I need your opinion.

[Fitch]

I know this girl for quite some time. However, I really got to know her quite recently; half a year -- up to date.

It seems to me that she is sending mixed signals...or that is just her personality; she is -- i think -- very flirtatious. Some times it seems she treats all of her friends the same way -- I included. But today in class... I felt something -- I can't describe it. She seems to like me. She frequently compliments my cloths and she always leans to me when talking. She seems very comfortable around me.

Well, my point is basically...what do I do? Should I ask her out?

I was thinking of a indirect approach -- ask her to hang out, not date, and see what develops from there. I mean who knows what could happen...right

Note::: I asked her out in 7th grade. She said "yes, as friends" -- I didn't even know her WELL at the time. I just nodded... and walked off; I was young and stupid

Anway, I can assure you see remembers...

In sum: She seems to like me. But at times, its nothing special... Oh and one more thing...she always hangs out with me in class...groupwork, etc.

What do you think?

 

[TonyTheTigerOI]

3:1 odds

you are in the friends zone - she uses you for social proof and assurance in class:she likes you

Sunshine girls are SHY around guys they like.

How do you bag a sunshine girl? By beating her at her own game. She will play interested... keep amping it physically while denying it verbally. Neg hit while kinoing. GO OUT WITH HER. Make sure its a place u can ISOLATE. Eyecontact, sexy voice... casual/mocking topics. When interest is at its peak - kiss her.

As long as she WILL meet you somewhere that allows you to ISOLATE and you play it correctly, it will work.

 

[Fitch]

She isn't shy at all. I am the shy one. But I am gradually overcoming it. I am not scared to speak up; I just turn red, nonetheless. I'm getting there! Today I didn't turn red... lol.

Yeah, anyway, I don't understand what you mean Tony.

"3:1 odds

you are in the friends zone - she uses you for social proof and assurance in class:she likes you"

Should I go for it... or she is too attacted to me as friends..?

 

[Fitch]

She seemed to show some interest in me today. She touched me and made close eye contact and talked me with a small gap between our faces. I was so nervous and awkward around her today! haha i was such a dork.

She seemed to be waiting for me after class... i blew her off -- by accident.

 

[TonyTheTigerOI]

The odds have been reset... its now 1:1 [she likes you:shes sunshining]

Basically, there are two reasons for her behavior - she has a huge crush on you and thinks you are a total cutie pie

OR

She flirts with EVERYONE like this and thinks you are friends.

Again, I am saying you have 1:1 odds.

Get her #, meet her somewhere, enjoy yourself

 

[Fitch]

I already have her number. I'll invite her tomorrow to hang out with me. We will see how it goes. I will keep you, Tony, and everyone else reading this thread updated.

Thanks -- but my gut instict says it will not work out. But it should still be fun to hang out... and hey, you never know...

 

[Fitch]

I am in a very simlar situation to this thread "i dont know what's going on."

I still have my doubts... wether I should make a move... or not. The best way is to hang out with her.. isolate her and see how she acts.

 

[brad67]

I am also in a similar situation with a girl.. we have hung out alone at her house, and I didnt hook up with her at all, and when she hooked up with someone else I got pissed, even though we were never anything but friends.. its almost like we got so close it was like she was my girlfriend but we never hooked up.. its bad. I regret not just being honest about my feelings and asking her if she feels the same way.. I say just be honest with her and ask her how she feels

 

[Fitch]

I would love to do that. But I fear it may jeopordize our friendship. Recently, I have helped her with some issues with her best friends girlfriend. I am there for her... and she knows it. I am certain that she loves me... as a friend -- no doubt about that. But I have a weird feeling that it is as far as it gets until that moment -- it will hit her on day. Most likely after we hang out, she may get attached to me. I guess the only option is to hang out and see what happens...

I'll speak to her tomorrow -- i guess. Even though we are pretty close. I feel so... nervous. All the "perfect" girls end up being my friends or not working out at all.

 

[TonyTheTigerOI]

They cant all be "perfect" - theres only one on earth and... NEWSFLASH... I got dibbs ;-)

Fitch, relax, and seduce the girl.

 

[Fitch]

I know no one is perfect. That is why I put it in " " But to me, she is pretty close. She is a cool person.

I'll give it a shot -- hang out with her... I'll see how it goes.

Thanks anthony.

 

[Fitch]

I have come to the conclusion that she sees me as a friend -- and only a friend. Purhaps over time her opinion will change... but thats how it is. :-/

I have some hints -- saw how she responded, etc. Trust me, I have good judgement -- in most cases.