i must have done somthing right

[wildchild]

all this info helped me get on better with people in every day life not just women. But i think not all women are the same because one night this happened

1: i was 16 and was out with my 5 friends who were all alot bigger stronger more outgoing than me
2) 2 girls came along one of which that my friend was seeing and her very attractive friend
3 i was depressed that nite n not very chatty and hadnt ever seen this website before
4 the girls friend tryed to set her up with one of my friends but she went for me even tho my friend was bigger more outgoing funnyer and i wasnt really saying anything
5 this girl is really attractive and ive been seein her for 2 years now and in that time ive changed so much why on earth did she go for me? comments?

 

[Blaaaaat]

Way to less info....

Are you rich?
do you look like Brad Pitt?
Do you got a big c0ck?
did you put a gun on her head?

What did you do, i want to know.

 

[legrandtango]

Happens sometimes. Women see a man they like and they just go for it. Happened to me b4. however at the time the fact that she was pursuing me so made me lose interest in her and i dumped her. well actually i tried to be so boring for a couple of weeks that i made her lose interest in me so when i ended it i think she wanted to end it to. Anyway we are still friends now whihc is cool.

 

[xblitz44x]

Wow, amazing. Guys do you hear this?? He didn't have to DO anything, play any games, or use any strategies. She ALREADY liked him. Wildchild, I hope you'll see that as a lesson. People are going to find you attractive, period. You just have to be real and sincere and the rest will take care of itself.

-Blitz

 

[FlyGuy]

If that's the case blitz, then I'm doomed because everytime I "don't do anything" I never get the girl.

Just because you get lucky sometimes doesn't mean it will always happen that way, or that you can't increase your odds of hooking up by working on your game. By "game" I mean everything - personal presentation, conversation skills, humor, confidence, etc. Dating is a skill that you can improve through work. Not all of us are good looking studs that naturally attract women without even trying.

 

[Quick]

She may have just thought you were cute. If you were the most attractive to her, it doesn't matter what you were doing. Also, whoever is different stands out. If all of your friends were being outgoing and funny, and you were sitting quietly, that made you the "different" one.

 

[Donny Brasco]

They say that girls go for guys who are like their dads.

So in my case I'm a stupid, ugly, drunkin loser with no job and a little nuts.

Could this be the reason?

 

[xblitz44x]

"By "game" I mean everything - personal presentation, conversation skills, humor, confidence, etc. Dating is a skill that you can improve through work. Not all of us are good looking studs that naturally attract women without even trying. -Flyguy

Looking good and being able to hold a conversation isn't 'game' in my book. They are just things that you do everyday. It goes along with who you are. I agree that you'll become BETTER at dating the more you do it, and pick up on patterns and signs, and become more comfortable. And maybe we all aren't good looking studs but we CAN naturally attract women without trying. The attraction part is the easy part. Yet the part that we all over complicate thinking that we can dictate one way or the other. When it's there, the dating 'skill', as you may call it, can take over and it's just a matter of crafting an opportunity, and making her feel comfortable enough to indulge in the attraction that is NATURALLY there.

-Blitz

 

[FlyGuy]

Looking good and being able to hold a conversation isn't 'game' in my book. They are just things that you do everyday. It goes along with who you are.

I disagree. These are not necessarily just a part of who you are. If that were true, I wouldn't have to work on these things, and neither would most of the guys at this website. Whether you learned your dating skills intuitively or by working on them, they are still skills that YOU have incorporated into yourself while others have not. I refer to these things as "game" to keep in mind that dating should be fun, and that it IS a game to most women.

Also, attraction for me has never been easy. I naturally did many things which made me less attractive to women.