I need some help (newbie)

[yesiamhim]

I want to start using the ****y and funny approach but how do you make it not seem like a **** move? some of them just seem mean, also whats the difference between that and push-pull?

if possible could you help with a scenario where you meet someone for the first time

First time poster go easy on me

 

[Iceberg]

****y and funny(C&F) is a gimmick. Well, in the way you're describing it.

You can mix it into a NORMAL conversation, and then it works. But you can't build a whole conversation around C&F.

For instance, if you're at a bar talking to a random girl...You're having a good talk about the neighborhood/work/beers/whatever, and then you say, "I saw the way you were staring at me, so I figured I'd come over and say hi." That's not mean. It's funny. And it's ****y.

Actually it's funny that you describe C&F as mean. I don't see it that way at all. It's just making funny jokes about the girl buying you drinks or saying how you and her are the best looking people in the bar.

Look at it this way, C&F is the seasoning to a good conversation. It cannot, however, be the whole meal.

 

[Scars]

I want to start using the ****y and funny approach but how do you make it not seem like a **** move? some of them just seem mean, also whats the difference between that and push-pull?

if possible could you help with a scenario where you meet someone for the first time

First time poster go easy on me

****y + Funny is just that. Being ****y with a tad bit of sarcastic humor to lighten the blow. The goal here is to appear confident but not be TOO much into yourself. Regardless, it will seem like a "**** move" unless you present it naturally. Even women have read pick-up books, guides, and thanks to Mystery it has even been televised nationally. The secrets out. Just be yourself, but be the CONFIDENT you.

Push-pull is like playing with a woman's heart strings. You say or do something slightly jerkish and then immediately be sweet to her right afterwards.

Here's a recent example of one I just did the other day. Mind you, I didn't premeditate it at all, it just came naturally. But right after it happened I knew exactly what I did.

*Me and girlfriend are watching TV..*

*Part in movie where lead actress must make a decision*

Girlfriend: Wow, blah blah, she can't make up her mind blah blah..

Scars: Typical woman. Of course she can't make up her mind.

*Get glare from GF*

*Immediately hug her, kiss her, and pull her close and wrap her up and finish the rest of the movie that way*

What did I do here? Well I made a slightly misogynistic joke that only I thought was funny. But hey, most jokes are usually a sick spin-off of some sort of truth. I acted like a jerk for a moment, then I acted sweet. That's an example of a push-pull. Watch guys who are successful with women and you will see this type of stuff all the time.

Hope I cleared things up for you, anymore questions just ask!

-Scars

 

[BeDJ]

Girlfriend: Wow, blah blah, she can't make up her mind blah blah..

And your gut was right about me (grin)

 

[Scars]

Haha. Ain't that the truth.

Not a damn thing that will shock me these days.. well, almost anything. Enjoy the ride while it lasts. That's all I gotta say.

-Scars

 

[Kbomb]

****y and funny is a name put on something people do everyday. Its a natural part of social discourse and banter. It will come as you grow in confidence and skill without you worrying about it.

 

[thevilittletroll]

i love using push pull. here's how i do it. when you are being ****y funny, as soon as she starts laughing give her a big hug and say omg i love you. then physically push her off of you and say thats all you get, get off me. always push away your kino escalations. works like a charm!

 

[GotED?]

I think without some sort or form of physical attractiveness, no matter how ****y or funny you are, it ain't gonna do nothing for the girls.

So take a look in the mirror first, see what you can improve on your appearance (looks, hair, skin, clothing/outfit, cologne, etc). Women are as visual as men unfortunately - without getting past the b*t*h shield which is your physical appearance/attractiveness, no amount of ****iness or funny is going to do it. In fact, you will come across as very incongruent and even creepy if you don't fit the mold of someone by appearance who is suppose to be ****y and funny.

Good luck.

With respect,

Exodus

 

[omega05]

I do that bring them closer to me then push them away like "that's all you get from me" thing.

Then I do some funny jerk thing like a couple weeks ago took a girl to a bar and split a plate of nachos with her and while she has a chip in her hand trying to scoop up some cheese/chicken, use another chip to scrape it off her chip. If she laughs and calls you a jerk, you're doing it right