OK here is my story. Im 19 and ive been dating this girl for almost a year and a half. She is 16. The biggest problem is her jealousy. She gets jealous over everything. She even got mad at me one time for watching anime (japanese cartoons) because of the women's clothes were too skimpy on it. And she gets mad whenever I watch women's pro wrestling (no nudity, wwe stuff) but it's ok for her to watch the guys. She claims the women are different but they dont reveal anymore and sometimes less than the guys do. She even wants me to quit using the internet becuase of women trying to talk to me online. One time one of my mom's friends gave her a shirt to give to me and she raised hell over it because another woman gave me a shirt but I was working with an independent wrestling show and one of the wrestlers gave her his shirt and she was ok with it. I really suspect she likes someone else at her highschool because she dresses 100% different than she used to. We fight almost everyday over something. It seems like no matter how good I am to her and no matter what I do for her she never want to do anything nice for me. All she ever cares about is getting high and piggin out on food, watching tv, playing with her dogs, and fooling around. Everyday she always has to make some kind of comment about me and other women. Stuff like "you aren't gonna do anything bad are you" "do you like her better than me" and alot of talk about me leaving her. Everytime we go to the wrestling were i work she gets mad about something. Whenever I work as a security guard she gets mad because I dont talk to her enough. Keep in mind that this is part of my paying to get to wrestle myself which is a lifelong dream of mine which she does not support. She even wanted to pick out everthing about my character from entrance music to personality. She even gets mad when I dont go to bed at the same time as her, but why should I go to bed at 9:30 because her dad is a hypocrite jesus freak? She says she loves and trusts me but I don't know anymore. I am her 1st boyfriend so I think thats part of it too. Anyone have any advice for me?
I need help with an insanely jealous girlfriend
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Starman
Master Don Juan
wow this chick is insanely jealous.
If you want to fix this problem..you need to sit down and have a deep discussion about her insecure behavior. Tell her that her behavior has gotten you feeling trapped , and that you trust her 100%, but she doesnt seem to trust you one bit..and that concerns you.
Assure her you would never cheat on her. Ask her what exactly she thinks is the harm of watching wrestling, cartoons, etc? Why does she think watching this stuff will eventually lead you to cheat on her? you need to confront her irrationality on this.
Be senisitive but FIRM
If you want to fix this problem..you need to sit down and have a deep discussion about her insecure behavior. Tell her that her behavior has gotten you feeling trapped , and that you trust her 100%, but she doesnt seem to trust you one bit..and that concerns you.
Assure her you would never cheat on her. Ask her what exactly she thinks is the harm of watching wrestling, cartoons, etc? Why does she think watching this stuff will eventually lead you to cheat on her? you need to confront her irrationality on this.
Be senisitive but FIRM
I've already asked her about the wrestling and she usually says something like "because its other women" "why would you want to watch that" "they're prettier than me" She swears that the women show more than the men. I've tried talking to her about her jealousy before and she just says she can't help it and that she'll always be like that.
She doesn't sound like the type of person that can be reasoned with. Her actions arent logical at all, so an appeal to logic would probably be wasted. There's a couple of questions I'd be interested in.
Why do you like this girl?
What does she give to you?
How does she make your life better?
You've only presented one side of her, so the answers to those questions are important.
Why do you like this girl?
What does she give to you?
How does she make your life better?
You've only presented one side of her, so the answers to those questions are important.
-Zero_h0uR-
Senior Don Juan
I have a bad feeling that a long talk with her won't work.
It can't hurt you to try, I guess. Just keep your cool.
I'm gonna take a stab that you haven't read the DJ bible yet. Scroll back up, it's the in the upper right hand corner.
I know the last thing you wanna hear is "maybe it's time you LEFT your gf," but on this board, that's pretty much all you're gonna hear...
You have no control in the relationship, which basically means as soon as she finds a BBD (bigger, better deal) she's off, and you're alone.
As for you saying "she says she can't help her jealousy and she'll always be like that," even as someone who never read the Don Juan Bible before, doesn't that throw up a red flag to you?
Do you really want to be with someone who will NEVER trust you? Imagine 5 years from now, you two living together and her programming the TV so the only channel you could watch is PBS because that's the only non-sexual chanel on TV?!??!?
F THAT! I think it's time to move on, bro.
-- Zero-
It can't hurt you to try, I guess. Just keep your cool.
I'm gonna take a stab that you haven't read the DJ bible yet. Scroll back up, it's the in the upper right hand corner.
I know the last thing you wanna hear is "maybe it's time you LEFT your gf," but on this board, that's pretty much all you're gonna hear...
You have no control in the relationship, which basically means as soon as she finds a BBD (bigger, better deal) she's off, and you're alone.
As for you saying "she says she can't help her jealousy and she'll always be like that," even as someone who never read the Don Juan Bible before, doesn't that throw up a red flag to you?
Do you really want to be with someone who will NEVER trust you? Imagine 5 years from now, you two living together and her programming the TV so the only channel you could watch is PBS because that's the only non-sexual chanel on TV?!??!?
F THAT! I think it's time to move on, bro.
-- Zero-
Starman
Master Don Juan
who has the upper hand in this relationship? YOU DO.
Let me tell you...a girl that is THAT isecure..and that INSANELY jealous, will do ANYTHING you tell her, because she has a morbid fear of losing you.
You need to tell her that her jealousy is REALLLY putting a damper on the relationship..and while she cant "help" being jealous..you cant "help" staying around for something like this.
saying "I cant help it" is an immature response to not wanting to grow up and realistically evaluate a life situation. She is young. But you need to put your foot down and say this is just too damn ridiculous.
She will suddenly begin to "help" herself and her jealousy
Let me tell you...a girl that is THAT isecure..and that INSANELY jealous, will do ANYTHING you tell her, because she has a morbid fear of losing you.
You need to tell her that her jealousy is REALLLY putting a damper on the relationship..and while she cant "help" being jealous..you cant "help" staying around for something like this.
saying "I cant help it" is an immature response to not wanting to grow up and realistically evaluate a life situation. She is young. But you need to put your foot down and say this is just too damn ridiculous.
She will suddenly begin to "help" herself and her jealousy