, Stay POSITIVE, read the DJ BIBLE and HSDJB, and get off your lazy ass and put forth some fscking effort.

-threestarproject