I need help fellas.

[wjh]

OK.

This is serious.

I love my girlfriend. I'm in an LTR with a girl that I've had ups and downs with. She's really good looking but is probably an HB8.

Now, the kicker: I just saw the HOTTEST HB10 I have EVER seen/met walk into my office a few minutes ago. I talked business with her, and left it at that.

This whole week has been a hotty fest. I swear to GOD. I've seen maybe 5 ridiculously hot girls and talked to a couple (business). I live in Los Angeles - Maybe that's why, I have no idea. But never like this!

I need help! I don't know if I'm just lusting for something new, if I'm being a pig or what!

:crazy:

 

[TheSplat]

I guess it depends on how you really feel about your girlfriend. If you think that the two of you will end up married and HAPPY, then by all means, don't do anything stupid. But if she's not "the one" and is just a bullsh*t LTR, then go for the hotter girls.

 

[Interceptor]

I love my girlfriend.

This should have been enough. You're not lying to yourself, her and us are you??
Are you?

Sure, men don't stop having a sex drive and stop finding women attractive when they're in a relationship.
BUT...REAL Men know when to stop chasing, drooling, and ogling chicks when they're with the one they .....ahem......say they "LOVE."

It's ok to look at chicks when the Missus isn't there.
But at no time is it acceptable, when you're in a perfectly good monogamous relationship to try to "pick up" chicks. Or flirt.
Nope, I know you don't want to read that. But it's true.
If you can't respect a woman, and her love and a relationship, cut her loose.
And let a real, mature man have her.
'Cause guess what?
This may happen to you one day when she stops talking to you and is banging your best friend.

So if you want to ruin a good thing, go ahead and give in to your ego, lust, and lack of maturity.

Do that and you sir, are an a**hole. And deserves to get "Nexted" by her.

 

[Interceptor]

Only older and less informed men think they gotta stick with one girl..but if you're young..dude GO FOR WHAT YOU WANT.

If you're in love with a woman, and your woman is in love with you. And you believe in having a mongamous and exclusive relationship, how is that being "less informed"?
So, are you advocating cheating on the woman you love because KillaPeteHog says so?
Are you telling this guy to go for the hot babes, even though he is saying he is in LOVE with his GF?

If you're advocating maintaining several sexual relationships because he is too young to know what Love really is, and he is not mature enough to understand what a real monogamous relationship consists of...I agree. And I hinted at that.

But telling this kid to "Go for it!" when he IS already in a realtionship with a woman he LOVEs is F***ed up, and you should seriously rethink about who is "less informed" here.

 

[Interceptor]

LOL!
Ok, man.
That's what I was hoping you were saying, dude.

No probs.

I think we're both right.

 

[wjh]

Thanks guys for your responses.

First of all, let me just address my feelings for my gf:

I fell head over heels for her very quickly and she did for me. We couldn't get enough of each other. It was all the good things that I felt were indicative of the type of relationship I wanted to be in (assuming I was going to be in a relationship). And, because of that, I naturally never looked at other girls.

Unfortunately, problems arose. She lacked the ability/desire to deal with other guys and their advances. I think it may have to do with her being naive and being raised by parents who sheltered her from life. And I, because I don't deal with these types of things well, became more and more frustrated at the lack of growth and change. However, because I truly did love her, I stayed in the relationship to work these issues out with her.

There came trust issues. I didn't feel that she could go out and handle men and their advances. It truly degraded the quality of the relationship. I've met and dated women who did shoot guys down quickly and rather easily. For this girl it was an incredible challenge.

It's been the single biggest issue for me in this entire relationship. There are many detailed and specific instances that I could elaborate to communicate exactly where my frustration lies.

So back on topic.

I think I may need to end this relationship. I'm almost certain I am scarred and I don't know where the line needs to be drawn. I feel I've given this relationship a fair shot - and I've worked hard on many items... But issues persist.

I think I'm subconsciously looking at other girls because I don't think my relationship is going to work any more. I really don't think I'm happy. It makes me really, really sad. I loved this girl so much... And I don't know if she knows, or cares enough to understand, what the impact of her decisions has been on me.

I don't know if I even have it in me to try repair it any more.

 

[Last Man Standing]

Let me take a guess - you are putting your penis in her vagina!! If so, then she is just another hor - never be loyal to a hor - "G/F" = full-time hor!!!!

Only be loyal to your wife!!!