i might have gone too far

[reversed]

Hey,

Ive been visiting this forum from time to time for the last year and now i got to a situation i would appreciate some input from you.

So.
A girl I made out with some 2 years ago when she had a boyfriend started messaging me like a week ago.. i guess on monday, i quickly found out that she doesnt have anybody anymore.
On friday we went to a club with her and some mutual friends/acquaintances.. we instantly kicked it off again and made out a couple of times throughout the night.
When we were leaving she told me to text her tomorrow because she "doesnt text first"(she texted me First anyway), she Said she feels like a whcre, which i assured her she is not.
So we were chatting a little bit and i was dropping some sexual inuendos, (probably went too far, considerinnhg her earlier "like a *****" message, even thouggh it was never direct or disgusting or whatever)
She even hinted i should not be so impetuous but for some reason i didnt get that in the moment..
So i planned to switch the game up and take her on a picknick, buying her a flower to ease her up a bit... but she cancelled monday, offered tuesday or saturday, im not in the city on saturday so i picked tuesday at three - she surely read it but didnt respond - its monday 11pm now..

Im not that interested in being in a relationship with her but shes hot and Id appreciate her as a fuvkbuddy since im kinda busy and dont wanna spend time dating right now..(and weve known each other for quite some time)

Im not sure if i pizzed her off or scared her away or what and dont know how to dribble it out..

So, what would you do to fix this? Ill appreciate any input, thanks in advance.

 

[Callmejoe]

Either you are leaving out some important details, or it sounds like she is a bit confused with herself.

Playing games "doesn't txt first" is childish. I am not sure she realizes that whors get paid, some extremely well, while sluts do it for free. She is probably conflicted between how she is supposed to behave and how she wants to behave. Sooner or later, she will decide to go with how she wants to. When she decides, it will be with whoever is closest at that moment.

Until she figures out what kind of girl she is (a slut), she is going to need a therapist more than a hook up. I can't say how long that will take, a day? A year?

Here is what I would do...go for broke, and have fun doing it, because if she says no, there are always other girls. The next time you can have a private conversation (not txt, not phone), I would say, "I've been thinking about what you said the other day, about feeling like a whr. What does a whr feel like?" And she'll say something. Then you say, "I'll tell you what, here is $1,000." Lay out 10 new $100 bills. "Let's have sex right now, and the money is yours. I'm serious. You can have it." This is something she is not going to expect, it will catch her off guard. She may take the offer. But more likely than not, she'll get all flustered (because she is conflicted. and is deep down a slut, not a whr), then you can ask her, "So why would you feel like a whr, when you obviously turned down a good offer?"

I've done experiments and found that most girls will sleep with someone they just met for the equivalent of 3 months salary or less (it is a bit more complicated than that, they must not fear getting caught for example). Since you are already her type, you can certainly get by with less. But she has already thought about sleeping with you, so you won't have to pay her for it.

 

[SgtSplacker]

Just ignore her for a little while, what i'd do at least...

 

[johnywhite17]

Either you are leaving out some important details, or it sounds like she is a bit confused with herself.

Playing games "doesn't txt first" is childish. I am not sure she realizes that whors get paid, some extremely well, while sluts do it for free. She is probably conflicted between how she is supposed to behave and how she wants to behave. Sooner or later, she will decide to go with how she wants to. When she decides, it will be with whoever is closest at that moment.

Until she figures out what kind of girl she is (a slut), she is going to need a therapist more than a hook up. I can't say how long that will take, a day? A year?

Here is what I would do...go for broke, and have fun doing it, because if she says no, there are always other girls. The next time you can have a private conversation (not txt, not phone), I would say, "I've been thinking about what you said the other day, about feeling like a whr. What does a whr feel like?" And she'll say something. Then you say, "I'll tell you what, here is $1,000." Lay out 10 new $100 bills. "Let's have sex right now, and the money is yours. I'm serious. You can have it." This is something she is not going to expect, it will catch her off guard. She may take the offer. But more likely than not, she'll get all flustered (because she is conflicted. and is deep down a slut, not a whr), then you can ask her, "So why would you feel like a whr, when you obviously turned down a good offer?"

I've done experiments and found that most girls will sleep with someone they just met for the equivalent of 3 months salary or less (it is a bit more complicated than that, they must not fear getting caught for example). Since you are already her type, you can certainly get by with less. But she has already thought about sleeping with you, so you won't have to pay her for it.

Dude, that's not only bad advice it's against the law. Not too mention flat out pathetic. To the OP, I don't know the girl or whole situation but if I were a betting man I'd say the picnic proposal took you from potential sex parnter to chump who feels the need to impress. I mean I don't think girls you're just getting to know deserve that kind of a gesture.

 

[reversed]

@callmejoe: haha. I would surely have a laugh doing that but this is a little too much
btw: she meant slvt but in my language we have the same words for paid girls and easy girls.. i assumed she just felt judged for her behavior or wanted to hear i respect her as a woman.. which i later failed at displaying.

Also when i called us going out a "date" earlier she Said "its no date" and when i asked what we were gonna call it she Said "nothing". I ignored this, since i figured shes just playing (and she continued being responsive.)

@sgtsplacker: yeah thats what i was gonna do but i thought Id rather ask someone experienced to handle it the best.(and learn something, most importantly)

 

[asa_don]

Hey,

Ive been visiting this forum from time to time for the last year and now i got to a situation i would appreciate some input from you.

So.
A girl I made out with some 2 years ago when she had a boyfriend started messaging me like a week ago.. i guess on monday, i quickly found out that she doesnt have anybody anymore.
On friday we went to a club with her and some mutual friends/acquaintances.. we instantly kicked it off again and made out a couple of times throughout the night.
When we were leaving she told me to text her tomorrow because she "doesnt text first"(she texted me First anyway), she Said she feels like a whcre, which i assured her she is not.
So we were chatting a little bit and i was dropping some sexual inuendos, (probably went too far, considerinnhg her earlier "like a *****" message, even thouggh it was never direct or disgusting or whatever)
She even hinted i should not be so impetuous but for some reason i didnt get that in the moment..
So i planned to switch the game up and take her on a picknick, buying her a flower to ease her up a bit... but she cancelled monday, offered tuesday or saturday, im not in the city on saturday so i picked tuesday at three - she surely read it but didnt respond - its monday 11pm now..

Im not that interested in being in a relationship with her but shes hot and Id appreciate her as a fuvkbuddy since im kinda busy and dont wanna spend time dating right now..(and weve known each other for quite some time)

Im not sure if i pizzed her off or scared her away or what and dont know how to dribble it out..

So, what would you do to fix this? Ill appreciate any input, thanks in advance.

:crackup:

you're wasting your time on a chick from 2 years ago?

she makes out with you behind the boyfriend's back, she doesn't feel like a wh0re, when she makes out with you now that she's single she feels like a wh0re? lol :crackup:

she was playing games back then, she is playing them again now, lose this chick bro, she aint worth it.