Just Another Guy....
Don Juan
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This girl is a senior in high school, I'm a sophomore in college... (I know... laugh all you want)
So, I work with this chick. First, the chick has a lot of stuff going on in her life... her parents are absolutely insane and they pretty much oversee everything she does. Secondly, she's dedicated to soccer. That's like the one thing they let her do, and she's really amazing at it. She has practice or a game everyday and she's always working out trying to stay in game shape. She's got a full ride scholarships on the table right now for soccer. And, she's got a lot of personal problems (a little bit of that later to come). Anyway.. she broke up with her ex in the beginning of July and that's when we started talking to each other. We've known each other for about 2 years.. and we did go to high school together.. but we were in different groups or whatever and never talked.
So one day we started casually talking and we both mentioned we were runners.. so we ran together 3 times. After each time we went running we'd just kinda walk around near my house and talk, we got to know each other a little bit and I decided i wouldn't be wasting my time asking her on a date... so one day at work I said "You know, it's a shame we only see each other here or while running, we should really go out on a date sometime." and she agreed. So... we set up a time and a place, and we went out. We had a really good time.. we just went downtown and walked around, grabbed some food and some ice cream, went into a few stores and looked around. We spent almost 5 hours walking around and eating that night. We were holding hands pretty quick, she was all over me saying stuff like "you smell really good" and "you look nice tonight" I take her back to her place and we watch a movie together.. but her mom was home so nothing happened...
Anyway, I called her a few days later and we set up another date and went out and had another really, really good time. We picked up right where we left off and we had a great time. The end of the night rolls around and we're in my car holding hands and she just says "you make me really nervous, you know that?" and I said she was not the only person who was nervous and that started a 15 minute makeout in the backseat of my car. So, I thought things were going really well....
Then a few days later I had a family crisis in which an older cousin of mine committed suicide. I took it pretty hard, as did the rest of my family. It brought back a lot of memories from my childhood when I lost my bestfriend to a house fire.. and I've been pretty depressed about it even lately. Anyway, I've been having a lot of problems sleeping and stuff, but that's another story.
Me and this girl worked together (we work at a grocery store) one night after it happened.. and I had to ask my boss in front of everyone at the end of the night if I could have a friday off so I could attend the funeral.. and he agreed, but then everyone was curious so I ended up having to tell the whole story about what happened and this kid I work with was a total idiot about everything and I snapped on the kid. I had to go outside and just sit in my car for a while. A few minutes afterwords she came outside and we just walked around to the back of the store and started talking. idk.. I was really upset and couldn't really talk too much.
But, she started opening up and talking about some of the personal problems in her life. She mentioned one time her grandfather tried to kill himself and he wrote her a note which she read and kept. She's crying her eyes out telling me about the whole thing.. how her grandfather said she's the only reason he didn't try killing himself earlier and all this. She said "I've had a lot of emotional problems dealing with it since." and idk.. I felt like she was qualifying herself; telling me that I wasn't the only one with serious problems going on in my life. She just wrapped her arms around me and gave me a hug and told me everything would be alright, everything would be okay. Life would get better.. all that. It was a really depressing conversation... but at the same time I realized that this girl really had by back and really wanted to be there for me.
Later that night I got home and she sent me a text at about 2am that said "Anytime you need me, I'm here. That's a promise I'll always keep" and it was just another thing for me to think and say man, this girl really does have by back. So.....
I asked her to my homecoming football game two weeks in advance. She requested the day off at the grocery store (she works two jobs) and told me she didn't have a soccer game that day and that she'd try her best to be able to go with me. So, about 5 days before the game I give her a call and get her voicemail.. so I just sent her a text letting her know to call me back so we could set up the details. She didn't reply or call back. So, the friday night before the game I call her again... and the same thing happens. No answer... no reply to the text... so I gave up on it. I sent her a text that morning before the game saying "obviously you don't wanna go.." blah blah....Then, I ended up scoring tickets to the Michigan/Wisconsin game so I didn't really mind too much... lol.
Anyway, about 2pm rolls around (the homecoming game for my school was gonna start at 12pm) and she sends me a text "hey. i'm so sorry. but i have to work at three... =\ ive tried to get ahold of you all week! its been really upsetting. but yeah. i cant find anyone to cover for me" So, obviously I was pretty pissed about being stood up.. then for her to send me a text saying she's gotta work at the restraunt she works at.. was just upsetting. So, it's been a week and she hasn't tried calling or texting me or anything.. and I never replied to that text. I pretty much just said screw it.. I mean, she made no attempt to get ahold of me or let me know what was going on in advance, so obviously she didn't really care too much about what we had. But, this whole week I've gone I can only remember what happened that one night at work with her telling me about her grandpa and stuff.. it's just like I keep holding onto that moment when I need to just get over it... Anyway, what should I do? I was thinking about asking her to go running with me or something. I really just want some closure on the subject. I'm fine with her not being into me like I am into her, but I want her to tell me that. I want her to know she could have had me no matter what happens. I just want to know what's going on, that's all.
What do you guys think I should do?
So, I work with this chick. First, the chick has a lot of stuff going on in her life... her parents are absolutely insane and they pretty much oversee everything she does. Secondly, she's dedicated to soccer. That's like the one thing they let her do, and she's really amazing at it. She has practice or a game everyday and she's always working out trying to stay in game shape. She's got a full ride scholarships on the table right now for soccer. And, she's got a lot of personal problems (a little bit of that later to come). Anyway.. she broke up with her ex in the beginning of July and that's when we started talking to each other. We've known each other for about 2 years.. and we did go to high school together.. but we were in different groups or whatever and never talked.
So one day we started casually talking and we both mentioned we were runners.. so we ran together 3 times. After each time we went running we'd just kinda walk around near my house and talk, we got to know each other a little bit and I decided i wouldn't be wasting my time asking her on a date... so one day at work I said "You know, it's a shame we only see each other here or while running, we should really go out on a date sometime." and she agreed. So... we set up a time and a place, and we went out. We had a really good time.. we just went downtown and walked around, grabbed some food and some ice cream, went into a few stores and looked around. We spent almost 5 hours walking around and eating that night. We were holding hands pretty quick, she was all over me saying stuff like "you smell really good" and "you look nice tonight" I take her back to her place and we watch a movie together.. but her mom was home so nothing happened...
Anyway, I called her a few days later and we set up another date and went out and had another really, really good time. We picked up right where we left off and we had a great time. The end of the night rolls around and we're in my car holding hands and she just says "you make me really nervous, you know that?" and I said she was not the only person who was nervous and that started a 15 minute makeout in the backseat of my car. So, I thought things were going really well....
Then a few days later I had a family crisis in which an older cousin of mine committed suicide. I took it pretty hard, as did the rest of my family. It brought back a lot of memories from my childhood when I lost my bestfriend to a house fire.. and I've been pretty depressed about it even lately. Anyway, I've been having a lot of problems sleeping and stuff, but that's another story.
Me and this girl worked together (we work at a grocery store) one night after it happened.. and I had to ask my boss in front of everyone at the end of the night if I could have a friday off so I could attend the funeral.. and he agreed, but then everyone was curious so I ended up having to tell the whole story about what happened and this kid I work with was a total idiot about everything and I snapped on the kid. I had to go outside and just sit in my car for a while. A few minutes afterwords she came outside and we just walked around to the back of the store and started talking. idk.. I was really upset and couldn't really talk too much.
But, she started opening up and talking about some of the personal problems in her life. She mentioned one time her grandfather tried to kill himself and he wrote her a note which she read and kept. She's crying her eyes out telling me about the whole thing.. how her grandfather said she's the only reason he didn't try killing himself earlier and all this. She said "I've had a lot of emotional problems dealing with it since." and idk.. I felt like she was qualifying herself; telling me that I wasn't the only one with serious problems going on in my life. She just wrapped her arms around me and gave me a hug and told me everything would be alright, everything would be okay. Life would get better.. all that. It was a really depressing conversation... but at the same time I realized that this girl really had by back and really wanted to be there for me.
Later that night I got home and she sent me a text at about 2am that said "Anytime you need me, I'm here. That's a promise I'll always keep" and it was just another thing for me to think and say man, this girl really does have by back. So.....
I asked her to my homecoming football game two weeks in advance. She requested the day off at the grocery store (she works two jobs) and told me she didn't have a soccer game that day and that she'd try her best to be able to go with me. So, about 5 days before the game I give her a call and get her voicemail.. so I just sent her a text letting her know to call me back so we could set up the details. She didn't reply or call back. So, the friday night before the game I call her again... and the same thing happens. No answer... no reply to the text... so I gave up on it. I sent her a text that morning before the game saying "obviously you don't wanna go.." blah blah....Then, I ended up scoring tickets to the Michigan/Wisconsin game so I didn't really mind too much... lol.
Anyway, about 2pm rolls around (the homecoming game for my school was gonna start at 12pm) and she sends me a text "hey. i'm so sorry. but i have to work at three... =\ ive tried to get ahold of you all week! its been really upsetting. but yeah. i cant find anyone to cover for me" So, obviously I was pretty pissed about being stood up.. then for her to send me a text saying she's gotta work at the restraunt she works at.. was just upsetting. So, it's been a week and she hasn't tried calling or texting me or anything.. and I never replied to that text. I pretty much just said screw it.. I mean, she made no attempt to get ahold of me or let me know what was going on in advance, so obviously she didn't really care too much about what we had. But, this whole week I've gone I can only remember what happened that one night at work with her telling me about her grandpa and stuff.. it's just like I keep holding onto that moment when I need to just get over it... Anyway, what should I do? I was thinking about asking her to go running with me or something. I really just want some closure on the subject. I'm fine with her not being into me like I am into her, but I want her to tell me that. I want her to know she could have had me no matter what happens. I just want to know what's going on, that's all.
What do you guys think I should do?
