I Need Advice....i Think I Screwed Up

[infamousjedi]

so theres this girl who was in my class when i went to a junior college last semester. i always thought she was pretty attractive but i never talked to her cause i was afraid of rejection. i think the most i had talk 2 her was the can i borrow a pen. anyways, i transfered to another university and thought to move on to the better stuff. however one day i got an email from the girl saying how she wanted to how everyone was doing in our old class and how she got my email from old classmates. its funny cause i never gave out my email to anyone in the class before. . I sent an email back saying how i was and bs like that. It soon became and email tag. I told her we should talk. She gave me her number but i never called her. About a month and half later i emailed her back by lying to her saying how busy i was with things and i apologized/ She emailed me back saying she almost died in an car accident and crazy stuff like that. I finally grabbed some balls and emailed her saying we should hang out sometime so i left every possible contact from phone number to aim. about a week later she called me but i answered saying can i call u back i am studying for a midterms. sorry but i was stressed cause i had 2 midterms the next day. Well i didnt call back for a week and she didnt pick up. she did leave me and all her friends a text saying to pray for her dad whos having heart surgery. i sent her back a text saying i would pray for her. i called her on a sunday to see how her dad was doing and she said her dad passed away. i left her alone and emailed her later saying i would be there for her if she needed anything.she called me back a week later but i was in class. i tired to play the waiting game so i didnt call her back for 4 days/ the day i did call her we should hang out. she told me she was going to be visiting her best friend which happens to go 2 my college. well i told her i would call her on tues which is yesterday 2 confirm if she was coming down to my college. well i didnt call her back till 11 this morning. i left her a message saying if she came down and if she did would she want 2 grab some coffee. i didnt get any response at all from her today. i feel the problem is i took her forgranted. i felt as in she was interested in me because she did make the first move by contactiing me and she did agree to go out with me. I feel like i messed up. i might be overreacting since its the first day and the fact that i dont reallie know the situation. I am interested in her but i think me being taking her forgranted jacked everything up. so i am asking you what should i do or how should i approach this situation

 

[Cruise]

Wow. You're already having one-itis with a chick you're not even going out with, let alone haven't even interacted with in person.

Sorry to break it to you, but you're letting a number play out in your head waaaaaay too early to know if this'll even go anywhere. Hope for the best, but don't count on it. And even if it does, you're in dangerous territory of messing this up because you're JUST learning about DJ philosophy, and you're coming across as too desperate. In other words, you're in a state of mind that's almost a sureshot to why relationships break up due to the guy's fault.

However, if it just so happens that she calls you tomorrow, (watch those butterflies in your stomach)... you're really going to have to realize that you had better bring something of value for her to the table. And I'm not just talking about being her shoulder to cry on. Feel good about YOURSELF. Make sure something's going for you. And anything else... I guess I'll leave that up to any other respondents...

Carry on...

 

[blinkwatt]

She gave me her number but i never called her. About a month and half later i emailed her back by lying to her saying how busy i was with things and i apologized/ She emailed me back saying she almost died in an car accident and crazy stuff like that. I finally grabbed some balls and emailed her saying we should hang out sometime so i left every possible contact from phone number to aim.

Boy oh boy where to start.
1. She gave you her number,call her 2 or 3 three days later.
2. Women can detect liars,I personally never apologize,makes my "I'm sorry" worth more.
3. You should have dropped the emails at the first sign of attention,phone is better is face to face conversation is not available. Leaving her more then one form of contact is showing desperation.
4. Iam stopping here,it sounds like you are either,afraid of getting somewhere with women,or too focused on your school work for women.
Now dont apologize to anyone for this,a "failure,mishap,trouble" is a lesson learned.

 

[JonJack]

Apologise if you believe you've done something wrong. Well, first of all you've got to determine whether you did indeed do anything wrong. Maybe wrong is not the appropriate word here. It's more like you've done something that is not nice or insensitive or annoying. Just something that the girl may take as a negative. You too feel that it may be a negative. So, if you feel you were wrong, apologise. There's no two ways around this. Unless of course you don't want this girl anymore. In which case, forget about her.